"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Anonymous wingmen. A good idea?

Is hooking up with a strange wingman a good idea?

  • Hell yea, my friends are chumps.

    Votes: 13 76.5%
  • Hell no, he might be a chump.

    Votes: 4 23.5%

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    17

bugsquish

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You might be inviting a hookup with a DJ wannabe, a RAFC, an AFC, a guy with no looks, no style, no game, no intelligence. Someone who wants to get in your way and feed off your game. Basically, someone who will do your game more harm than good.

You might also be hooking up with the suavest best looking guy on here. You just can't tell.

What do you guys think?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MoAF

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Well I've met 2 DJ's so far. One I'd talked to for a year or so, and another only a week or two. They drove up to BUF together and I must say it wasn't too shabby. After all, if you meet someone and they are just an AFC/RAFC/DJWB you could always just approach solo with them chilling in the background taking some mental notes and just take turns. Having somone to share your battles/stories/ideas with is invaluble in this game.
 

SamePendo

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You just check the past messages this guy has made, and check out how he is. It gives you a pretty good idea of what he is.
 

So pimp its scary

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You could always ask for a picture or some sort of unbiased rating of skills (ie.: I would say that I have more bad days picking up chicks then good days, or on a scale from 1(retarded with women) to 10(Master DJ) that I am 4)...

or checking out what the person posts... the only thing is that you might end up being the teacher rather then the pupil... and I could see that being an advantage in some ways.
 

squirrels

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F**k...if he's keeping her friends busy...

That's the main thing...find a decent looking dude who's attracted to her friend(s) and sic him on them while you work the one YOU'RE into.

As far as OTHER DJs, like was said, if you don't get a true DJ vibe off the guy, the best thing to do would be to take turns approaching and seeing what happens. And again, really, all the wing has to do is distract the other girl(s) from the target.

Having a neutral observer instead of someone who's in the mix with you, though, could yield some decent insight.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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