another girl i messed up with help with game!

[sportf190]

hey guys i have a lil story if u have time to read thanks if not its ok.. but to sum it up i met a girl at a club danced wit her for like 40 min then didnt get her number that nite yeah my fault..then monday after the weekend saw her in school she said we need to exchange numbers got her number... then we saw each other the next few days at school she hugged me and we talked for a lil i texted her on thursday to see if she wanted to hang out she was at dunkin donuts and said the weekends better.. saw her in school friday and she said she was goin to the big e after and would call me after that or another nite to hang out... I DID not call her and now we havent spoken since... i think she should have called me b/c she said it and now we see each other at school but i dont go up to her and she dont go up to me either?? whats my problem.. i think that she should of called me cuz she said she would and i kno im worth it

 

[Stuntmann]

Problem is you didn't escalate at the club.


That's an insult to the lady. So she gets your number at school. Do know that women don't do that. She gets you interested in her - because as she previously thought you're not interested in her - with the sole purpose of getting back at you. Which she can readily do by denying you a date every time you call. Nothing you can do now.


First thing is escalate, always. No such thing as too far. Small steps, and take 1 step further. She'll always let you know if she's not comfortable. They get flattered when you escalate, they get extatic when you take it a bit too far.


Second thing, when a girl says she can't go out with you, tell her she's screwing "this all up". Demand that she does go with you, or else, she's going to loose it all. Follow up on this principle, always. She says, you dont' understand, I can't today. Ok, good byyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeee. That don't mean you lost her, she'll come back (not you come back). Then you could give her a second chance.



How to handle this school girl. Don't. Remember what she did to you. Just because you aren't experienced. Shallow rat. Walk by, you see EC, EC back, and smile. Don't talk to her. If you have no choice, say you gotta run. Instead, talk to other women and men. Sociolize. Forget this rat. She might come back in the future, but that's only to fail you once more.

Protect your ego. If she literally approaches you and would like to find out if you two can go out. Tell her I assumed you were a cool chick with values I'm looking for, but you've lied, there is no future between us. If she says anything at all, tell her, I only talk to women I'm interested in fvcking. Then don't talk to her from that point on. It's like reminding her that you wouldn't want to touch her even with a stick every time she speaks to you and you say nothing.





See how sh1tty women are? There is no such thing as escalating far enough. Even the furthest point does not equal of such crappy behavior women do all the time.

 

[sportf190]

ur right bro that makes sense... so pretty much forget her.. but for the future that was her call to make to me right on the weekend... cuz ppl awlays tell me that i should call the girl for the first week i still think im too good for most girls and think they should call me... i tried hangin out wit that girl and she didnt want to.. i like that theory u said though about ur messing this up that sounds good

 

[Stuntmann]

Think of raising her IL. As you just starting, you'll be calling her. As her IL goes up, she'll be calling you. Her IL could be huge for you right away, if you're figure like Mystery or some other master PUA who knows how to raise girl's IL right away.

You've read the IL scale haven't you? Search forums for interest level scale.


Calling thing is from David DeAngelo.

 

[smooth guy]

Ohhh there's the problem right there man, you didn't make a move to move forward.
Pretty funny I had the same thing happen to me today at school with a girl I just met...she left to class then when I saw her again I froze and didn't approach her again while I knew she was interested.

You'll learn from your mistakes...today we both learned the same thing. There are girls who will always be the first to initiate contact but most girls are gonna wait for you to initiate first, ESPECIALLY when rapport isnt built and you've just met them.

But when you said you'd call you should have definitely called...telling someone you'll call and end up not calling is what chicks do I would still pursue her though if I were you.

 

[sportf190]

so pretty much i need to build up some more rappot wit girls... that line is true that girls say they will call and wont... so prety much expect that.. i just dont want to look desperate or anything like taht but i guess i need to get that attraction going so i have to for the first week im going to be a lot more aggessive... lesson learned! any one else?