"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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angy ex threatens to scandalize my new prospect

Lhemmix

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My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We were still friends and bang each other every now and then.

Recently, I found someone new and good (not yet my gf ). My ex is being jealous of me, and would have fights with me. She just recently returned some stuff that I gave her.

Now, she threatens to confront the girl. I am afraid that this new girl would be intimidated by her and might ruin the possibility of a future relationship with this new girl.

By the way, though I have told this new girl that I broke up with my ex. She still believes that I'm still attached since I am always seen together with my ex.

The setting is in a school/university.
Guys, what must I do?

Any help would be appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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DonJuanMonk

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Originally posted by Lhemmix
My ex and I broke up 4 months ago. We were still friends and bang each other every now and then.
Should've left her clean and not "bang each other every now and then."
 

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thats why all the guys here suggest no contact after a break up, its for times like these.

the ex is jealous and probally thought she would have the chance at going back out. now she is pissed and will stop at nothing to get her way. nip it in the bud! when she threatens you, you go ahead and tell her to can it. you should also break the contact. its simpler than it sounds. when she says "im gonna tell jenny about you and me still going at it all this time if you dont dump her" you go ahead and say " im not dumping jenny and i already told her you are a crazy loon and all my friends backed me up because they know you. it would be in your best interest to steer clear of me from the future so you dont look like a total fruit cake"

you need to tell the new gf that the old one is a crazy jealous loon and is starting rumors so she will dump you. have your buddies back you up.
 

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my ex already picked a fight with the girl through text.
no personal confrontation though.
what must i do to defuse the situation?

the girl called me and was crying. has my ex just ruined a possible future relationship?

were not yet so close with this girl.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Lhemmix
By the way, though I have told this new girl that I broke up with my ex. She still believes that I'm still attached since I am always seen together with my ex.
That's beacuse she is right. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Be a man and not a boy and get rid of your ex for good. If she goes out of her way to damage your relationship, SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. You are trying to find that relationship loophole where you can stll be fvck buddy with the ex without the commitment. Well it ain't going to happen buddy, grow up.


Originally posted by Lhemmix
my ex already picked a fight with the girl through text.
no personal confrontation though.
what must i do to defuse the situation?
Other posters already gave you a good advice to dump your ex for good but you are still resisting.

Originally posted by Lhemmix
the girl called me and was crying. has my ex just ruined a possible future relationship?
Actually you are the one ruining your future relationship with the new girl by allowing your ex to be in the picture. This is your fault mostly.
 

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Yes the best solution is a clean break next time.

How the heck does your ex know about a future prospect unless you told her?
 

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banging.........

Hey,

You did not break-up 4 months ago.

Why did I say that?

Because, you are still banging the ex.....

You have to break it off, Pal, so you can move on.......

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