Seriousguy88
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Some people might find it weird that anyone could be anxious about dating a woman after a divorce. I have been in a 5-year marriage that had more arguments than sweet moments. My ex-wife and I really tried to make our shaky relationship work, but eventually, we decided to part ways.
The end of our marriage made me anxious about getting in a serious relationship. This is why I feel unsure about dating someone who isn’t in the same country. My friends encouraged me to “get myself out there” and find someone. I was hesitant because of my worries, but I eventually enjoyed the casual dating. Then I was invited to an old colleague’s wedding. That’s when I heard about A Foreign Affair, and I immediately signed up.
I’ve talked to a few girls and found this one Colombian woman interesting. Her name is Lucia and she really caught my attention. She’s very passionate when it comes to her philosophical views which makes our conversations very exciting.
She’s also into art and music. Coming from a family that’s part Cuban, I can relate to some of the things that she’s into, which was a problem I had with my ex-wife. She knows about my divorce, but she doesn’t know what happened with my marriage. Should I tell her those details or should I just keep it a secret?
It’s not every day that I get to find someone like her, but I’m still scared about making things official. If it didn’t work out with someone who lives under the same roof, what assurance do I have that it’ll work out far away? I could visit her again someday on one of AFA’s tours, but what happens after? I need some advice on whether I should pursue what I have with Lucia or not. How do you make things work with someone that far? Will my divorce issues affect my future relationship with her?
The end of our marriage made me anxious about getting in a serious relationship. This is why I feel unsure about dating someone who isn’t in the same country. My friends encouraged me to “get myself out there” and find someone. I was hesitant because of my worries, but I eventually enjoyed the casual dating. Then I was invited to an old colleague’s wedding. That’s when I heard about A Foreign Affair, and I immediately signed up.
I’ve talked to a few girls and found this one Colombian woman interesting. Her name is Lucia and she really caught my attention. She’s very passionate when it comes to her philosophical views which makes our conversations very exciting.
She’s also into art and music. Coming from a family that’s part Cuban, I can relate to some of the things that she’s into, which was a problem I had with my ex-wife. She knows about my divorce, but she doesn’t know what happened with my marriage. Should I tell her those details or should I just keep it a secret?
It’s not every day that I get to find someone like her, but I’m still scared about making things official. If it didn’t work out with someone who lives under the same roof, what assurance do I have that it’ll work out far away? I could visit her again someday on one of AFA’s tours, but what happens after? I need some advice on whether I should pursue what I have with Lucia or not. How do you make things work with someone that far? Will my divorce issues affect my future relationship with her?