Dongfu
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
And the best city in the country is . . .
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I like Chicago a lot. A lot of sports teams; Wrigley Field and the surrounding area is an experience everyone needs to visit. Very good food; killer pizza places around here. The women are amazing, and I read that the city demographic is close to 60% female. It's fast-paced and busy, but not crazy packed like New York (you can still have a car if you want), and not pretentious like L.A. can be (the best places to hang out rarely have lines or hefty cover charges). I feel it's the best of both worlds. During the summer there are multiple street festivals every weekend, and co-ed softball leagues are really popular as well.
Obviously, the weather is less than ideal, and if you go to the wrong part of town, things can go sour pretty quickly.
I live in a yuppy-ish area so it's full of pizza places, sushi restaurants, bars and music venues, and it's a ton of fun. Overall the prices are on the higher side, but much lower than California and New York.
Obviously, the weather is less than ideal, and if you go to the wrong part of town, things can go sour pretty quickly.
I live in a yuppy-ish area so it's full of pizza places, sushi restaurants, bars and music venues, and it's a ton of fun. Overall the prices are on the higher side, but much lower than California and New York.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
3countriesPlan
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I love Chicago as well, but I hear about how messed up the crime is. How many parts of the city should people not be going into?
DogFashionDisco
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I live in Chicago, and let me tell you, you do not want to run out of gas in a bad area of town. I felt like i was gonna get murdered or raped, or both. I actually had to leave a gas station several times because i felt so uncomfortable.
But otherwise Chicago is a fantastic place to be. And my god the pizza is to die for. It doesn't even taste like pizza. If you're in town, definately hit up Lou Malnati's (preferably) or Giordano's.
But otherwise Chicago is a fantastic place to be. And my god the pizza is to die for. It doesn't even taste like pizza. If you're in town, definately hit up Lou Malnati's (preferably) or Giordano's.
This is somewhat out of the context but...
I enjoyed Buenos Aires when I was there. Lots of good food, friendly people, places to go at night and very very nice girls that are a lot nicer than anything I've encountered so far. Lots of European tradition. Traditional role models for the most part. It's also more affordable than say LA or NYC.
The best part however, was that the men I worked with taught me a lot about women as well.
I enjoyed Buenos Aires when I was there. Lots of good food, friendly people, places to go at night and very very nice girls that are a lot nicer than anything I've encountered so far. Lots of European tradition. Traditional role models for the most part. It's also more affordable than say LA or NYC.
The best part however, was that the men I worked with taught me a lot about women as well.
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The U.S. best city is San Diego.
En the world best city is Firenze.
En the world best city is Firenze.
I live in Chicago and I would say its a great place to live. Great diversity, great clubbing and party town. Good sports town also. The beaches especially North avenue in the summertime are a haven for hot girls. Parking and Traffic is not as crazy as NY or LA.
The only drawback is the weather. The crime rate is really not that bad. If your in Chicago you are not going to be in the bad side of town. If you stay in the Northside you are fine. Its very safe.
I have had lengthy stays in NY, Dallas and Milwaukee and I would pic Milwaukee out of those three.
I hear Sandiego is awesome and boston also. Those are my next two places in the us I would like to visit.
The only drawback is the weather. The crime rate is really not that bad. If your in Chicago you are not going to be in the bad side of town. If you stay in the Northside you are fine. Its very safe.
I have had lengthy stays in NY, Dallas and Milwaukee and I would pic Milwaukee out of those three.
I hear Sandiego is awesome and boston also. Those are my next two places in the us I would like to visit.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Kidfabulous
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How's the housing in Chicago? I've always wanted to live there, but have always been curious as to how expensive living is...
BTW, how often do the Ottawa Senators come?
BTW, how often do the Ottawa Senators come?
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Yeah, Argentina is an immigrant country like America, Canada, and Australia. I have family there and so do many folks on this board (even if they don't know it). I laugh when people on here says someone looks Hispanic or Latin. People can be so stupid. Get out and travel, folks!thehexman said:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Argentine
Brazil also has HUGE amounts of European/Middle Eastern folks. As well as the largest Japanese population outside of Japan.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Image:Blumenauu.jpg
The part of Brazil that tourists don't see. The best part! Tourists see the areas with the ugly girls. Blumenau is nice, safe, and very clean. You won't get kidnapped there!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Japanese_Brazilian
Japanese Brazilians
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arab_Brazilian
Middle-Eastern Brazilians. Around 10 million in Brazil. Mostly Christians.
In the nice parts of Chicago you can get a studio for around $700/month, downtown is probably more like $1,000 though. If you want roommates you can get that number down very easily. My first apartment was a 4 bedroom one block from Wrigley Field (you could hear the crowd during games, it was pretty cool) and I paid $350/month. It's also one block from the El, a bus stop, and more bars/restaurants than you can count.
If you look to buy in the nice areas, the going rate is somewhere around $450 per square foot. Pretty freaking high, but you pay for location around here.
If you look to buy in the nice areas, the going rate is somewhere around $450 per square foot. Pretty freaking high, but you pay for location around here.