"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I don't have any friends anymore..or any type of social circle. When i was in LA 2 months ago i had friends, they always belittled me in front of women but at least they were friends...i know i must respect myself and stay away from negative people like that...but i also cant stand being @ home all day trapped in my room on the internet most of the time..then ill watch tv, then go on the internet again... i feel like my life is soo sad and depressing.

i go to college part time, every approach i do ill get the girls number but it doesn't work out for me one way or another..no matter how much i try to think positive about it and sarge on, it does have a big blow to my self esteem...im a handsome guy but am silent most of the time and it comes off as weird. I don't mean to be like that but i don't know what to say...i don't have anything funny to say and if i do people get offended. I also don't have any stories to tell because i haven't had much of a social life...the stories i remember either i don't tell them right, they aren't funny or interesting, or i don't remember them.

Whenever i try to socialize with people and they act like they aren't interested, either guys or girls i think they're jealous of me or intimidated by me, i guess its a defense mechanism i use..

sorry for being so negative but im in a depressed state right now guys. :(
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Dude...Lift some weights!
 

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You said you go to college part time, but do you work at all? Any connections at work? new friends? don't worry bout the girls but concentrate on making some guy friends and everything else will fall into place. If you don't work consider getting a job with some people your age. It'll give you an instant opener.
 

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mpimpin said:
You said you go to college part time, but do you work at all? Any connections at work? new friends? don't worry bout the girls but concentrate on making some guy friends and everything else will fall into place. If you don't work consider getting a job with some people your age. It'll give you an instant opener.
From experience, screw guys and just go for girls. I mean if you're making guy friends just as a bridge to hopefully get girls, it ain't worth it, just go for the girls. "Knowing girls" through a social circle ain't a free ticket to anything. You still have to game them. If you cold approach, you can game ANY woman you like. Learn to do it on your own.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mad Manic said:
From experience, screw guys and just go for girls. I mean if you're making guy friends just as a bridge to hopefully get girls, it ain't worth it, just go for the girls. "Knowing girls" through a social circle ain't a free ticket to anything. You still have to game them. If you cold approach, you can game ANY woman you like. Learn to do it on your own.

I suggested guy friends because girls easily come and go and theres always pressure and drama involved. When I said everything else will fall into place I'm trying to stress the importance of not focusing all attention on just finding girls. He needs those guy friends so that even if he finds some girl he can't spend all his time with her and then what happens when she's gone? He's right back all alone with no friends sitting with by himself.
 

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i second that you go lift weights

oh, and do some myspace macking, then you'll have a few girls lined up wanting to chill with you within a few days
 

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I suggested guy friends because girls easily come and go and theres always pressure and drama involved. When I said everything else will fall into place I'm trying to stress the importance of not focusing all attention on just finding girls. He needs those guy friends so that even if he finds some girl he can't spend all his time with her and then what happens when she's gone? He's right back all alone with no friends sitting with by himself.
Fair enough, but having guy friends as a bridge to getting women is a myth in my opinion, unless you're in with some elite crowd. I mean I see groups of guys week in, week out at bars and clubs etc. and they're all single and trying to get laid like the majority of guys I know, so it's obviously no easy ticket. But at least if you focus on approaching women and getting good with them yourself, you'll aid your chances.
 

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Mad Manic said:
Fair enough, but having guy friends as a bridge to getting women is a myth in my opinion, unless you're in with some elite crowd. I mean I see groups of guys week in, week out at bars and clubs etc. and they're all single and trying to get laid like the majority of guys I know, so it's obviously no easy ticket. But at least if you focus on approaching women and getting good with them yourself, you'll aid your chances.
I agree that some focus should be put on approaching women and that Guy friends aren't some magic ticket. Everything in moderation though there should be some of both. The guy friends aren't necessarily for the seduction game they are for being friends in general and connections that can come back to help you later in life.
 

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mpimpin said:
I agree that some focus should be put on approaching women and that Guy friends aren't some magic ticket. Everything in moderation though there should be some of both. The guy friends aren't necessarily for the seduction game they are for being friends in general and connections that can come back to help you later in life.
I just think he should dedicate himself in becoming a PUA master or whatever, that way he'll undergo self improvement and actually get good with women. I mean having guy friends is all well and good, but I mean what are they really; guys who go out, get drunk, want to get laid and are secretly unhappy if you get success? Come on, we all know that's the score, loyalty these days is rare.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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theres probably a lot of gays walking around....
 

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now it moves on to saturday night with me getting drunk by myself...

my sister who is 22 and my cousins didnt even invite me to go to the club with them tonight which depresses me...i hate feeling this way...why dont people want to hang out with me? are they jealous? is something wrong with me? i mean...my own sister...
 

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Ken785 said:
now it moves on to saturday night with me getting drunk by myself...

my sister who is 22 and my cousins didnt even invite me to go to the club with them tonight which depresses me...i hate feeling this way...why dont people want to hang out with me? are they jealous? is something wrong with me? i mean...my own sister...
Ask her why she didnt invite you..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You live in SF, go meet some Mexicans or something, theres probably tons of them walking around. .

Whats that supposed to mean? :mad: You tryin to offend me here?
 

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Ken785 said:
now it moves on to saturday night with me getting drunk by myself...

my sister who is 22 and my cousins didnt even invite me to go to the club with them tonight which depresses me...i hate feeling this way...why dont people want to hang out with me? are they jealous? is something wrong with me? i mean...my own sister...

I don't get it man from your posts you seem like a cool guy. Its easy making friends bro join some social clubs or somethin. go even on myspace or something and add people with your same intrests in your area man.
 

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i know..i am...i just don't get it neither...when i had "friends" i was always the silent one at the table..especially around hot chicks...i have no idea how to be entertaining...i just follow what others are saying..i

know that makes me come off as boring...i just got david deangelo's ****y comedy dvd's so ill watch that, maybe it'll help.
 

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Ken, do you want friends or do you want women? Do you just want the friends to get the women?

Are trying to pull chicks off the Internet at all? It is not the end-all be-all of dating, but at least sexing some hb7 that you met off myspace or something is better than a weekend home alone.
 

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i want to meet woman...i was even joked with by my aunt last night asking why i never have girls over...do i want to go to my home country to marry a girl over there...i said no...

my mom joked, saying..."no ken cant take care of himself..how can he take care of his wife?"...they all laughed.

how do you tell women you meet that you dont have any friends?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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