JCballin88
Senior Don Juan
Hey folks,
Been reading a lot of threads related to this lately, and just wanted to throw some thoughts down here since I think I'm basically in a good position to finally lose the ole' v-card...
My basic back-story is that I was born & raised in an extremely conservative Christian home, where any kind of dating is supposed to be done only with intentions of marriage. My parents pretty much raised me thinking that the perfect pure Christian girl is going to fall out of the church ceiling and into the aisle next to me as long as I keep going to church and being faithful.
Anyways, I graduated with a four-year degree in May and am currently doing an internship, and things seem to be looking up. I've met a cute 20-year-old girl at my secondary job who took a mutual interest in me after a couple weeks. Basically we're at the point where we've fooled around pretty significantly, but haven't closed the deal yet. She's not exactly my ideal body type, but is still pretty and I would give her about a 7/10 overall.
I'm pretty sure I could hit the home run in the coming days if I really want to, but I think I'm pysching myself out a little bit. I feel like if I lose my v-card to this girl (who has had several previous partners), I'm going to regret it or feel a lot of shame or something. I still care a lot about my family (and I may have to move back in with them after this summer), but I think my parents are a big reason that my views on dating are kinda warped. I tried to date a few nice Christian girls in college, but it never worked out.
Another thing that kinda terrifies me is the threat of STDs. I always envisioned myself dating a nice good Christian girl and saving myself for a wedding night, but I'm jaded enough now that I realize that's pretty much a fantasy that is simply not possible these days. I 100% plan on using a condom, but I'm still nervous that after saving myself all these years, I'm going to screw it up on my first try! I don't think this girl would have any STDs, but I don't want to just straight-up ask.
Sorry this is long...but if anyone wants to chime in I'd appreciate it...Thanks
Been reading a lot of threads related to this lately, and just wanted to throw some thoughts down here since I think I'm basically in a good position to finally lose the ole' v-card...
My basic back-story is that I was born & raised in an extremely conservative Christian home, where any kind of dating is supposed to be done only with intentions of marriage. My parents pretty much raised me thinking that the perfect pure Christian girl is going to fall out of the church ceiling and into the aisle next to me as long as I keep going to church and being faithful.
Anyways, I graduated with a four-year degree in May and am currently doing an internship, and things seem to be looking up. I've met a cute 20-year-old girl at my secondary job who took a mutual interest in me after a couple weeks. Basically we're at the point where we've fooled around pretty significantly, but haven't closed the deal yet. She's not exactly my ideal body type, but is still pretty and I would give her about a 7/10 overall.
I'm pretty sure I could hit the home run in the coming days if I really want to, but I think I'm pysching myself out a little bit. I feel like if I lose my v-card to this girl (who has had several previous partners), I'm going to regret it or feel a lot of shame or something. I still care a lot about my family (and I may have to move back in with them after this summer), but I think my parents are a big reason that my views on dating are kinda warped. I tried to date a few nice Christian girls in college, but it never worked out.
Another thing that kinda terrifies me is the threat of STDs. I always envisioned myself dating a nice good Christian girl and saving myself for a wedding night, but I'm jaded enough now that I realize that's pretty much a fantasy that is simply not possible these days. I 100% plan on using a condom, but I'm still nervous that after saving myself all these years, I'm going to screw it up on my first try! I don't think this girl would have any STDs, but I don't want to just straight-up ask.
Sorry this is long...but if anyone wants to chime in I'd appreciate it...Thanks