Another OkCupid fail.

[.Paradox.]

Not that I haven't gone through this same crap a thousand times, but here's another apparent failure...

Went out with a 26 y/o chick from OkCupid last Sunday night. Seemed to go pretty well. There were a few spots where we seemed to have nothing to say in the two hours we were together, but I had her laughing quite a bit. Kissed her at the end. Seemed like she wasn't ready for it to be honest, but I didn't get a head turn.

Shot her a text after the date saying it was fun and we should hang out again soon. She responded by saying: "It was fun! Yes definitely."

Waited till today and texted her inviting her for wine "this weekend" (didn't specify a day). I actually just got a text back (two hours later) saying: "Hey *name*! Unfortunately I will be out of town this weekend in *area*. Thank you for thinking of me though!" Lol. No reciprocation or obvious interest. Almost sounds like I'm her business partner or something. Fail.

This is going to make me look like sh!t, but before the date she seemed reeeaaally interested...

-On OkCupid SHE was the one who said we should grab drinks
-Sexual texts (saying she's a bad girl, pic exchange, etc.)
-Said Sunday night was "perfect " when I suggested it.

Only negative was her saying I'm too young for her.

Kinda think I shouldn't have agreed to drinks and instead should have said we should just do wine at my/her place...

EDIT: All I texted back was: "Ahh cool. Have fun in *area*"

 

[Jhcl4000]

Dont beat yourself up over this.

If a girl wants to phuck, then she would hint at the thought. You're both grown, aint nobody got time for the mind games and critically analyzing whether she wants to go back to your house and smash or not. Im not saying that you should have expected her to be overly sexual, but at her age, if she wanted sex, there are definite ways to suggest it to let the guy know. As you said, she didn't invite you back to her place and didn't even seen receptive to the kiss so what the phuck can you do?

Some girls text, send noods, but if she hasn't indicated that she wanted the dyck when you met up with her. Being too aggressive could have landed you in another situation all together. Thats how motherphuckers get rape charges filed on them.

We're men and yes we're suppose to be assertive in all situations, BUT we're still at the mercy of a female in some ways. Had you pressured her to have sex and she didn't, she would have called you aggressive and demanding.

 

[Driggs]

Always, always at least kiss her. If she leans away from you wait a minute and then do it again. If they give you the cheek, kiss the cheek and neck.

 

[apprenticedj]

Given the awkward moments of silence it seems that there was a basic lack of chemistry. She might have been feeling you online but IRL version of you wasn't what she wanted. No big deal. Then when you went for the kiss she got uncomfortable and that's why she is declining an invitation without a counter offer to reschedule.

NEXT! She's not interested my friend.

 

[Tictac]

When texts, emails and calls resemble greeting cards, time to move on.

 

[like2jam]

Thank you for thinking of me though? hahah wow. That's like friendzone material there. I'd next so fast.

When a woman is interested, truly interested ( which is what you want ) it will be pretty obvious and she'll be suggesting when and where you two can see each other again.

 

[evan12]

Not that I haven't gone through this same crap a thousand times, but here's another apparent failure...

Went out with a 26 y/o chick from OkCupid last Sunday night. Seemed to go pretty well. There were a few spots where we seemed to have nothing to say in the two hours we were together, but I had her laughing quite a bit. Kissed her at the end. Seemed like she wasn't ready for it to be honest, but I didn't get a head turn.

Shot her a text after the date saying it was fun and we should hang out again soon. She responded by saying: "It was fun! Yes definitely."

Waited till today and texted her inviting her for wine "this weekend" (didn't specify a day). I actually just got a text back (two hours later) saying: "Hey *name*! Unfortunately I will be out of town this weekend in *area*. Thank you for thinking of me though!" Lol. No reciprocation or obvious interest. Almost sounds like I'm her business partner or something. Fail.

This is going to make me look like sh!t, but before the date she seemed reeeaaally interested...

-On OkCupid SHE was the one who said we should grab drinks
-Sexual texts (saying she's a bad girl, pic exchange, etc.)
-Said Sunday night was "perfect " when I suggested it.

Only negative was her saying I'm too young for her.

Kinda think I shouldn't have agreed to drinks and instead should have said we should just do wine at my/her place...

EDIT: All I texted back was: "Ahh cool. Have fun in *area*"

I used to pass in these senarious a lot , it is not your fault , they just found you are not what they are looking for , online women date 3 times a week when they are serious in finding some one , so they dont have a time to do it twice for any one unless they find something worth.

 

[.Paradox.]

Honestly, when I look back the entire date was f*cked up and she was a bit of a b!tch.

She beat me there and sat at the bar rather than in one of the two empty dining room areas with tables. This wouldn't usually be a problem, but the bar area had quite a few people talking and eating, as well as several t.v's. Not only are the barstools uncomfortable and awkward, but all the people and sh!t around is distracting as hell--especially for two relatively nervous people just meeting for a first date. The area also made escalating a b!tch. Kissing/getting sexual with a girl in a place with people all around is muuuuuch different than in a place where you two are alone (which is why we always say to pull girls to a secluded area and get her comfortable to make a move). I actually wanted to go to the dining room and told the bartender we were moving, but he said we couldn't because they were sweeping the floors or some sh!t. Wtf? That f*cked me even further. If I could've gotten her to the empty dining room I would've told her to sit next to me and could've tested the waters and made it a LOT more sexual.

On top of that, she actually checked her phone to text her GF several times because (apparently) her GF was on a bad date and wanted my girl to come "save her." Bad manners for a first f*cking date. She then insisted on paying for her own drinks, and when we were about to part ways stuck out her arm for a sh!tty hug (which is when I kissed her and she didn't even try). And she wasn't NEAR as sexual as I thought she would be (after exchanging flirty texts and her sending me a nude ass pic).

F*ck I did my best.