Another Man down....

[georgie24]

hello men

after about 2 years in LTR things are just about done, im exausted, drained and dont know how to handle the situation, all i know is i have to start all over again and dont know if i can do it.

gym - check
career- check

social outings - none
socializing with women in general - none
friends/buddies - none
activities- none

age - mid 30's
style - bald head/shaved some tattoo's
self employed/buisness owner

maybe depressed?

 

[PokerStar]

well it seems to me that you have a list to start checking off.

 

[georgie24]

dont know were to start bro

if you research my post history it seemed like i knew my ****, i just dont know what to do about the situation, im realizing i may be afraid

thats honest answer

 

[PokerStar]

waht? afraid of the unknown? afraid that now your life has taken a new direction, you dont know how to deal with it?

THIS IS WHERE THE FUN STARTS!

dont look at it as a negative, its pure positive for you. IF YOU WANT TO VIEW THAT WAY.

this will give you a chance to help map out your life. even though there are no absolutes, at least you now have a chance to.

Put it this way. you are at ground zero now. nowhere to go but up.

 

[PDubb75]

dont know were to start bro

if you research my post history it seemed like i knew my ****, i just dont know what to do about the situation, im realizing i may be afraid

thats honest answer

If that's your answer... change that fact. Stop telling yourself you are afraid and simply do exactly what is scaring you. You are gonna be uncomfortable, but only 2 things can happen:

1) It works and you find friends/women
2) It doesn't work the first few times and you realize it's not nearly as bad as you imagined it to be.

If you have the background of this stuff, it will come out when you put yourself in the position to use this info. I'm dealing with some of this too, and last weekend was really my first time out. I didn't even get a number, yet I had more fun than I have in years. That single night has given me the confidence to get back out there again, and I can't wait.

I sat back for a while, hoping the confidence would come, and the fear would go away. It doesn't. You need to go out and make it happen.

 

[georgie24]

waht? afraid of the unknown? afraid that now your life has taken a new direction, you dont know how to deal with it?

THIS IS WHERE THE FUN STARTS!

dont look at it as a negative, its pure positive for you. IF YOU WANT TO VIEW THAT WAY.

this will give you a chance to help map out your life. even though there are no absolutes, at least you now have a chance to.

Put it this way. you are at ground zero now. nowhere to go but up.

100% agreed... this is the same attitude i had prior to the relationship, seems like im consumed with worry right now

 

[PokerStar]

100% agreed... this is the same attitude i had prior to the relationship, seems like im consumed with worry right now

its the worry of the unknown. not knowing where you are in life IS scary. No real footing.

As I said before, this is where the funs starts. You begin to build footing underneath and that may friend is the next step(at least to me) in the right direction.

without a stable foundation, your kingdom, house, or you will crumble underneath the pressure.

This is a wonderful opportunity to re invent yourself. dont squander it by being afraid. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.

this will help create character. with character more and more women will be drawn to you.

 

[georgie24]

its the worry of the unknown. not knowing where you are in life IS scary. No real footing.

As I said before, this is where the funs starts. You begin to build footing underneath and that may friend is the next step(at least to me) in the right direction.

without a stable foundation, your kingdom, house, or you will crumble underneath the pressure.

This is a wonderful opportunity to re invent yourself. dont squander it by being afraid. GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE.

this will help create character. with character more and more women will be drawn to you.

this is excatly how i feel

 

[PokerStar]

well get your concrete mix, hard hat, and gloves out. time to work and build a kingdom!!!!

 

[PDubb75]

Georgie... I know exactly how you are feeling. But just look back at your posts in this thread alone. Everything you mention, or focus on, is the negative aspect.

I'm not saying this is "wrong" because I feel there is (and should be) a grieving process in these situations. What I am more saying is, the mindset you currently have isn't going to make the future look bright. Just know that once you get past some of this, over some time, things will look a bit clearer. It may just hit you one day, and you will feel the sudden urge to change some major factor in your life that can help you immensely.

Stick in there and keep your head up. PokerStar is exactly right about this actually being a GOOD opportunity for you. Once you realize that, you will be ready to start over in the right place.

 

[georgie24]

Let's see, independent entrepreneur, mid-30s, tattooed/shaved badass, works out, newly single, proven he can handle an LTR...

What's the problem exactly?

You're going to have ladies chasing you like you were the fifth Beatle.
Worry is a form of self-punishment. Give yourself enough time (not too much) to get over your breakup, then get out there man!

my life was 100% freestyle before the relationship, i did and wanted what i wanted to do 24 hours a day 7 days a week

i was going out every weekend, hooking up with girls buying badass cars and bikes ( still have them ) ect ect... then family and friends started putting on the pressure for me to settle down, they wore me out with it

Worry is my primary feeling right now

 

[PokerStar]

just like a kidney stone, it will pass.

 

[georgie24]

next relationship no FACEBOOK! god what an added strain.....

stupid stress over stupid nonsense over facebook stuff..

facebook is another issue for another thread

 

[L B]

Ltr's over, time to start rebuilding your base. Finish off that checklist from the first post with check instead of none and you're good to go. With your prior knowledge, it won't take long before back to 100%. Have fun and post your field report if you have time.

 

[georgie24]

Ltr's over, time to start rebuilding your base. Finish off that checklist from the first post with check instead of none and you're good to go. With your prior knowledge, it won't take long before back to 100%. Have fun and post your field report if you have time.

will do.

we still live under same roof until the agreement kicks in that she is out in 2 weeks.

so the detoxing wont happen intil then

 

[Knight's Cross]

Right there with you Bro. Ex-GF gets all her stuff out of my house this thursday. 2 years of my life that it took to realize that we aren't compatible. Well I realized that. I truly think she just saw me as sperm provider/ dad for kids, etc. I got lucky. No kids, no marriage, etc. So sounds like you are ticking off the things to do. Good for you. It gets easier the farther you get from them. I see why your down. You don't really have her gone yet. That's coming. In the meantime get back to making yourself stronger. Gym/ activities/ work goals. Set some achievments that you want to get to. Then focus on them.
KC

 

[georgie24]

Right there with you Bro. Ex-GF gets all her stuff out of my house this thursday. 2 years of my life that it took to realize that we aren't compatible. Well I realized that. I truly think she just saw me as sperm provider/ dad for kids, etc. I got lucky. No kids, no marriage, etc. So sounds like you are ticking off the things to do. Good for you. It gets easier the farther you get from them. I see why your down. You don't really have her gone yet. That's coming. In the meantime get back to making yourself stronger. Gym/ activities/ work goals. Set some achievments that you want to get to. Then focus on them.
KC

im starting to buckle, nervous as hell ect ect ect

i may have to look inside myself to see whats going on, questin is howdo i do that and deny these feelings