"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Another post about POF..
- Thread starter OrokuSaki
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
HumbleNinja
Banned
Depends on how good you look and dumb sht you may send that chicks respond to.OrokuSaki said:
Talking to two 24 yos. Another 37yo. Met one of the 24yos. going out with her again on Friday. The other one wants to meet. Seen multiple pics to my cell of both..as well as the other 37 yo who wanted to meet up for drinks. (Couldn't as was working)
Talked to and got the number of a midget chick too. lol. She's pretty cool. I've talked to chicks who were parapalegic on there different races..all kinds for the hell of it. Either stop talking to them as I get bored or I get their numbers, get bored and delete them.
Other dudes have met chicks off there.
Or is this "question" simply a thinly veiled "Attack" on those who use online dating as a side thing for the hell of it?
Yes most are low quality. But the few I keep talking to seem ok. Not expecting to find girlfriend or wife material online. No one should.
HyperAnalyze
Don Juan
I have met up with some girls, not too bad, seemed normal but they wanted a relationship. Something I wasn't interested in at the time.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
HyperAnalyze
Don Juan
Ahh..... yes.... haha
I wish I lived there.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
That does help lol, but its also what you say too, how you look, your profile, everything goes into it. Ive had tons of complements on my profile because its funny and light hearted. My picture are typical douchebag shirtless pictures(Which im not but portray it) and i look good, so for me it all comes together smoothly.HyperAnalyze said:
I can use hey, and get a response from an average, i use it on a hot chick not gonna happen, then i need to step it up, false disqualify then ask a question...it basically requires a response. or i just go direct, it depends on the girl and what im feeling.
You described online dating perfectly"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.