Me and my GF had that argument yesterday and she hanged up on me.I had no reaction actually.then she sent me a message tellin me that i dont respect er at all and when i know how to respect her i should call her.so at night i tried to call her but she didnt answer and she told me if u wanna talk to me make it via sms so i kept smsing but all her answers was i dnt wanna talk to anyone 2day and if u want 2 know anthing to ask that friend of hers.so i called her friend and she told me that there was no big deal she just complained about how i treat her.so i sent her a message later tellin her that she can call whenever she feels like it i wont force her and i apologized for being mean to her alothough i wasnt and her friend agreed with me on this.she hadnt called till now(PS.im 100%sure she loves me and she's highly interested in me).What should i do playas and if i answer her what should the convo be like.THANKS
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Another problem with LTR GF
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
spider_007
Master Don Juan
you'r a dumby,
so she is like; "you don't treat me good, so call me" and when you call she is like "sms me" and when you do that, she is like; "oh i don't feel like talking to anybody today talk to my freind" and when you call her frend you find out it's all notting.
you dumby, she has you wraped around her finger.
you'r a man, you don't take no drama like athat, should have told her; "you got a problem, eather call me or talk to me in person and I'll hear you out, and we'll discuss it, if not, piss off, I don't want no stupid drama in my life, i got better things to do."
honest, strait forward, no bullsh1t, and manly.
so she is like; "you don't treat me good, so call me" and when you call she is like "sms me" and when you do that, she is like; "oh i don't feel like talking to anybody today talk to my freind" and when you call her frend you find out it's all notting.
you dumby, she has you wraped around her finger.
you'r a man, you don't take no drama like athat, should have told her; "you got a problem, eather call me or talk to me in person and I'll hear you out, and we'll discuss it, if not, piss off, I don't want no stupid drama in my life, i got better things to do."
honest, strait forward, no bullsh1t, and manly.
Qmanchoo
Don Juan
Kidman.
I want you to ask yourself a question.
When the drama started. When she hung up on you to test you're interest level and how much she owned you. When you started to get irritated and pissed or annoyed and wanted to choke the *****. When she didn't reply to any of your text’s or calls and it brought you to the edge so that you had to come here and post....
What did your gut tell you all along?
Part of being a man is not putting up with drama and if it feels wrong 99% of the time it usually is. You have to put your foot down. The initial reaction by a girl will be to get pissed or irritated because she doesn't have control and she's defaulting to the only emotions she knows to gain control. But later on once that wears off you'll find they respect you more.
How to handle this in the future? Follow spiders advice to an extent (you don't have to be so harsh to get he point across imo) and follow the standard rule of "call her once for every 2 times she calls you" especially in these situations, forces you to stay indifferent if you're on the edge of being a girly man.
The real problem is that you can’t “try to put your foot down” and be consistent in doing it if “I don’t put up with this bull****” is not a place you’re coming from internally. Usually it comes from having a lot of GF’s and one day getting fed up with the BS. Then, and usually only then, will you be able to predictably put your foot down and be a man in these situations. If’ you’re “trying” you’ll eventually slip imo.
I want you to ask yourself a question.
When the drama started. When she hung up on you to test you're interest level and how much she owned you. When you started to get irritated and pissed or annoyed and wanted to choke the *****. When she didn't reply to any of your text’s or calls and it brought you to the edge so that you had to come here and post....
What did your gut tell you all along?
Part of being a man is not putting up with drama and if it feels wrong 99% of the time it usually is. You have to put your foot down. The initial reaction by a girl will be to get pissed or irritated because she doesn't have control and she's defaulting to the only emotions she knows to gain control. But later on once that wears off you'll find they respect you more.
How to handle this in the future? Follow spiders advice to an extent (you don't have to be so harsh to get he point across imo) and follow the standard rule of "call her once for every 2 times she calls you" especially in these situations, forces you to stay indifferent if you're on the edge of being a girly man.
The real problem is that you can’t “try to put your foot down” and be consistent in doing it if “I don’t put up with this bull****” is not a place you’re coming from internally. Usually it comes from having a lot of GF’s and one day getting fed up with the BS. Then, and usually only then, will you be able to predictably put your foot down and be a man in these situations. If’ you’re “trying” you’ll eventually slip imo.
Desdinova
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Women like playing this card to get their own way. They'll pull the "If you don't do this, I'm leaving" or "Call me when you do that". They love having their emotional 5hit fits. When this happens, don't play into it. Just say, "Allright" and let her go. She'll most likely break down and come back.
It's just like when she gets mad and threatens to go home. Let her go. She'll see that you're not chasing her out the door and suddenly realize she's making a mistake.
If she knows you'll be fine without her, she'll come back. It sounds stupid, but women enjoy spending an eternity trying to get their man to need them. They love the challenge.
It's just like when she gets mad and threatens to go home. Let her go. She'll see that you're not chasing her out the door and suddenly realize she's making a mistake.
If she knows you'll be fine without her, she'll come back. It sounds stupid, but women enjoy spending an eternity trying to get their man to need them. They love the challenge.
squirrels
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Were you right?
Were you disrespecting her?
You let her dictate to YOU how and when you should talk to her...
...and she STILL disrepects you??
You let her dictate to you who you should talk to and how you should find things out about her...
...and YOU apologized...
...even though you did nothing wrong...
...which her FRIEND AGREES you didnt?!
Let's review:
-You did nothing wrong
-You weren't disrespectful
-Her FRIEND, another GIRL, AGREES you weren't disrespectful
-She hung up on you
-She told you to text instead of calling her, which like a little b!tch, you did
-She told you to crawl to her friend, which like a little b!tch you did
The damage is done.
When she hung up on you, you should've said "f**k it" and wait for her to call YOU back. You didn't. WHen she said, "don't call me, text me", you should've put your foot down and said if she wants to talk to you to talk voice. Instead you kept texting her. When she said to talk to her friend, you should've told her that was BS and if she couldn't talk to you herself, then you didn't want to talk at all. You went and talked to her friend.
Time to set some damn boundaries. Be a MAN!
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Reg Flag!
squirrels pretty much put it right.
Overall though... NEVER give in to their drama outbursts! You were NOT in the wrong, so therefore, you have no need to suck up to her, nor let her control you! You let her walk over you now, and she will do so for the rest of the time that you spend together. DONT let that happen! Make sure that she knows that she better think twice before acting in the manner in which she did on this occasion towards you! stand your ground, be a man, and she will come to respect you, as appose to thinking that she can walk all over you (which she is doing at the moment), so if you want to carry on being her punching bag, then carry on acting the way you are, if you want to change things, then its up to YOU to change them!
Laterz...
squirrels pretty much put it right.
Overall though... NEVER give in to their drama outbursts! You were NOT in the wrong, so therefore, you have no need to suck up to her, nor let her control you! You let her walk over you now, and she will do so for the rest of the time that you spend together. DONT let that happen! Make sure that she knows that she better think twice before acting in the manner in which she did on this occasion towards you! stand your ground, be a man, and she will come to respect you, as appose to thinking that she can walk all over you (which she is doing at the moment), so if you want to carry on being her punching bag, then carry on acting the way you are, if you want to change things, then its up to YOU to change them!
Laterz...
flyinshark
Senior Don Juan
I agree with the guys above. I think you were pretty weak to do everything your gf told you to do. Your mom tells you what to do and what not to do, NOT your girlfriend. You showed signs of desperation, and i am not sure your gf found that sexy.
It is HER TURN to call you this time. Please, for your sake, do not call or sms until she does it first. When she does, you need to act detached. Good luck!
It is HER TURN to call you this time. Please, for your sake, do not call or sms until she does it first. When she does, you need to act detached. Good luck!