Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Another Sat Night, & I Aint't Got Nobody

Bible_Belt

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Tonight is the 4th of July. It seems like everyone has a family event to attend, except me. All of the girls I talk to have family stuff to do.

And that's the price you're going to pay if you want to be fvcking a half-dozen women or so at a time. Obviously, you're not that close to any of them, so you get ignored on holidays.

That is, in my eyes anyway, an important part of the idea of plate-spinning. When everyone else needs someone to be with, like on a holiday, you have to be ok with being alone. That's the price of fvcking a lot of women at once. You always have to be ok with being alone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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El Payaso

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Lol. True.
 

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there's countless open clubs/bars tonight full of single lonely women who are even more drunk and DTF because of the holiday
 

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This coming from somebody who has been on ss for ten years. You of all people should understand if you can't be happy alone, you can't be happy with others. Don't sit alone on a Saturday night, go out for a drink, chat with some strangers, meet new people. And if you don't feel like doing any of that, watch a movie or have fun by yourself. F
 

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MidnightCity said:
So you've been on ss since you were 7? Talk about a head start
He is talking about OP.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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zinc4

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Banging multiple plates at the same time over a long period of time becomes very empty quickly and is ultimately a little sad and pathetic IMO...its just freakin pointless after a while.....give me one good really loyal super hot chick over the numerous plates I was spinning for a while anyway...

When it comes down to....plates are nothing.

They are only good for keeping your options open while pursuing a new quality chick and great of course for young inexperienced guts who just need to sow wild oats...but as a man..
Having a bunch of plates for a long time is empty as hell.
 

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MidnightCity said:
So you've been on ss since you were 7? Talk about a head start
There is no doubt that you're an idiot
 

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This all takes on a different light when you're raised as an isolated child. I didn't have Christmas, birthday parties, Thanksgiving, or anything that implied "family time". All those holidays were spent alone and were meaningless for years, so spending them alone as an adult isn't a big deal to me. I suppose if you're raised with big family celebrations and having friends over for birthdays and stuff, it's implied that this is what holidays are about.
 

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Wisconsin144 said:
This coming from somebody who has been on ss for ten years. You of all people should understand if you can't be happy alone, you can't be happy with others.
I think that was his whole point. I'm sure he fully he understands this.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
you have to be ok with being alone. That's the price of fvcking a lot of women at once. You always have to be ok with being alone.
Well it's not like OP didn't already acknowledge this fact. Wasn't that the point of this thread?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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El Payaso

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Wisconsin144 said:
This coming from somebody who has been on ss for ten years. You of all people should understand if you can't be happy alone, you can't be happy with others. Don't sit alone on a Saturday night, go out for a drink, chat with some strangers, meet new people. And if you don't feel like doing any of that, watch a movie or have fun by yourself. F
He already said this. No need to berate the point.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
plate-spinning. [...] That's the price of fvcking a lot of women at once. You always have to be ok with being alone.
Hold up OP. Where is your primary? The one who lets you spin plates and accepts you anyway.
 

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Desdinova said:
This all takes on a different light when you're raised as an isolated child. I didn't have Christmas, birthday parties, Thanksgiving, or anything that implied "family time". All those holidays were spent alone and were meaningless for years, so spending them alone as an adult isn't a big deal to me. I suppose if you're raised with big family celebrations and having friends over for birthdays and stuff, it's implied that this is what holidays are about.
Nope me either, but being raised as a Jehovah's Witness can lead to all sorts of phobias, guilt, judgmental and dysfunctional ideas about normal people, isolation and in my case panic attacks and ocd after someone very close to me died from not taking blood, really did a number on me. Wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
 
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