"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Anger Management

Rocko

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hey guys, hows it goin. I was just wondering if there are some people here who could help me out with an issue of mine. I am a pretty ****y / alpha / confident guy when im around friends, but for some reason (I think i know why), when I'm around my family, i just go all angry and shut them out. I'm 17, and i know it's bad what I'm doing and sometimes i just control my anger. But there are other times when i just get so annoyed by ignorance or stupid questions, i blow a fuse. I know its not their fault, and i know i shouldn't react the way i do, but sometimes it just happens. I think i do it souly to my immediate family just because i know they will never leave me or hurt me no matter what they say. Please, if anyone can help. I would really appreciate some anger management techniques you guys use, or if you are in a similar situation, i would love to know about it. Its killing me, i hate bein all angry, it sucks
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Lion

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Just a thought, imagine what its like when members of your family get angry- it doesn't sound good! Is that how you want to look?

I can see why you do it because you think family is family and you can act how you like around them. Well theres no excuse for stupid/ignorant comments!!

You could train yourself to act calmer by taking deep breaths and focusing on how you want a conversation to end.

Most importantly talk to your family, explain to them in a calm manner why you are getting angry at them, show them some respect and tell them it is very important to you.
 

Rocko

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thanks for the advice, before the post, i did try talking to my brother, telling him that i don't like it when he makes fun of me (hes like 20, wtf is he thinking), but all he says is "ahh boo hoo, you gonna cry?" then i say no, and he starts fake crying, and it just gets to me, i mean, come on! I tell him to please help work with me and screams at me saying that its my problem and that i should take care of it, and that he is of no position to help me. What the hell?!!? I know thats hes just being an ass and I do have a right to yell at him after he pulls off some **** like that, right??
 

Lion

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Well he's answered your question for you! He is in no position to help you because he sounds more immature than a 17 yr old.

You can yell at him/punch him etc... but it won't help much! The best thing to do is walk away, maybe leave off a witty comment by making fun of him!

Its gonna happen, he's your older bro... if you can deal with him you will learn to deal with other people more easily
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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OfficeSpace

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My younger brother (one year younger) is like that. I good punch fixes things. He's quiet and avoids me for the rest of the day! It's awesome! Then after 2 days, we both forget about the whole thing and we're friends again./
 
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