"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Annoyed when women call me by my last name

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Update: while at a party, i casually told a girl who always calls me by my last name that i prefer going by my first name. she said she'd call me that from now on. wasn't sure if she'd remember because we were pretty drunk.

since i saw her today she's been calling me by my first name, and even corrected herself a few times when she called me smith.
 
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tsmith2334 said:
Update: while at a party, i casually told a girl who always calls me by my last name that i prefer going by my first name. she said she'd call me that from now on. wasn't sure if she'd remember because we were pretty drunk.

since i saw her today she's been calling me by my first name, and even corrected herself a few times when she called me smith.
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Way to go! Keep on training them.
 
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Are you military? Are these chicks military? If so, I can understand. Rank and last name is generally all you know about a lot of people's names (unless you give them nicknames). But I do know that in the white collar world and other places, a lot of people conciously affect calling people by their last name (even when first name basis is not deemed inappropriate and is the norm.) as merely a quirk. Probably they're going off what they see on TV shows and want to inject some edginess or eccentricity into their persona.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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tsmith2334 said:
In my circle of friends, I tend to get called by my last name. Unfortunately, being referred to by my last name so much as carried over to the female members of the group and some others as well. I would much rather go by my first name. I feel like when I'm called by my first name I am taken more seriously and probably more attractive to that person.

Am I wrong to feel this way and to have this hunch? Or should I embrace being called by my last name? I mean, it's not a silly nickname or something, just the second half of my birth name. I really just don't like it though. Feedback is appreciaited...
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If you don't want women calling you by your last name, just ask them to call you by your frist name instead. What's so hard about that.
 
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