"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Doomsday Warrior

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Hey what’s up guys I’ve been lurking around here for a few months now and just been digesting as much information as possible. I know that there are a bunch of other boot camps out here, but I feel that this will be the best way to break out of my shell. I’ve attempted this in the past and have not had much success, but this time I am more motivated than I have ever been. I am getting other areas of my life(school, work, fitness, etc) handled and this area is a huge part for me.

I plan on going way out of my comfort zone, and no matter the outcome, I know that I will improve and learn so much. I have read all of the articles for week 1 and feel that I am ready to get this boot camp started. I will be starting Tuesday and will aim to get out and do the exercises for atleast an hour or more every day.

Age: 20
Status: I have had moderate success with girls in the past but my biggest problem is that I just have never really tried that hard to meet new women. So this boot camp should help out a lot in changing that.
Goals: Overcome fear of approaching, gain confidence, and of course to FINISH THIS whether it takes 8 weeks or more.

So thanks for reading guys and I’ll try to update this post as much as possible.

Week 1 Count
EC: 0/2
Hi's: 0/50
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Welcome to the bootcamp bud. Remember that if u fail a week, do it over again(Except if u almost complete Week1 as the other ones will matter more).... And if u can't finish week 1 fully, still move on to Week 2 but that's really only if u think all 50 of those hi's aren't needed.
I await ur progress!
 

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Week 1 Day 1

Hey thanks for the comments Jose, just read your Bootcamp journal, awesome work so far, I hope to be at your level at some point.

Well I got up today and there was a lot of snow outside, so immediately that was the first excuse my mind gave me to not go out and get started. But I said screw it and got up and went to the gym. I tried to practice the EC there before I hit Walmart later on and I got in 2 hi's at the gym, one of which was a hot girl coming out of the locker room.

Afterwards I went to Walmart to work on the EC and get in a few more hi's. Making eye contact with people for longer periods of time is definitely more difficult than I thought it would be. But once I did the exercise for an hour, I was definitely much better at it and felt much more confident. I also got in 5 more hi's there and one older lady after I asked her "how she was doing" in the shoe section, I ended up talking to her for like 5 minutes and she wanted me to try on some shoes because she thought my feet might be the same size feet as her son's.

Week 1 Totals
EC: 1/2
Hi's: 7/50
Other Totals
Convos: 1
Close Attempts: 0
Successful Closes: 0
 

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Week 1 Day 2-5

Alright, haven't had much time to post on here with updates, been pretty busy, but been out there doing the bootcamp.

Day 2

Was glad the snow finally went away, went to the mall for the second hour of eye contact and felt much more natural and confident with that. Got in 8 hi's on Day 2.

Day 3

Didn't go anyplace specifically for the bootcamp on Day 3, but got in 6 his altogether.

Day 4

Went to a buncha different places(mall, bookstore, gym, school) and got in 14 his and it's starting to feel much easier and like something I just do now, so it's helping a lot.

Day 5

Got out quite a bit again today and got in 7 his today. I don't know, I was feeling real sluggish when I got up and didn't wanna get out and do it, but I just pushed myself and was happy with the results. So here's my Week 1 totals so far.

Week 1 Totals
EC: 2/2
Hi's: 42/50
Other Totals
Convos: 1
Close Attempts: 0
Successful Closes: 0
 
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