Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Wrestlers became dominant when they developed submission defense and top submissions. I am an old wrestle/boxer from way back and when I first started rolling BJJ I would get worked, just like the Americans did in early MMA. It wasn't until I kinda sorta picked up some submissions that I started to hold my own. And I'm no brilliant athlete but I think it was easier to pick up being an ex-high school wrestler. Wrestlers now have to become "catch wrestlers" or good hybrid strikers to really be successful.speakeasy said:Wrestling certainly does seem to be showing its effectiveness though. For a big, strong guy, it's the most effective fighting style he can learn for his body type. Take down defenses don't seem to be very effective against a good wrestler who is determined to get you on your back.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
While Sonnen was dominating the fight for almost 5 rounds, I wouldn't say Silva "got lucky". There were several unsuccessful attempts at submissions from Silva's side to indicate that he was trying the whole time. Sure, he got the beating of a lifetime, but Sonnen was the one with the gashing wound in the forehead.j0n24 said:Wrestling is taking over the sport now that the olympic athletes are coming into MMA.
I cant believe Sonnen was dominating that much the guy that everyone gushes over being the p4p best fighter in the world. Sonnen blew silvas game apart even though he got lucky at the end of the 5th and sonnen got lazy.
Then Silva has the nerve to say he was injured going into the fight.....talk about a sore winner. P4p guy making excuses on his sloppy fight.
Awesome fightsquirrels said:Here's the thing...the whole time I was watching that fight, I watched Silva getting his skull pounded on and, although he wasn't really fighting back, he didn't look like he was even really getting HURT. I'm sure he was tired to some extent, but I almost feel as if his strategy WAS to wait for the "championship rounds" and count on Sonnen getting tired and making a mistake.
I honestly don't know after that fight if Silva truly got dominated and just got lucky at the end, or if he's just f*cking with Sonnen, the UFC, and all of us.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.