"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Annoying...
- Thread starter Arts
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
TheEnergizer
Don Juan
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whatever it is, youre not funny. trying to be funny but failing is just awkward. but that, coupled with those last 2 things makes it annoying. if you were actually funny people wouldnt care if you talked a lot, because it would make them laugh, firing humorous jokes all the time. work on your humor. thatll negate your annoyingness. try saying stuff that are actually witty, that are funny. dont laugh at your own jokes, if you do then at least wait until your audience starts laughing first to laugh with them. do stuff that is light-hearted and fun, and dont try too hard. thats another thing that annoys people. keep it cool, have common sense, dont be a dumbass. its really not hard to not be annoying. be competent. not being an idiot helps, try to become(or at least act) more intelligent.
MrP
Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Please explain. Maybe my friend is one of those annoying people.Arts said:Good news guys. I've broken the cycle. I stopped hanging out with the people who are causing me to be annoying and finally learned to shut the **** up.