You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Julius_Seizeher said:Guys... they're all losers. I felt like a loser just watching 5 minutes of it.
A bunch of bums (supposedly grown men and women) who sleep til noon everyday, then eat trash food and go tanning, hit the gym, then take a nap before going to a club again. These people are fvcking WORTHLESS!
Look, the OP is from England, too. I absolutely DESPISE the fact that these POS people are depicted as Americans to the rest of the world.
Kerpal said:Are you sure? I don't recall him getting laid once the entire season. He just seems like a total loser also.
Pauly D and Vinny seemed pretty cool.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
well said...Rescue Mission said:so what?
They are living their life the way THEY want to, and THEY ENJOY IT! Do you have a problem with that? Do you want to control how these people live to make sure that they live by YOUR standards?
Do you see the problem with your thinking? It's not up to YOU to decide how someone else lives their life.
From what I saw on that show, these people are having tons of fun living life the way they live it - who is anyone to complain about that????
Rescue Mission said:so what?
They are living their life the way THEY want to, and THEY ENJOY IT! Do you have a problem with that? Do you want to control how these people live to make sure that they live by YOUR standards?
Do you see the problem with your thinking? It's not up to YOU to decide how someone else lives their life.
From what I saw on that show, these people are having tons of fun living life the way they live it - who is anyone to complain about that????
What? Are they really that old? That does put a bit of a different spin on things. I had assumed they were all around 22-24. As you say, they need to get their lives in order fairly quickly.They're also a bunch of 30 year old guys trying ot be 20 year olds with no lives and are losers.
zekko said:What? Are they really that old? That does put a bit of a different spin on things. I had assumed they were all around 22-24. As you say, they need to get their lives in order fairly quickly.
But I still think their lives resemble a lot of the advice given on this forum: Bulk up, have good self esteem, go to clubs, pick up random girls.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Mister T said:They're also a bunch of 30 year old guys trying ot be 20 year olds with no lives and are losers.
One wants to be or is a DJ the other wants to be a Veterinary Tech, the other was a sociology major ---- in other words in 2-3 more years their stupidity is going to cost them for the rest of their lives ha ha.
And you're a loser with no life. Feel free to kiss my :moon: at any point!Rescue Mission said:I swear, you are a complete ignorant fool.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.