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The shift away from proper language skills: a short analysis

Kids can't write. Heck, people my age can't write.

Now, it might be because I'm a French major (along with History) and I read a whole lot of books, but I have a lot of trouble respecting someone who rits lik diz n cnt spel prprly bcoz dey r so kewl. (For those who don't read retard: someone who writes like this and cannot spell properly because they are so cool.) Sure, if you're chatting on MSN you can use shorthand--if you really have to because you're chatting on MSN using your cell phone, or you're really pressed for time, or whatever reason. Same if you're speaking; I sound like a bloody valley person sometimes. (Working on that. I want to at least speak Mockney. Sure beats Newfie!)

There also appears to be some confusion regarding the use of paragraphs. More specifically, it appears as though people have forgotten that paragraphs even exist. After Holocaust-deniers, we have paragraph-deniers. People who write two pages of poorly worded, error-ridden excrement, without hitting the Enter key once.

To go back to the respect aspect of the question, now. I think if someone doesn't respect me enough to offer the most basic of courtesies by writing properly and legibly, I shouldn't respect them enough to even bother reading what they've written, let alone help them if they're asking for my help. Would you send a letter to your grandmother ritin lik diz n makin weird sntnce w/out ritin full word and usin propr gramr n spelin? I think not. So why disrespect everyone else by writing like a complete retard? Unless you're in elementary school--in which case you probably shouldn't be reading this--you have absolutely no reason to not write properly. This is especially true of university students. I can't imagine how many points some of these people lost just in terms of grammar/spelling/etc errors.

This brings me to my second subtopic: the root cause.

Now, I can't conclusively lay the blame on anyone; I'm not a sociologist and my knowledge of education theories is severely limited. However, I can theorize on a few possible culprits.

First, the education system. Like I said, I don't know about theories and I don't know about the various systems in place and all that jazz. What I do know, is that students coming out of high school seem to lack a basic set of language skills in their first language. While the cause might lay elsewhere, the education system is at fault if only for allowing students to graduate and go on to university while lacking those basic skills. If the education system enforced the need for language skills--grammar and spelling, at least--then the problem would at least start to go away. I'm fairly certain that if someone is told they will not graduate from high school because they cannot write properly, they will learn how to do so and apply those skills, if only they can get that minimum wage job at the factory, that requires a high school diploma as a minimum.

Second, the internet generation phenomena. The problem of being unable to write seems to have appeared in large part with the internet. Even the MTV generation, while they might have some trouble writing in an eloquent, more "elevated" language, have the basic skills to communicate in written form. They might have trouble conjugating (especially in French) or they might forget an "s" here or there, but they generally write somewhat properly. However, the generation immediately following the MTV generation--those of us who grew up with the internet, and those that are coming up after us--seems to have forgotten that beyond the wild world of "1337sp33k" and "msn speek," there is the real world where real people interact in the Queen's English and in French. (And in German, Spanish, and all the other languages, except msn speek.)

This poses a very serious problem. While Generation Xers and those of us who came either at the tail end of Generation X, or at the junction point between Generation X and the Internet Generation, have language skills, it is likely we will not reach the higher echelons of power within our productive lives. The previous generations will still cling to power and the GenXers will only seep through slowly; that seepage will accelerate and eventually people from my generation will start getting in, but that process will be limited. The Internet Generation, however, will come of age at a time where the previous generations will be getting out of power--most of today's politicians will be too old to stay in office. This is scary, because those men and women of the future will likely still have trouble writing effectively. How will they sign treaties, pass new laws, and generally run the world, if they can't even write a sentence without making some major mistakes? There are other problems the Internet Generation will face on it's way to power, but that's for another day.

Generally, the Internet Generation is at a crossroads between looking "kewl" while they're teenagers and learning the language skills they will need not only to enter the real world, but to lead it, decades later.

The third culprit, and the last, (it's the triumvirate of evil!) is the parents. Now, I know it's not easy being a parent in the twenty-first century. Or at the very least, I can imagine it being very difficult. That being said, there seems to be a paradigm shift between the parenting of old, which basically meant one of the parents stayed at home during the formative years and then sent the child to kindergarten when he/she was old enough and made sure the child learned basic skills and aptitudes to later apply them in elementary school and throughout high school, and to foster a thirst for learning, towards a new parenting based on nannies, sitting a baby in front of the TV, and generally being an absent parent. The surge in utterly mindless, useless made-for-toddlers TV is a good sign of this paradigm. After all, my generation had Carebears and Mr. Rogers. This generation has Tele Tubbies. We learned about morals and how to count and how to make finger puppets; they learn about how to roll around in astroturf--not even real grass--and look up at a computer-rendered sky that has a baby's face superimposed on the sun. We read Goosebumps and other such short, quality novels; they read Harry Potter LXXIV.

Parents are distancing themselves from raising their children. While I appreciate the need for both parents to work in many families, I don't know if I can understand the need to not take any time off for at least a year or two while the child grows up and learns to understand the world.

To sum up my parenting point, I think that parents of today, most likely due to the economic and societal paradigms of the twenty-first century, are not only raising fewer children than previous generations, furthering the lack of future employment, but they are also raising "lower-quality" children who, because of the various faults in parenting during their "most important years" (from birth to about five years old), will grow up to be less educated, less competent, and generally will make up a generation of lost souls. As I've pointed out, they'll be the ones who will have to rise and lead the countries in a few decades; I'm not sure I feel very good about that.

For those who have skimmed through this and only read the first few words of each paragraph, this is where you should start reading so you know what I said. First, kids, and even people my age, simply cannot write properly for the most part, and I find it disrespectful. Second, I theorized that there are three main culprits: the education system, the phenomena of the Internet Generation, and poor parenting. The education system does not value good writing skills as much as it should, the Internet Generation is growing up using MSN and not writing properly and will eventually end up leading--poorly--the world, and parents are distancing themselves from actually parenting and are raising a generation of illiterate, uncultured, generally apathetic children who will, like I said, lead the world. Something should be done, must be done, if we are to change the situation and not only have children and young adults who can read and write properly, but also who can think critically and understand the world enough to have a good grasp on its problems so that those problems might be addressed.

That is all. Thank you, good night, and God bless Canada.

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I just thought this might spark some discussion. Also, I'm fine with being quoted elsewhere (though why anyone would do that is beyond me) as long as you ask for my permission, which I will generally grant as soon as you ask.
 

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hey glad to see there are still some linguists out there :D

the problem's even worse in the UK, seems like only gay guys want to study languages over here

repped too :)
 

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Whew, glad I'm not British! ;)

My university is really small--about 1200 students--but the French department (between 1/3 and 1/2 of the university is French) is incredibly small, even compared with the rest of the university. The English department fares slightly better, but even they are very limited in both the number of students and the number of teachers. Thing is, even if one doesn't study languages, higher learning should be dependent on proper language skills, shouldn't it?
 

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I can't say what proportion of linguists there are at my university, but most courses here require the maximum grades of AAA, whereas our linguists need around ABC, which is ridiculously low for any course at a top 5 university...they need language students that badly!
 

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I was born in 1988 and grew up reading Goosbumps (Great books read every single book), so I guess I'm part of the later X-generation! Thank god! I agree with the thread starter that the U.S. education system isn't doing well preparing kids to function in society. I live in Mass and every year the percent of kids failing the basic MCAST test is going up, my class was around 1-2% (Probably druggies and soon to be dropouts), I recently read that this year's class was 5%! 10% of my graduating class is going to community colleges cause they can't even get into the Massachusettes state schools, this is embarrasing. State highschools should be there to educate kids for them to at least get into state colleges.

U.S. education system should be revampted, when I moved to the states I met way too many immature and boarderline racist/ignorant kids (Middleschool-highschool). I met kids who thought Ninjas and Samurais still existed in Japan and it's fun to joke about the nuclear bomb and call Japanese kids Japs. A lot of kids hate "Hispanic kids" because they're parents are probably illegal immagrants. 95% of my school is white and most kids think saying and using "n*gger" is amusing and see nothing wrong with saying it. Our Valedictorian is a regular pot smoker/party animal. What's disturbing about this is that Massachusettes is ranked #2 for smartest state. I'll probably kill people for their stupidity if I went to California, Nevada or Arizona.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
...raising a generation of illiterate, uncultured, generally apathetic children who will, like I said, lead the world.
Your post seems to imply that in 50 or so years, any amendments to legislation would come out as:

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Da DrugZ (kewl!!!) and NarKoticz AcT (Amend-meNt 2057)
1. it iz prohibibited 2 sell drugZ pplz!!! LOL!!!!

etc.

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But... there are plenty of young people who ARE literate, cultured, and care about world issues. Maybe we should just leave it to them to lead the world in the future.
 

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cant think of a user name said:
Your post seems to imply that in 50 or so years, any amendments to legislation would come out as:

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Da DrugZ (kewl!!!) and NarKoticz AcT (Amend-meNt 2057)
1. it iz prohibibited 2 sell drugZ pplz!!! LOL!!!!

etc.

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But... there are plenty of young people who ARE literate, cultured, and care about world issues. Maybe we should just leave it to them to lead the world in the future.

lmao that is quite funny, although I think you over-estimate the number of literate and cultured young people out there. The grammar schools in the UK seem to be good at producing them though :)
 

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There's really no excuse to type or speak improperly. Even in SMS text messages, I use proper grammar and spelling. Well, not necessarily complete sentences, but I use punctuation and complete words. Basically, people my age are just stupid. There are a few of us who think more independently, but for the most part it's rednecks, thugs, or ho's.
 

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cant think of a user name said:
Your post seems to imply that in 50 or so years, any amendments to legislation would come out as:

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Da DrugZ (kewl!!!) and NarKoticz AcT (Amend-meNt 2057)
1. it iz prohibibited 2 sell drugZ pplz!!! LOL!!!!

etc.

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But... there are plenty of young people who ARE literate, cultured, and care about world issues. Maybe we should just leave it to them to lead the world in the future.
I had written a complete post and for some reason sosuave decided to log me off and keep me from going back to what I had written so that I could copy/paste it after logging back on, so forgive my possible lack of eloquence.

Winston Churchill said:
We shall go on to the end, we shall fight in France, we shall fight on the seas and oceans, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the air, we shall defend our Island, whatever the cost may be, we shall fight on the beaches, we shall fight on the landing grounds, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender, and even if, which I do not for a moment believe, this Island or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our Empire beyond the seas, armed and guarded by the British Fleet, would carry on the struggle, until, in God's good time, the New World, with all its power and might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the old.
John F. Kennedy said:
And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you - ask what you can do for your country.

My fellow citizens of the world: ask not what America will do for you, but what together we can do for the freedom of man.
Ronald Reagan said:
General Secretary Gorbachev, if you seek peace, if you seek prosperity for the Soviet Union and Eastern Europe, if you seek liberalization: Come here to this gate! Mr. Gorbachev, open this gate! Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall!
Bill Clinton said:
Now, I have to go back to work on my State of the Union speech. And I worked on it until pretty late last night. But I want to say one thing to the American people. I want you to listen to me. I'm going to say this again. I did not have sexual relations with that woman, Miss Lewinsky. I never told anybody to lie, not a single time; never. These allegations are false. And I need to go back to work for the American people.
There seems, to me, to be a very visible decrease in eloquence and in the sheer quality of the speeches as time went on. My argument is that although loss of language skills is gradual and is not limited to kids--when US Presidents start to lack those skills it becomes quite obvious it is not limited to my generation and those that follow it--but it seems to me that it is progressing at an alarming rate with the advent of the internet, SMS, and other modern methods of communications.

I'm not saying there are no literate children in today's world, however. I heartily agree that there are some; their numbers are, sadly, lacking. What I am most worried about is not so much the lack of children and young adults who do not possess those skills, but rather the very real possibility that, faced with a world that puts less and less importance on writing and even thinking skills, those children and young adults will simply give up their quest to write properly and be literate and cultured and decide to "fit the mold" by watching MTV instead of the History Channel, switching from reading Esquire and GQ to FHM and Maxim, and giving up Chopin for Hellogoodbye. While most literate youngsters have enough self-esteem and confidence to avoid bowing to peer pressure, facing that peer pressure when they are into their 20s and their peers are still unskilled and, despite those shortcomings, still manage to have comparable jobs, might prove to be their downfall.

I agree with your point completely, but I'm not sure we can just count on kids to keep on strong without some kind of backup; isn't it better if everyone speaks proper English (or whatever their main language is), anyway?

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CCKazi007, I think it's funny that you assumed I was refering to the American education system, because, being Canadian, I really meant our system. However, from what I know, it seems most issues are "shared" by our two nations, along with the rest of the Western world, with perhaps the exception of France (where the elite do get a very good education and only the poor classes truly lack in that element) and the highest stratas of English society (who go to Eton, for example), and that the lack of language skills is plaguing many of these countries.
 

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gmillar said:
There's really no excuse to type or speak improperly. Even in SMS text messages, I use proper grammar and spelling. Well, not necessarily complete sentences, but I use punctuation and complete words. ... ho's.
Sorry, but that just made me snicker.
 

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gmillar said:
Haha I never said I don't use slang, I'm talking about stupid abbreviations.
u meen liek dis? ..lollz.. ya dats not gr8 bro...

Ok, enough messing around. On a more serious note, I'm fine with slang in certain situations; my problem is more with those who can't elevate their language a little bit and schoolchildren who actually think "great" is spelled with a digit. I'm not about to launch the Language Gestapo... not that it wouldn't be a great idea.
 

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Fred Da Head said:
I agree with your point completely, but I'm not sure we can just count on kids to keep on strong without some kind of backup; isn't it better if everyone speaks proper English (or whatever their main language is), anyway?
Yeah, sorry! I think I see your point now.

By the way, when you did that series of Presidential Speeches, I thought you were gonna do a Letterman and throw in some George W Bush at the end :D.

howardalex said:
lmao that is quite funny, although I think you over-estimate the number of literate and cultured young people out there.
Got to have faith in our young people!
 

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By the way, when you did that series of Presidential Speeches, I thought you were gonna do a Letterman and throw in some George W Bush at the end :D.
I almost did, but that seemed a bit too cliché for me. Besides, he's the target for pretty much everyone else already; I'm special, I don't do what everyone else does.

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