Another Girl Another Flake

[In10se]

Hey, I'm pretty new to all this, so I'm going to give you as many details as possible...feel free to comment/critique/share insight...

I met a gorgeous blue eyed brunette and her sister, talked to her sister briefly and made her feel comfortable while my friend casually talked to my target. Eventually things flowed and she ended up dancing in my arms. She was WAY into me, because I already built a strong connection with her sister who had a BF. We danced and made out strong for 30 min to an hour. While dancing I had her type in her number and I made a comment like "It would really be a shame if you are going away to college soon" she responds "Don't worry about that I'm 22 and graduated"

I felt pretty on point, had her laughing...gave her some push pull and she kept telling me to make sure I text her. Eventually she left to find her friends in another part of town, all good.

Now its 3 days later and I shot her a text ..."hey" no response...where do I go from here? This is my major sticking point... I can get numbers and make outs, but don't know how to turn them into a GF or casual sex.

Thanks for any input!

 

[Leopold]

First of all.. WOMEN are unpredictable. NEVER EVER lay your hopes on a single girl. If she finds someone more attractive you are out of luck. (this is why so important to have many options)

Second.. Dont be paranoid!! Maybe she hasn't read it. But yes.. if she doesn't reply fast enough... that should be a signal of how strong her interest level for you is.

Thirdly... Dont bothering listening to women (not literally). Just because she says something she probably doesn't mean it. Women speak with their actions(or should I say emotions) rather than their words. Dont even bother taking advises from them nor taking them too seriously.

Lastly... Do keep those texts to a minimum. AND for the LOVE OF CHRIST!!! Convey a better expression!!! "hey" WTF is that?!? That's boring as hell!!! Cant you be a little more creative?

Just state your expectations when you talk to her... If she meets them.. reward her.. if she doesn't.. punish her!!! She doesn't like it? Well she can Fvck off!! Treat her like a little girl pretty much.

Hope it helps out my man!!

 

[topcat2001]

1) You going to have a lower conversion rate at clubs in general than hooking up with a girl who you might run into on a more frequent basis. On the other hand clubs are low risk because no one is keeping tracking of how many times you got shot down. so be prepared for the lower conversion rate by getting multiple numbers so that way you are increasing your chances.
2) you need to kino escalate and shoot for f close though that is generally hard. i think you did good with the makeout. but if it wasnt escalating beyond that in 15 mins you should have left her and ended the interaction first saying 'I need to see my friends in another club'.
3) generally text her the evening after, saying something witty about your interaction or calling her out on something. 3 days is too late. 2 might be ok.
4) you shouldnt have said "it would be a shame if you are going away to a college soon" unless the next part was something like "because you arent going to able to <some cool thing e.g. get a ride on my motorcycle>"

 

[In10se]

appreciate that advice my but I'd like some advice targeted directly at this situation...if she doesn't text back at all today what are some things I could try to do? Call? Get her involved in plans I already have for Friday? I am really clueless how the interest transitions from super strong to nonexistant...also for the record I do have a few options I'm pursuing, but again I seem to flop when I try for Day-2's

 

[topcat2001]

You've texted now so its her turn. Try to focus on the other girls for now. If you cant get her out of your mind in a couple of days then you can give her a call if you want to get closure. Maybe you can post your planned approaches on the others a little earlier so guys here can chime in.
As leopold says girls by nature are inherently driven by how they feel at the moment unlike us. thats why we love them. try to embrace it.

 

[PokerStar]

ok your text did not contain any information. a simple "HEY" does not do anything for her.

be a little more creative next time. "hey its in10se. did you see those 2 midgets fighting outside the club?" anything funny and creative.

and yes calling should of been your first move. texting implys laziness on your part.

This is what I would do:

Leave it for a few days. if she dont text back, call her. let her know who you are and then set up something ASAP. coffee, drink, walk in the park whatever it is.

If she doesnt pick up the phone leave a msg. if she dont call back. well you know where you stand.

 

[In10se]

Ok, well she could be at work so I'll update you guys on her later... another girl I've been talking to is complaining about how she never gets with anyone...I've know her for awhile, but we only messed around back in highschool ... now randomly she texts me often and tells me how pathetic she thinks she is...what do I make of this? I'd like to bang her, so I think I'm going to pressure her more in person and see where it leads..

 

[Leopold]

Ok, well she could be at work so I'll update you guys on her later... another girl I've been talking to is complaining about how she never gets with anyone...I've know her for awhile, but we only messed around back in highschool ... now randomly she texts me often and tells me how pathetic she thinks she is...what do I make of this? I'd like to bang her, so I think I'm going to pressure her more in person and see where it leads..

She's using you as an emotional tampon. You are not getting down there anytime soon until you kick yourself out of the friend zone.

Next time she comes up with stuff like that tell her... "STOP COMPLAINING!!!" Tell her how gross it is when she vomits all her whining emotions on you. You need to SHOW her you are not a Mangina and you have a pair of balls down there.

And seriously...STOP texting so much.. that's for chicken wusses and faggots.

Men and women CANT BE FRIEND (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T_lh5fR4DMA)
so STOP pretending to be one and grow a pair of balls.

GL my man

 

[nismo-4]

A common case in the courts!

Ok, well she could be at work so I'll update you guys on her later... another girl I've been talking to is complaining about how she never gets with anyone...I've know her for awhile, but we only messed around back in highschool ... now randomly she texts me often and tells me how pathetic she thinks she is...what do I make of this? I'd like to bang her, so I think I'm going to pressure her more in person and see where it leads..

Judge nismo is very upset.

At first, I found you guilty of failure to spin more plates and being boring. Now I've found you guilty of being an emotional tampon and constant texting!

I hope you realize that you've been sent to Friendsville, Florida. You are also going to be sent to Lake Boringfriend, Louisiana.

The jury is ruling in favor of the girl. I, myself, am disappointed in you for letting this girl pour out her emotions on you. Cut that sh*t mid sentence of stop it before it starts. Lay down the law! There are times I throw the book at these women and then we end up in chambers.

Grow some balls, man up, take action, wear the pants.

The point is to BE DOMINANT MOTHERF**KER!

And yes, I'm being harsh on you, but that's tough love. You wanna f**k her right? Then be sexual! Another charge!

You are also guilty of being asexual and a wussy. You are also guilty of lack of creativity. What the f**k is hey? In a text message? Hell no! Now you've probably been labeled as a chump with no plan or initiative to ask her out! It's even worse your ball (or balls, should I say BTW I cringe at the thought) is in her court and she has the upper hand aka the power now.

If you make a move, and get shot down, you're a man for making the move instead of doing this slick, beat around the bush bullsh*t.

Don't you think phoning is sexier? Voice exchange can't be done in text. Sorry. You want the dime? Put in the time.

I'm also ruling you guilty of handing over your power.

The new charges come with a fine of 2 blue balls and a trip to Nopoonani, Tennessee as well as Loser, South Dakota.

Getting the book thrown at you really hurts, doesn't it? Don't do it again.

Keep your options open, and watch the actions. Always.

Do I make myself clear? I know I did.

Case closed. Leave my courtroom.

 

[In10se]

hahaha oh wow, alright I pretty much agree with all the criticism, but to clarify the second girl never vents her emotions, here's more of the context
Her: I'm bored
Me: Yeah I'm out at X
Her: How is that?
Me: (45 min later)...Good
Her: I have guys hitting on me at X but they are so old
Me: Oh shut up you are a bigger player than me
Her: I admit I flirt but I actually get with no1
Her: Its pathetic
Me: You are a bad liar
Her: No its pathetic I get with no guys

blah blah and I ended up telling her how much I like her ass...my game is not that tight, but I'm definitely one step above boring *****... maybe just boring

 

[GameTime76]

Only talk to girls with HIGH INTERESTS!!! Second, DONT just text for random conversations. you ONLY talk to her via phone to set up dates. If she doesnt accept your date. MOVE ON!!

 

[1ncredible]

hahaha oh wow, alright I pretty much agree with all the criticism, but to clarify the second girl never vents her emotions, here's more of the context
Her: I'm bored
Me: Yeah I'm out at X
Her: How is that?
Me: (45 min later)...Good
Her: I have guys hitting on me at X but they are so old
Me: Oh shut up you are a bigger player than me
Her: I admit I flirt but I actually get with no1
Her: Its pathetic
Me: You are a bad liar
Her: No its pathetic I get with no guys

blah blah and I ended up telling her how much I like her ass...my game is not that tight, but I'm definitely one step above boring *****... maybe just boring

If you already made out with her years ago at school and you can see her confidence is rock bottom at the moment, then just go in for the make out session again and it may turn into a nail. What have you got to lose??

There is no point trying to amp up the flirting as she is emotionally tarded atm, plus since you're in the FZ, you may aswell just try the physically thing immediately - get her out or something.