"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Another Six Months... Are You With Me

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bbestar said:
Atleast give some time to think about it, how it will affect you weeks and months from now.
well it would have been nice if i made it, but i caved in and lost it.... nothing to debate......on top of that, this is a bad time for me to start doing this, i'm starting a buisness and i'm stressed and scared and I need some comfort.... I might start again at the end of this month...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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--6th June to 24th December--
Day 4/202


spider, what business you starting man? Anyway, there's always excuses, but the best time is now.

I blew it twice since I started, but I just get up again. I know how crappy it is to keep losing it, but I'm determined to solve this and don't want to have to put it on my 2007 resolutions list so I'm gonna solve this and get right with God.
 

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This smacks of puritanism and self-loathing. If you think excessive masturbation is hurting your chances, why not restrict yourself until you've got 20 numbers or approaches or something then treat yourself to a great big pornathon.Nautica Thorn, she's my favorite (and coincidentally looks quite similar to my new girlfriend).

The most positive aspect of masturbation (besides the pleasant feeling) is that you can use it as an opportunity to practice control.
 

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Nighthawk said:
This smacks of puritanism and self-loathing. If you think excessive masturbation is hurting your chances, why not restrict yourself until you've got 20 numbers or approaches or something then treat yourself to a great big pornathon.Nautica Thorn, she's my favorite (and coincidentally looks quite similar to my new girlfriend).

The most positive aspect of masturbation (besides the pleasant feeling) is that you can use it as an opportunity to practice control.
control? if you can't even resist the urge to look at porn and wank, you want to talk about bigger things? oh wait, you say "bah how hard can it be, well give it a try".

Beyond spiritual cleansing, there are practical aspects to not wanking, see the original thread by pendo and read how people's lives became more constructive.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No I say 'bah that sounds difficult and pointless.'

I feel spiritually cleansed after ejaculation, not by abstaining from it. I don't feel guilty about it, although I have barely had a chance lately. Like I say, by all means cut down, but I see no reason to torture yourself over something fun and natural. Lot of Catholics in this thread I reckon.
 
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