Anti Social?

[Jair213]

Just wanted to ask you guys. Is being anti social good? Whenever theres family partys or family gatherings I never really go. Maybe like once or twice a year.

The thing is growing up through elementary, middle school, and high school i always had friends. Through high school if i wouldnt have being so shy I would have had atleast 5 girl friends or more back in high school. Girls will try to hook me up with there girlfriends but i always try to hide because I was so shy. I dont know if being shy is a symptom of ''social anxiety'' and to be honest i think i suffer a bit from social anxiety.

I dropped out of high school because I didnt liked school at all. Football coach was upset because I was second string quarter back.

After I just had no interest in hanging out with friends. This all happened when i was living in los angeles. I then moved to stockton california with my parents when i graduated from continuation school in los angeles. Here its a really small town i made friends from the jobs that ive worked here. Ive being here in stockton for 8 years now but i never gone out with friends except like 2 times. I dont even try to developed friendships with the people ive met. I go to the gym but i like working out alone. I dont mined not having friends or being with people. I seriously dont feel lonely at all. I am happy the way I am. And honestly I could have a girlfriend if I wanted too. BUT the thing is i see you guys talking about ''social proof'' being so importand to a girl.

I am starting college this year. I am 26. I know its probably a bit late to start college. I am not interested in improving social skills or interacting with people because when i do have to talk i could carry my self good through a conversation I just dont prefer to be social. I dont know if that makes any sense? I think that being the way I am has helped me not to be desperate towards females.

I did have a girlfriend through the ages of 22 and 24. relationship lasted 2 years. conversations were great there was never no lack of social communication etc. I dont know maybe im just an introvert? But lets say i start hitting on girls and taking them out on dates would this affect me?

 

[Bokanovsky]

You are not "anti-social". You are just not very social. There a huge difference between the two. An anti-social person is someone who hates other people and eventually ends up being a mass shooter or a serial rapist or something. You are just a guy who likes to keep mostly to himself. There is nothing bad or abnormal about that.

 

[SeymourCake]

Being social is what gets the girls. They want someone social. After all, women love talking. Keep their attention focused by asking them questions.

Walk up and greet yourself to about 3 women this week, and double it up every week. They love it.

 

[Skyline]

You sound exactly like me bro, besides the sudden withdraw. And Bokanovskys right, Anti Social is something completely different.

For me its not really an issue starting and maintaining a convo, its just i dont reallly talk if i dont have to if that make sense.

However, ive had some luck with the mysterious factor. If i dont feel like talking i usually lead physically with few words said.
Less talk more action!

 

[1-800-HellNo]

Not showing up to stuff can actually help your game out. It adds to the mysterious vibe that girls crave.

My friends have a party every week, somewhere, and i rarely show up. I know when i'm not there they say "Where the hell is 800? He needs to be here!" and girls hear that.
When I do show up, people are really excited/surprised to see me, and give me a lot more attention. It's weird when I'm just walking in the door and a girl is on me with, "so you're that guy everyone's been talking about?"

I guess it goes back to the "indifference is key" stuff from the DJ Bible.

 

[fuzzball]

the correct term folks are looking for is "a-social"

 

[Mike32ct]

As an introvert, I prefer to talk one on one. I have zero interest in mingling with a big group.

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