Another 'Losing Erection' Thread

[Burridge]

I'm really freaked out.

Everytime I have sex I lose my erection. I'm seeing a girl who im immensely attracted to. She's unanimously considered a 9 with an ass from jupiter. When she blows me I can stay hard and come in her mouth, but when we start having sex i lose it. WTF is going on for ****s sake?? im 21!

I'm gonna go see the doctor tommorrow and get meds cause i can't live with myself if i have even one more sexual mishap with this girl. I want to bang her till her ears bleed. This is terrible and im extremely upset

 

[funnydude]

Could it be anxiety about having sex with such a hot woman? Be careful about getting meds... maybe try some supplements or herbs that improve virility first... but most of the time this problem is emotional and simple to fix... try closing your eyes and using your sense of touch... hope this helps

 

[Burridge]

dude i tried everything. Ive been seeing her for a month, i feel totally comfortable around her and i've had sex with girls as hot before.

I really dont want to take meds but what can i do? I feel so inadequate...

 

[realsmoothie]

This is purely an emotional issue. Meds might help you short term, but will screw you over long term.

I can't explain your problem, but if I were you I'd talk to a counsellor. They're pretty good at diagnosing this kind of thing.

 

[Burridge]

This is purely an emotional issue. Meds might help you short term, but will screw you over long term.

I can't explain your problem, but if I were you I'd talk to a counsellor. They're pretty good at diagnosing this kind of thing.

What kind of counsellor? This is ****ing insane..how did it get to this?

 

[realsmoothie]

Jesus, settle down. You sound like an attention-wh0re.

Look it up in the phone book. Try your university, assuming you're a student.

 

[Burridge]

Jesus, settle down. You sound like an attention-wh0re.

Look it up in the phone book. Try your university, assuming you're a student.

to say im disturbed by this would be an understatement. I'm very worried and im 21 and dont want to get dependant on medication to have sex.


i dont understand how you figure im attention whoring on a messageboard full of guys? on the contrary i felt ashamed posting this. thanks.

 

[Quagmire911]

Non emotional problems which can have an impact are, condoms and masturbation frequency/intensity. Condoms are neccasary in many situations but they suck and take away a lot from the experience. They can cause loss of erection simply because the stimulation is **** compared with not using one. Also masturbating can become a problem if you do it a lot in the days before hand, also because you get used to the rhythm. Just some factors you should be thinking of before jumping to conclusions.

 

[Burridge]

Non emotional problems which can have an impact are, condoms and masturbation frequency/intensity. Condoms are neccasary in many situations but they suck and take away a lot from the experience. They can cause loss of erection simply because the stimulation is **** compared with not using one. Also masturbating can become a problem if you do it a lot in the days before hand, also because you get used to the rhythm. Just some factors you should be thinking of before jumping to conclusions.

I masturbate like one or twice a week, and I don't use a condom with her.

 

[Quagmire911]

Go see a doc then.

 

[seanchai]

Maybe you secretly like fat chicks.

Actually, it might be an intimidation thing initially - you were scared about messing up in some way with this girl - and then that replicates itself through worry about losing an erection. I've been there before and don't yet know how to deal with it exactly.

 

[BadAssMoFo]

what kinds of natural supplements or herbs can you use to increase virility?

i'm 21 and have the same problem..i have a lot of sex..and only recently has my inability to maintain a good, hard erection become a serious problem.

i was really depressed for like 4 years...and even then i could get it up.


i consistently exercise, have very little anxiety when it comes to women, and eat healthily..don't smoke...masturbate a lot..but not 7 times a day.

what else can i do? i'd like the doctor to be a last resort...so are there any boosters?

also, i'm fatigued quite often..i'm assuming this is connected

 

[Scumfrog]

Chinese Ginseng may help. It's known to restore vitality and sometimes boost the libido. Also, What time of day are you having sex? If it's late at night, maybe fatigue is preventing you from keeping the erection (my gf and I have busy schedules during the day and hang out like 9pm - 2am most of the time lol... i know that fatigue can be a problem).

How active are you? how's your diet? a combination of a poor diet and sitting on your ass with likely lower your testosterone levels which may lower your sex drive (sure maybe you're mind will want the sex but your body won't). If you're not already, try lifting some weights. More muscle = higher testosterone.

Lastly, don't get too caught up in this. The more your think about it, the more it's going to happen. Make sure you're relaxed and comfortable before you and your chick start fooling around.

Best of luck dude! :rockon:

 

[Gus]

Dude, just don't blow your load in her mouth before you have sex. Look up the male refractory period--after you ejaculate, your penis is physiologically prevented from getting an erection or ejaculating again for a variable time period. You probably just have an abnormally long refractory period.

 

[danno1]

^bingo

 

[shagnscoob]

what did the doc end up saying?

 

[Burridge]

Doc gave me levitra. It was good, except while I was banging her I got insanely dizzy for a minute or two and had to stop. But yeah, the problem hasn't subsided entirely and I want to see someone about it...