"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ImprovingJuan said:
i know in my gut i'm ugly, looks matter whatever you say. i have a weak jaw, a receeded chin,i use braces to **** my confidence even more (it's the 4th year i use them) i will need to wear glasses because i'm practically "blind" (not really blind) from one eye (cant see at distance from the left eye) and i have somekind of intermitent strabismus. sometimes my eyes are centered and fine and when im tired or nervous bam! there it shows. i got the strabismus surgery but it didnt work as nothing in my life does (im going to a doctor to ask for a new surgery but i doubt he will do it).

should i do a mentoplasty to improve my chin for them ?
should i go through another strabismus surgery with the risk of becoming worse for them?

some of you guys talk about building confidence, but it's because some of you guys had the luck of having good genes i didnt. i could have had the strabismus surgery while as a kid, the same with braces (which i could only afford 4 years ago, i'm 38). the women are shallow, they are not benevolent with me as you guys are. sorry for venting but that's how it is.

I think you need to see a therapist to sort out your inferiority complex. If you really need a surgery a doctor isn't going to say no.

ImprovingJuan said:
should i go through another strabismus surgery with the risk of becoming worse for them?
do it for yourself..not just for women
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TARKUS said:
I think you need to see a therapist to sort out your inferiority complex. If you really need a surgery a doctor isn't going to say no.



do it for yourself..not just for women
doctor said he is not very keen on trying another one because i can become worse. and using glasses? yeah that will be a cool combination. braces and nerd glasses on a 38 year old guy. ****in' great way to improve confidence.
 

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ImprovingJuan said:
doctor said he is not very keen on trying another one because i can become worse. and using glasses? yeah that will be a cool combination. braces and nerd glasses on a 38 year old guy. ****in' great way to improve confidence.
You ignored where I said you should see a therapist for your inferiority complex. Lots of people wear glasses use contacts if you have to. get other alternatives to braces in dentistry they have them available it sounds like you want to be miserable.
 

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asked about contacts no can do. must be prescription glasses

can someone at least point to some stylish frames for glasses, so i can look less nerdy?
 

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I think you are missing the overall point here. Fancy frames or a surgery isn't going to fix your underlying problem.

Your issue right now is an energetic one - the vibes you give to women are most likely unattractive, not because you are ugly or unattractive, but because your mental limits are bleeding through into your body language.

Before you will be able to get any results you will need to change your inner frame, and I hate the be the bearer of bad news, but inner game is the hardest part because you can't fake it, and it's all on you - literally.

What you need to do is find something to give your life meaning. It can be a hobby, it can be work related, it can be anything you want. When you have things in life that you enjoy, things that drive you, your attention will shift from focusing on the problems to focusing on the enjoyment. When that happens your energy will change and you will begin attracting people for both friendships and intimate relationships.

When you focus and put too much worried energy into something, people can just smell it on you. When you let go "When it rains, it pours".
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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a therapist for what? some of them have the same problems as me or as you, who knows what problems they have @ home.
 

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Dreesy said:
I think you are missing the overall point here. Fancy frames or a surgery isn't going to fix your underlying problem.

Your issue right now is an energetic one - the vibes you give to women are most likely unattractive, not because you are ugly or unattractive, but because your mental limits are bleeding through into your body language.

Before you will be able to get any results you will need to change your inner frame, and I hate the be the bearer of bad news, but inner game is the hardest part because you can't fake it, and it's all on you - literally.

What you need to do is find something to give your life meaning. It can be a hobby, it can be work related, it can be anything you want. When you have things in life that you enjoy, things that drive you, your attention will shift from focusing on the problems to focusing on the enjoyment. When that happens your energy will change and you will begin attracting people for both friendships and intimate relationships.

When you focus and put too much worried energy into something, people can just smell it on you. When you let go "When it rains, it pours".
i'm tired and emotionally drained. maybe that cisco networking course may get me a better job, but a job or money are not everything in life. wish you guys the best of luck getting the girl/s of your dreams
 

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Online even a lot of UG1s think they should be able to get Male 7s+. But you should be able to find a few HB4-5s online that will be interested in talking a guy close to their looks level. This one was just an extreme b!tch.
 

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Online even a lot of UG1s think they should be able to get Male 7s+. But you should be able to find a few HB4-5s online that will be interested in talking a guy close to their looks level. This one was just an extreme b!tch.
to **** 3's, 4's or 5's i prefer to be alone. thanks for your POV but no thanks. in my mind i deserve better.
 

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a therapist for what? some of them have the same problems as me or as you, who knows what problems they have @ home.
To sort out your problems that you have going on.

sounds like you want to complain and feel sorry for yourself on a forum rather than help yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally Posted by Stagger Lee
Online even a lot of UG1s think they should be able to get Male 7s+. But you should be able to find a few HB4-5s online that will be interested in talking a guy close to their looks level. This one was just an extreme b!tch.

by ****ing 3's an 4's? A guy must always aim higher. Not that desperate, so this doesnt apply to me.
 

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You can aim higher, be alone, or take what you can get. it's your choice, but you're only going to get what girls are responding to you. If you're getting shot down by even UGs then that's telling you where you stand in the dating market. You may not even really be in it, let alone able to attract HB6s+.
 

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ImprovingJuan said:
to **** 3's, 4's or 5's i prefer to be alone. thanks for your POV but no thanks. in my mind i deserve better.
you might think that in your mind but what you can actually get is a different story. that chick that told you off was like a 3.
 
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