"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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And You Thought You Would Never Get Over Her?

orbion2013

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Ever fallen for a chick, so deep and hard... that you thought you would never get over her?

do you look back now & think what the f@ck was i thinking?


did you get over her?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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skinnyguy

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Yep….

I swear you're in a trance when you're in love with a girl.
 

MtnMan

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skinnyguy said:
Yep….

I swear you're in a trance when you're in love with a girl.
hah! well put
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Arthy

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It's funny, she was the reason i found this website, i even forgot she exists, you reminded me with this thread.
 

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Yes and it always reminds me that the best way to get over a girl is another girl. Or more than one.
 

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orbion2013 said:
Ever fallen for a chick, so deep and hard... that you thought you would never get over her?

do you look back now & think what the f@ck was i thinking?


did you get over her?
Of course dude
 

myyearofchange

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Uncharted said:
Yes and it always reminds me that the best way to get over a girl is another girl. Or more than one.
Yes to all three, and every LTR that I get into is with a BETTER girl than the one I had right before, so even when things don't work out with a certain girl, they just end up better later on. And yeah, meeting new girls always helps speed it up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The LadyKiller

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Uncharted said:
it always reminds me that the best way to get over a girl is another girl. Or more than one.
Exactly. This is true for me too. Once I find a new girl, I forget about the previous girl who I was hung up about.
 

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Arthy said:
It's funny, she was the reason i found this website, i even forgot she exists, you reminded me with this thread.
Same here haha.
 

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I remember I had it really bad for my high school girlfriend in my senior year. I had about enough of her and we sort of mutually parted ways for a week. Then, out of nowhere she gets with a guy I absolutely hated. Of course, like a fool, I tried to get her back and it didn't work. I was a MESS. I could barely go to school, eat, study, anything.

Then, they broke up 4 weeks later. And by that time I was still sort of on the fence about her and just about recovered.

Looking back, and seeing her a couple times after we had broke up, and seeing her on Facebook recently, I do wonder what I was thinking. She wasn't smart, not nearly as pretty as other women I've been with, and certainly not the nicest person. I will never look back at her and think "she's the one who got away!!!" lol.

I wonder what it is that makes us fall for the WORST women.
 

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Just yesterday I bumped into my ex, I barely noticed her as I was walking fast, she seemed to be butthurt and I sincerely can't understand why. She didn't even say hello. well who cares. When she was with me she was always smiling and full of energy, but now... WTF!! was I crazy to date this girl? butthurt, unhealthy, she seemed a little bit fat and not caring about herself, no make up at all. Wow.Eventually I got it, now I can understand why she's butthurt: she saw me relaxed, friendly with a lot of girls, superfit after hours in the gym and always dressed to kill with james bond attitude... warning: hamster spinning!
 

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Haha. Yes, yes, and over many... still working on one.

NC is huge. Gives your mind time to heal, to sleep, to replenish.

The mind is an evil thing. It is not consciousness. It obsesses about things that aren't in front of your face... the past, the future, her....

You are in this moment now. Remember that.

If you are focused on filling this moment with all things good and good for you... then you will find peace. Time is a great healer... but so is action.

This is the time for you to grow and be a better man... don't waste it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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