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Another Match.com "White Knight" disaster!

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I posted this in the other forum..Interesting read from the NY Post yesterday.


Dating-site nerd ‘scams’ 250G from lonely divorcee

Let this be a warning to lonely ladies of a certain age.
An East Village Romeo who passed himself off as a globetrotting NFL exec is accused of ripping off a beautiful, love-struck divorcee to the tune of a quarter-million dollars.
As he allegedly fleeced her and at least one other woman while posing as an accomplished 40-year-old winner, accused con man John Egan was, in reality, a fat, prematurely gray, 32-year-old sports nut and professional loser who lived with his parents on Avenue C, compulsively trolling the Web. * (He of course is ‘ugly’, she is “beautiful. lol)Now, Egan is the subject of a Manhattan District Attorney's Office investigation. The DA plans to seat a grand jury early next month on grand-larceny charges, said a law-enforcement source.

For beautiful Thea Miller, it may be too late. The San Francisco divorcee claims she was financially ruined and emotionally devastated by the beguiling grifter she met online.
"I was naive," Thea admitted.
Over a period of months starting in 2007, Egan is accused of running up Miller's credit-card bill to nearly $250,000, spending tens of thousands on sports tickets, including Mets-vs.-Yankees ducats from Razorgator.com.
He also allegedly bought up more than $80,000 in sports memorabilia, including baseballs, bats and gloves signed by Derek Jeter, a $1,799.99 Michael Jordan Team USA jersey, and a $1.149.99 Tiger Woods photo from the 1997 Masters Tournament, from Steiner Sports.
That's not to mention two diamond rings and a pair of sapphire earrings from Tiffany's, cases of wine and pricey meals.
All of the items were shipped to his parents' address -- with him often paying an extra $25 for rush shipment.
Yet, bizarrely, Miller and Egan never met in the flesh.
For two years, Egan sent e-mails and text messages -- but no photos -- to Miller, sometimes also calling her 10 times a day. He promised to take her to Giants football games and charity events. Each time, he'd abruptly cancel their date, claiming his mother was sick or he had a business emergency.
"He charmed me," said Miller, now 52, who sells high-end real estate. "He said he loved his mother, grew up in a big Catholic family. He was very sweet. I figured I'd meet him when I'd meet him. I wasn't in a hurry.
"I was falling in love." (* Because she thought he was loaded and involved in the NFL as an executive.)Now, Miller is paying for it. She has had to sell her house and pull her teenage son from private school to make ends meet. She peddled some valuable antiques and moved into an apartment, struggling to pay off the massive debt she incurred, allegedly thanks to Egan.

Her lawyer, Michael Galluzzi, this year filed a civil lawsuit against Egan in Manhattan Supreme Court. When the defendant failed to show up for his court date, Miller was granted a default judgment of $300,000, plus another $300,000 for future losses. The money remains uncollected.
It all started, innocently enough, with an online ad.
Miller's girlfriends, wanting to help her out after she became single again, put together a profile, then posted it on match.com.
Soon, she was contacted via e-mail by the man she thought she'd been waiting for. (* She was recently divorced and ran to the wonderful world of online dating like so many of them do looking for “the one”, A.K.A their “White Knight”. Goes to show you how A LOT of women are online.)Egan told Miller he was 40, lived in Manhattan and traveled extensively for his job in game-day operations with the NFL. He said he liked older women.
After a while, Egan told Miller he had a problem with his credit card. Saying he was determined to buy a birthday dinner for his mom, Pauline, he allegedly asked Miller for her American Express card number. She gave it to him, but then he called again, allegedly saying some places don't take AmEx; could he have another card?
Trustingly, stupidly, she gave Egan her card numbers, she said. He promised to repay her.
When she got the bills, Miller was floored.
She demanded that Egan repay her, but he just strung her along for months, she said. Via Federal Express, he sent $10,000 in checks, which allegedly bounced. He allegedly gave Tiffany's and Steiner Sports bank-account numbers, which were bogus.
Finally, Miller threatened to call authorities. She said he threatened her back.
"I know where you live," she said he texted. "I know where your snotty-brat kid lives."
"I was devastated," Miller said. "I cried for weeks."
Last week, a man who was identified by Egan's father and a pal as John Egan was outside his parents' Avenue C apartment, driving a BMW registered to his dad, Patrick. The man gave his name as "James."
One pal said Egan got married three or four years ago.
This was a surprise to Yolanda Castaneda, 41, also from San Francisco.
She said she met Egan on match.com, where he claimed to be an agent for the Yankees and Jets, but never met him. He did send her photos -- although they were from 15 years ago, when he was much slimmer and minus the gray hair.
But Castaneda was luckier than Miller.
She quickly got suspicious when she saw Egan was on match.com day and night, and cut him off sooner.
Castaneda won a default 2007 small-claims-court judgment of $6,065 against Egan, after she shipped him wine that he said was for his parents' anniversary party.
Egan did not return cellphone messages. His parents refused comment.


(* Of course this woman isn’t responsible as a grown adult for her actions. It’s always the man’s fault. The guy is a lowlife, no excuses there, but I find it hilarious how they paint him as garbage but don’t question her stupidity.Next step for her will be to run back to her ex-husband looking for a handout. Who in their right mind would buy real estate from this woman now?)
 

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I like the way they make it out to be an online dating problem. As if people didn't get scammed in relationships when they met "in real life". :p
 

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I found it hilarious! This 40 y.o. dope of a woman corresponded with a man for TWO YEARS whom she'd never met because she "was falling in love" with a man she thought was an executive for the NFL. No surprises with the 'winners' you find online looking for their Sex and the City Mr. Big.

True the guy is a moron, but then again this woman's 'standards' asked for it. She'll be running back to her ex looking for money because she's 'broke' but will be back to looking for the same white knight to satisfy her own greed and selfishness. She hasn't learned anything. It's not her 'fault' I'm sure. lol
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Soon, she was contacted via e-mail by the man she thought she'd been waiting for. (* She was recently divorced and ran to the wonderful world of online dating like so many of them do looking for “the one”, A.K.A their “White Knight”. Goes to show you how A LOT of women are online.)
All the *wrong* women are online, the ones no one wants
 

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Just another story from the "Women are innocent victims" file.

No doubt she has claimed to all who have listened to her story that she was "following my heart", as if that relieves her of any responsibility in giving that guy ready access to her bank account.

She, as a realtor, should have been well aware of the principle of 'caveat emptor'.
 

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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Trader said:
All the *wrong* women are online, the ones no one wants
That's a harsh thing to say Trader. So that also means no one wants us to hence the creation of sosuave? lol.
It just blows my mind that a 52 year old woman who should have seen and heard it all falls for this. She didn't even bother meeting the guy in person and having a relationship so she can know what he's all about.
Anyway, the same thing had happened to me years ago before I found this site in my extremely AFC days gosh how I miss those days, lmao! I was seeing this girl online and we had talked for over a year and each time I wanted to meet her in person she would always have a reason why it could happen. So, finally one time she told me it was ok for us to meet. I go and buy a ticket. I tell her about it and she asks me why did I buy the ticket bla bla...then she said she would refund me the money. Never did. Well, I know my story isn't exactly like that of the woman above but it jsut got me thinking. Men, I glad I sure know better now.
If the above story teaches us anything is that men and women alike are usually victims of their own desires and fantasies. We use each other's weakness to get one over the other. Which is why people need to be smart and know where to draw the line.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Soon, she was contacted via e-mail by the man she thought she'd been waiting for. (* She was recently divorced and ran to the wonderful world of online dating like so many of them do looking for “the one”, A.K.A their “White Knight”. Goes to show you how A LOT of women are online.)
Trader said:
All the *wrong* women are online, the ones no one wants

jafyk said:
That's a harsh thing to say Trader. So that also means no one wants us to hence the creation of sosuave? lol.
There's a difference. Sosuave is not a Match.com type website. Funny you mention this because my friend, who is down on his luck with women (read: does not understand the game), is now signing up for match.com, read into that what you want.

Of all the young and beautiful girls I know, none of them use match.com or some dating service and they just use Facebook to fulfill their need for attention

I always meet girls through real-life. Real life is always better.
 

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Her lawyer, Michael Galluzzi, this year filed a civil lawsuit against Egan in Manhattan Supreme Court. When the defendant failed to show up for his court date, Miller was granted a default judgment of $300,000, plus another $300,000 for future losses.


Always show up for court.
 

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Easy on the woman bashing here. Read my sig. If the guy conned her then it's her own stupid fault, but it sounds like he ran up a bunch of charges on her card that she didn't authorize. Of course it's stupid to give anybody your credit card number for any reason, but that was pure fraud on his part if that's the case.

If I leave my front door unlocked, yeah it's dumb, but that doesn't mean that it's then ok for some dude to come in and steal all my sh!t.

If he just seduced her and convinced her to buy him a ton of stuff or give him money, then I'd say it was 100% her fault. In this case, though, he committed a lot of fraud... federal offense type of stuff. If they can show she didn't authorize those transactions he could be looking at a few years in a federal pen.
 

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This is bs, men are taken to the cleaners by women every day.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

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