"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Another social worker? Facepalm.

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Von_S said:
For me the lame jobs women gravitate to are school teachers. Elementary school teachers, I've been on more dates with 4th grade teachers than I can even count. They spent 6 years in college to make 40k a year and deal with sh!thead kids all day and then they get this "teachers are heroes" horsesh!t, give me a break. Not to mention the fact most teachers know very little about the actual material and the US education system is basically daycare.

I get why a woman wants this job, it's basically part time motherhood with a paycheck, fine, but don't sell me on this "building our future" garbage, 'cause I know 90% of them are just reading from a book and will quit that job the second they have a kid of their own.
I just wanted to make you feel worse. In California, I dated a teacher who made $75,000 a year, and was a pot head. She rambled so much it was hard to follow a conversation. I asked her if the rambling affected her performance at work. First, she laughed because the question was so honest, then replied, "sometimes."

This is one of my favorite threads. It also explains why women are outnumbering men in college.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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