i know someone in a situation with a possible attention wh0re, i'll tell you his little situation, and then u guys can tell me what u think of it
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Here goes:
Him and his firl that he is going out with now met last year February, then became really close friends, and at the end of last year they became a couple.
His Problem:
He thinks that she is an attention wh0re, and he doesnt like it
His reason for thinking that she is an attention wh0re:
1) He goes to the same school as she does, but at breaks she doesnt spend alot of time spking to him, and rather speaks to her friends (makes it out as if she is always busy)
2) Is always touching and flirting with all her guy friends, and then when he asks her "Why are you flirting with all the other guys? " she answers saying something along the lines of "I'm NOT flirting ok! I'm just being myself, and i have a funny, bubbly personality.. So what.. are you telling me that i musnt be friendly with them now? are u going to be so controlling now?, Why do you always find fault with me? , i DONT like them as anything but as FRIENDS!" and all that b.s.
3) The majority of her friends are guys (80 percent of them at least)
4) In public she always makes herself the centre of attention, weather its by shouting and being drunk, or sitting in a place where everyone can see her, and she ALWAYS starts talking to guys she doesnt know, get their nuber, etc etc....
5) She is always wanting to go on ONE on ONE "friendly dates" with her guy friends, which she KNOWS like her too...
BUT
On the phone, online chat, sms's, emails, etc she Always goes on about hom much she loves him and how much she cares and that she hopes that the 2 of them last forever etc.... and when he suggests that they break up after a fight or wateva she bursts into tears, af if she really does care about him, and only him.
But on the other hand
In person when there are other guys around she will act as if he isnt even there, and she will flirt and touch other guys etc.
The million dollar question:
What is going on in this girls head? What does she want/feel?
My answer to this situation:
I said that I think that she DOES like him, BUT she has been an attention wh0re her whole life, and probably just cant get "out of that habbit" so quickly, and that it would take a while untill she becomes "normal".
When i asked him (my friend) why he doesnt just leave her and look for a girl that isnt an attention wh0re, he simply said that he really fell for her, and he fell hard for her, and he cant imagine leaving her, and all this other b.s about how she took his heart, and he doenst WANT anyone else etc... blah di blah!
So what i did was i went up to her and had a little chat with her...
The conversation between me and her:
Me: So whats going on with you and (my friends name)?
Her: what do you mean? nothing? everything is fine as far as i know, why? is something wrong?
Me: Well, i've been seeing you around and i kinda noticed that you have been flirting with other guys and really not paying (my friends name) much attention... any reason for that?
Her: excuse me? i DONT flirt with other guys, thats just my personality, i'm lively and bubbly and i make them laugh etc, but i DONT flirt with them! And as far as not paying (my friends name) enough attention, well, at breaks i like spending with my friends because i dont see them much and its wierd at school in front of everyone, why cant i just see him after school? Its embarrasing in school!
Me: Well i think that you are just being immature about it, because you have no reason to be "embarrased" about being with (my friends name)! wtf? whats there to be embarrased about?
Her: i dont know, its just embarrasing ok!
Me: errr.... ok wateva.... all i can say is that the way that you treat (my friends name) is wrong, and you're lucky that he likes you so much, because if i were him, i would tell you to go f*ck yourself!
At this point i just turned around and walked away.
I spoke to my friend again earliyer today, and he told me about a punk gig that was on over the week end...
The punk gig/concert story:
On Friday afternoon she calles him and tells him that her and her 2 other friends are going to the punk gig/concert that night, and being a person that wasnt really fond of punk, he (my friend)(her bf) told her that he didnt really wanna go there and he was hoping that the 2 of them could go somewhere else, but he said "ok" and he told her that he would come for HER...
Then she starts going on about how he musnt come because she knows that he doesnt like punk and that he "wouldnt fit in because he is more like a backstreet boy, and punk is like the total opposite".... after coming to an agreement that they prob wouldnt see eachother on Friday night he told her that he would come for 10 minutes before going to his other plans... so her responce to him telling her that he was going to come for 10 minutes was " whats the point of coming if its only for 10 minutes?" I'll rather see you on Sat night or Monday or wateva" ....
I STILL dont understand where this girl is coming from, or wtf is going through her head, but the only reason that i could think of her not wanting her bf to come, is that she had another guy on her eye's.
BUT
After that night, he (my freind)(her bf) spoke to some people that were there and saw her etc and she wasnt with any other guys there, she was with her 2 girl friends for the majority of the night, except for ONE of her guy CLOSE friends that was drunk and she was "helping" him etc.
Ok... i wont make this post too long... but overall, what do you think is going on in this girls head? What does she want/feel etc?
Laterz...
...Here goes:
Him and his firl that he is going out with now met last year February, then became really close friends, and at the end of last year they became a couple.
His Problem:
He thinks that she is an attention wh0re, and he doesnt like it
His reason for thinking that she is an attention wh0re:
1) He goes to the same school as she does, but at breaks she doesnt spend alot of time spking to him, and rather speaks to her friends (makes it out as if she is always busy)
2) Is always touching and flirting with all her guy friends, and then when he asks her "Why are you flirting with all the other guys? " she answers saying something along the lines of "I'm NOT flirting ok! I'm just being myself, and i have a funny, bubbly personality.. So what.. are you telling me that i musnt be friendly with them now? are u going to be so controlling now?, Why do you always find fault with me? , i DONT like them as anything but as FRIENDS!" and all that b.s.
3) The majority of her friends are guys (80 percent of them at least)
4) In public she always makes herself the centre of attention, weather its by shouting and being drunk, or sitting in a place where everyone can see her, and she ALWAYS starts talking to guys she doesnt know, get their nuber, etc etc....
5) She is always wanting to go on ONE on ONE "friendly dates" with her guy friends, which she KNOWS like her too...
BUT
On the phone, online chat, sms's, emails, etc she Always goes on about hom much she loves him and how much she cares and that she hopes that the 2 of them last forever etc.... and when he suggests that they break up after a fight or wateva she bursts into tears, af if she really does care about him, and only him.
But on the other hand
In person when there are other guys around she will act as if he isnt even there, and she will flirt and touch other guys etc.
The million dollar question:
What is going on in this girls head? What does she want/feel?
My answer to this situation:
I said that I think that she DOES like him, BUT she has been an attention wh0re her whole life, and probably just cant get "out of that habbit" so quickly, and that it would take a while untill she becomes "normal".
When i asked him (my friend) why he doesnt just leave her and look for a girl that isnt an attention wh0re, he simply said that he really fell for her, and he fell hard for her, and he cant imagine leaving her, and all this other b.s about how she took his heart, and he doenst WANT anyone else etc... blah di blah!
So what i did was i went up to her and had a little chat with her...
The conversation between me and her:
Me: So whats going on with you and (my friends name)?
Her: what do you mean? nothing? everything is fine as far as i know, why? is something wrong?
Me: Well, i've been seeing you around and i kinda noticed that you have been flirting with other guys and really not paying (my friends name) much attention... any reason for that?
Her: excuse me? i DONT flirt with other guys, thats just my personality, i'm lively and bubbly and i make them laugh etc, but i DONT flirt with them! And as far as not paying (my friends name) enough attention, well, at breaks i like spending with my friends because i dont see them much and its wierd at school in front of everyone, why cant i just see him after school? Its embarrasing in school!
Me: Well i think that you are just being immature about it, because you have no reason to be "embarrased" about being with (my friends name)! wtf? whats there to be embarrased about?
Her: i dont know, its just embarrasing ok!
Me: errr.... ok wateva.... all i can say is that the way that you treat (my friends name) is wrong, and you're lucky that he likes you so much, because if i were him, i would tell you to go f*ck yourself!
At this point i just turned around and walked away.
I spoke to my friend again earliyer today, and he told me about a punk gig that was on over the week end...
The punk gig/concert story:
On Friday afternoon she calles him and tells him that her and her 2 other friends are going to the punk gig/concert that night, and being a person that wasnt really fond of punk, he (my friend)(her bf) told her that he didnt really wanna go there and he was hoping that the 2 of them could go somewhere else, but he said "ok" and he told her that he would come for HER...
Then she starts going on about how he musnt come because she knows that he doesnt like punk and that he "wouldnt fit in because he is more like a backstreet boy, and punk is like the total opposite".... after coming to an agreement that they prob wouldnt see eachother on Friday night he told her that he would come for 10 minutes before going to his other plans... so her responce to him telling her that he was going to come for 10 minutes was " whats the point of coming if its only for 10 minutes?" I'll rather see you on Sat night or Monday or wateva" ....
I STILL dont understand where this girl is coming from, or wtf is going through her head, but the only reason that i could think of her not wanting her bf to come, is that she had another guy on her eye's.
BUT
After that night, he (my freind)(her bf) spoke to some people that were there and saw her etc and she wasnt with any other guys there, she was with her 2 girl friends for the majority of the night, except for ONE of her guy CLOSE friends that was drunk and she was "helping" him etc.
Ok... i wont make this post too long... but overall, what do you think is going on in this girls head? What does she want/feel etc?
Laterz...
