another facebook date, sweating problem

[pete101]

just came back from another facebook date, it started off well walking up from the station to the bar up the hill but i was out of breath by the time we got there and it's like 20C outside so i'm sweating bucketloads when we get in and sit down.. i dont stop sweating for a good 30 mins so it threw me off my game. the initial walk up was good, negging jokes light kino.. then i felt sel conscious when sitting down with sweat dripping down my face, i kino'd her hands but i didn't want to put my arm round her yet till i calmed down.

convo became a bit stale and i was panicking but didn't just blurt anything out my mouth like i normally did. we only got to the bar at 8.45pm and it was 9.55pm she said 'it's 10 already?' in between earlier her friend was pestering her to come down to town to go party and she messaged her saying she's busy with me.. then again later her friend keeps pestering her adn she replies by text.

when i said 'shall we leave then..' she said 'ok' i said 'i can give you a lift home' (she lives on my way home near me), she said 'ok let me call my friend first' she calls her friend and then she decides to go party instead.. i felt disrespected like she's ditched my date to go party.. it's my fault for not having more material to talk about when the convo went dry like i normally do.. felt under pressure after all the sweating.

i kind of walked with her acting less interested cos i felt her IL was low and she chose to go clubbing instead of spending more time with me.. what should i have done when she said she was going to go party instead of spenidng more time wit me? i think i did the right thing as in act less interested.

 

[apprenticedj]

Seemed fine to me Pete. "Ditching" you to hang with her friend would indicate low interest. As far as your reaction you played it cool, never let em see you sweat (bad joke I know!).

She didn't commit a crime by hanging with her friend because it seemed as though your date reached a natural conclusion. I would still try to secure a second date, her response will speak volumes. If she is unavailable and offers no counter I would say walk away but do so in a friendly way.

Based on the amount of activity you've had recently I'd say you're doing just fine my friend.

 

[The411]

just came back from another facebook date, it started off well walking up from the station to the bar up the hill but i was out of breath by the time we got there and it's like 20C outside so i'm sweating bucketloads when we get in and sit down.. i dont stop sweating for a good 30 mins so it threw me off my game. the initial walk up was good, negging jokes light kino.. then i felt sel conscious when sitting down with sweat dripping down my face, i kino'd her hands but i didn't want to put my arm round her yet till i calmed down.

convo became a bit stale and i was panicking but didn't just blurt anything out my mouth like i normally did. we only got to the bar at 8.45pm and it was 9.55pm she said 'it's 10 already?' in between earlier her friend was pestering her to come down to town to go party and she messaged her saying she's busy with me.. then again later her friend keeps pestering her adn she replies by text.

when i said 'shall we leave then..' she said 'ok' i said 'i can give you a lift home' (she lives on my way home near me), she said 'ok let me call my friend first' she calls her friend and then she decides to go party instead.. i felt disrespected like she's ditched my date to go party.. it's my fault for not having more material to talk about when the convo went dry like i normally do.. felt under pressure after all the sweating.

i kind of walked with her acting less interested cos i felt her IL was low and she chose to go clubbing instead of spending more time with me.. what should i have done when she said she was going to go party instead of spenidng more time wit me? i think i did the right thing as in act less interested.

You need to get to the point where you are indifferent to outcomes even before you meet these chicks. Not in a negative way but not relying on a specific "positive in your favor" outcome.

Try not to focus on that the chicks you decide meet are hot. But think of them as dudes or people so you don't get nervous and possibly make them uncomfortable.

Almost as if you were working in a store or field where there were tons of hot chicks shopping and you helping them. You'd become used to them and indifferent to what they thought about you as you weren't trying to date them but helped and knew many so it was like the same old same old. You wouldn't be mad, or negatively indifferent you'd just see them as customers.

You get to that point where you aren't affected by hot chicks or strangers things will flow much smoother for you and it will be natural for you to focus on other things and having more want to spend time with you.

 

[Cremasta]

just came back from another facebook date, it started off well walking up from the station to the bar up the hill but i was out of breath by the time we got there and it's like 20C outside so i'm sweating bucketloads when we get in and sit down.. i dont stop sweating for a good 30 mins so it threw me off my game.

If you're "sweating bucketloads" when it's only 20C then you need to forget women for now and take up running.
I'm hoping this is a typo and you meant to write 30C, or maybe you live in Norway and 20C is a heatwave...

 

[VladPatton]

On a Monday night she went to a party? WTF?

 

[hudpes]

Not enough information. Ask her out again.