She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Wrestlers became dominant when they developed submission defense and top submissions. I am an old wrestle/boxer from way back and when I first started rolling BJJ I would get worked, just like the Americans did in early MMA. It wasn't until I kinda sorta picked up some submissions that I started to hold my own. And I'm no brilliant athlete but I think it was easier to pick up being an ex-high school wrestler. Wrestlers now have to become "catch wrestlers" or good hybrid strikers to really be successful.speakeasy said:Wrestling certainly does seem to be showing its effectiveness though. For a big, strong guy, it's the most effective fighting style he can learn for his body type. Take down defenses don't seem to be very effective against a good wrestler who is determined to get you on your back.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
While Sonnen was dominating the fight for almost 5 rounds, I wouldn't say Silva "got lucky". There were several unsuccessful attempts at submissions from Silva's side to indicate that he was trying the whole time. Sure, he got the beating of a lifetime, but Sonnen was the one with the gashing wound in the forehead.j0n24 said:Wrestling is taking over the sport now that the olympic athletes are coming into MMA.
I cant believe Sonnen was dominating that much the guy that everyone gushes over being the p4p best fighter in the world. Sonnen blew silvas game apart even though he got lucky at the end of the 5th and sonnen got lazy.
Then Silva has the nerve to say he was injured going into the fight.....talk about a sore winner. P4p guy making excuses on his sloppy fight.
Awesome fightsquirrels said:Here's the thing...the whole time I was watching that fight, I watched Silva getting his skull pounded on and, although he wasn't really fighting back, he didn't look like he was even really getting HURT. I'm sure he was tired to some extent, but I almost feel as if his strategy WAS to wait for the "championship rounds" and count on Sonnen getting tired and making a mistake.
I honestly don't know after that fight if Silva truly got dominated and just got lucky at the end, or if he's just f*cking with Sonnen, the UFC, and all of us.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.