annoyed - some advice please

[Flying Dutchman]

.I have been skyping with a girl for weeks now. The conversations go well and I might go visit her as she lives far away (we met online).

Today she managed to annoy me by starting to tell about a guy who would come close to her town because of work for four days.
Than this guy asked her to spend time with her but she only wants to spend one evening with him having dinner.
She added, told me she doesn't find him attractive.

This non attractive she said afterwards, before telling this story out of the blue and watching my face getting more 'tense'. Afterward she said you acted a bit jealous when i told this, you looked tense.
First of all I really didnt liked hearing this as i was not jealous but just a bit angry and dissappointed.

Afterwards questions came that annoyed me more like:
Do you have many girls as friends?
I was aware she was trying to find out something and I thought that we had a good understanding with each other first conversations where i made clear not to be a game player and be tired of games.

So is my opinion that this is just not nice to hear what you guys think?
And how to act from now on?
I was so annoyed that the phone call went like this that i quickly wanted to end the call as i wanted to prevent to loose my cool as i recently have bad days as being recently unemployed.

 

[The Duke]

Typical female behavior.....she feels guilty for having relations with this other guy and is trying to justify her actions by building a case against you.

The first thing that concerns me is you are all worked up about a chic you have never visited in person.

 

[PlayHer Man]

Talking on the phone with women you haven't banged is a good way to get friendzoned.

Actually, even with women I'm f*cking.. no phone conversation exceeds 10 minutes. I HATE talking on the phone and I don't use webcams or any of that faggot software that lets you talk face to face with people (skype). If she wants to talk for hours she can come to my place.

Also, any girl you meet online needs to be local or in a city you plan to visit for business/vacation/pleasure.

You should always be spinning plates and only give special attention to women who are getting physical with you. Simple.

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

Talking on the phone with women you haven't banged is a good way to get friendzoned.

Actually, even with women I'm f*cking.. no phone conversation exceeds 10 minutes. I HATE talking on the phone and I don't use webcams or any of that faggot software that lets you talk face to face with people (skype). If she wants to talk for hours she can come to my place.

Also, any girl you meet online needs to be local or in a city you plan to visit for business/vacation/pleasure.

You should always be spinning plates and only give special attention to women who are getting physical with you. Simple.

That's some good fking advice. ^

 

[Flying Dutchman]

Ok.

The thing is or first talkings went very good on skype. In december I was quite heart broken. She had a similar experience so we where somehow having same thing wishing for non games in the relationship.
During this last call she said: 'I shouldnt have mentioned the other guy' she said this but still my mood was ruined.

Now I wonder what to say next call, I'm for sure as advised talk less with her. But is there something particular I should say?

Thanks for advice

 

[Flying Dutchman]

She lives really far away. 500 miles and we are going to meet for 5 days and we will spend some time together in a hotel.
So that shouldn't be bad..

But I indeed have to cut down drastically on all this calling

 

[VladPatton]

Stop this online chatting thing immediately. You have no idea what goes on behind the closed computer. These relationships seldom end well. You will be constantly thinking about what is going on with her when the computer is not on, then find instant relief when you see her and she tells you all is fine. Then be a nervous wreck once again when she is not there. It's not hard to lie to someone face to face, but online it is ridiculously easy.

I suggest you watch "Catfish" the movie. Even the MTV show.

Happened to me, and it is no joke. It messes with your emotions in an unimaginable way. And at the end of the day it is not even real, it is all webcams, long, drawn out phone calls, and jpegs through email.

Take heavy caution at this whole thing. Keep it local and face to face...always.

Good luck.