"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Another short one...lol

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So over the past year i have gotten very good at number closing then F closing girls i meet at nighty clubs without even taking them on a date..lol fun? yeah i guess but i want a "good woman" out of this..

All i get is F buddies and 3 week fake relationships.

My most recent one that ended unoficially yesterday went like this:

1. met her at night club got number HB 7.7 serority girl
2. she ignored me for 1 week
3. she answered and chatted for 5 mins.
4. i called her at 11pm 4 days later to kickit lol she came over and i F closed in 1 hour.
5. we agreed to hang out again.
6. she texted and called every day
7. Flaked on me 2 days later at the last minute
8. came over 2 days later we Fed then hung out and she asked if we are together i said yeh, had talk about expectations and likes and disslikes etc.
9. she was acting cool but flaked again wen she was to come over after work one night..lol
10. came ove 2 days later we Fed and she said she loves me..lol i said nothing.
11. she falls really ill with the flu and i treat her too good by showing that i car on visits etc.
12. she recovers after 1 week and is now a different person. no calls no texts and ignores my calls and answers half my texts with one word answers
13. So last night after not seeing her for 4 days i texted her, she said she missed me so i said i would come see her after work se said ok. im on my way to her house she texts me asking if im on my way? and before i can respond she says she has to study so i cant come over. im already driving down her street so i call and say that. she comes to gate and wont let me in says to give her a hug and leave (right then i know its over) I tell her we aint seen in 4 days she says she is too busy and starts getting very very agitated..lol eventually i get her to sit in my car but she wont act cool.. she give a week hug and kiss and hops out..

It lasted 3 weeks minus the week she was ill...lol oh well:(
I deleted her number from my phone so that i wont call her or text her at all. im kind of sad cause she seemed like a cool chic..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DonGorgon said:
All these relationships go the same way, its like females compress a relationship that should last 3 years down into 3 weeks..lol
STOP TRYING TO WIFE UP FEMALES IN CLUBS

I'm gonna try and keep this short, but stop trying to wife up girls from clubs. I see lot of guys fall into this trap, hell I even fell into this myself. You can screen out the AW's and think you found a good girl, but guranteed she is gonna be a club rat. I met a chick a year ago in the field, nothing special, average chick, she goes to school, had a great personality. But she couldn't remain on my roster you know why? she is to busy catering to her friends and partying. On top of that she just turned 21 and wants me to chase her(tries to make me jealous with her "guy" friends aka orbiters, play these power struggle games), thank God I've been through this situation a million times, I said F it, It's not worth it, if she is really into me she would cooperate and be compliant (sp) but I saw that she wanted to be "wifed" up but still live the college life and be a "party girl" can't have ya cake and eat it too knamean?

My point is, these chicks ain't looking for a relationship MOST of the time at the club, just like dudes ain't. Some chicks looking to "cop n blow"(hit n run) just like dudes these days. It's hard to even find a quality chick @ a club. How is this chick gonna say she loves you after a week or so? and you never took her out? I can also see your problem you hit so fast, and hell belive it or not but even chicks lose interest. The chicks that stuck around for me have been the once that I never tried to hit fast. THis drives them crazy, because chicks are so used to cats trying to get in them panties fast. That when they meet a dude who isn't it throws them off kilter. But in essence for me this lets the chick know she has to work for me, and I have no problem keeping those chicks around.

The thing is also you gotta find chicks doing what you do, whether its true social circle game (the best IMO) or living your life doing your favorite hobbies (working out, jazz club, dancing) if clubbing is your favorite thing to do, then you gonna get a chick with a club mentlaity. Does it mean there arent chicks in clubs that can be wifed up? sure but its hell far and slim in between

Trust me I know

Solo
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Don - I know im new here, but im going to ask you to trust me.

That whole "my phone was dead" thing is unlikely. "Moving moving blah blah." A big, "yeah right" goes out to her.

I wouldn't be so quick to jump on the "she's a lier" bandwagon, but this is a girl that has flaked on you multiple times.

Are you too available Don? You seem like you're just going with "her" flow. She flakes - it's fine with you as long as she shows up 2 days later.

It seems very much like she is controlling this show. Don't you want to be the director? Don't you want to decide how it ends? Or even if it's going to be a romance, mystery, or god forbid a... horror?

I'm not one of these guys who says "you need to be less available and always be busy". Etc... But i am one of these guys who says, "control her or be controlled" ... There's no equal rights here... Someone will control the other... And that person has all the power... The power to flake... The power to get flucked when they want... And the power to make the other one sad that it's over after 3 weeks.

"I love you" after a few weeks?
Run my man. Run!
 

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John_Valido said:
Don - I know im new here, but im going to ask you to trust me.

That whole "my phone was dead" thing is unlikely. "Moving moving blah blah." A big, "yeah right" goes out to her.

I wouldn't be so quick to jump on the "she's a lier" bandwagon, but this is a girl that has flaked on you multiple times.

Are you too available Don? You seem like you're just going with "her" flow. She flakes - it's fine with you as long as she shows up 2 days later.

It seems very much like she is controlling this show. Don't you want to be the director? Don't you want to decide how it ends? Or even if it's going to be a romance, mystery, or god forbid a... horror?

I'm not one of these guys who says "you need to be less available and always be busy". Etc... But i am one of these guys who says, "control her or be controlled" ... There's no equal rights here... Someone will control the other... And that person has all the power... The power to flake... The power to get flucked when they want... And the power to make the other one sad that it's over after 3 weeks.

"I love you" after a few weeks?
Run my man. Run!
You are very right... i stopped playing the game cause she said she loved me.. so i wanted to give her a chance to prove it.. I am too available only cause i wanted to believe that this was really a good thing..

She does not return calls or texts even though she claims she still wants to be with me.. she is just playing around so i have deleted her number so that i can no longer contact her..
 

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DonGorgon said:
lol. guess what she is back ..lol turns out .. "her phone was dead and she was moving into a new house..lol all if well now..hahaha
roflmao i bet she had some other guy in the house when she wouldnt let you come in lol!
 

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Prodigy746 said:
roflmao i bet she had some other guy in the house when she wouldnt let you come in lol!
Yeh that is what i am thinkin..

anyway.. update so i was with her sunday night and she acted like everything was ok, she even introduced me to her mom and gave me a tour of her new house and made out with me on her new bed..lol.. then bam!!! nothing after that.. no call no text nothing.. i called and texted got no response all week.. oh one time she said i cant see you cause i have to study.... after that nothing..

So its done she is using the silence break up method..lol

oh well easy come easier go..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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