"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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And so the plot thickens..

DJx420

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Hey guys,

For those of you that have been keeping up with my previous few threads I appreciate all your help!!!

If you haven't, heres a mild breakdown of what I'm involved in right now. I basically met this girl my freshman year of college. Didn't really "want her" until a year later and have randomly hooked up (not sex) from my sophmore year up until first semester of this year. At that point we decided to stop doing it. Then came spring break. Girl begged me to come home with her on the last night and finally went all the way (SCORE!). It was amazing and I loved every single second of it.

Now, were back at school and have been consistently hooking up ever since. Mostly all drunk hookups. Now me personally, I want this to develop into something, but yes I know that I can't bring that up I have to wait on her.

So thats basically where I'm at. Heres where the new stuff comes in.....

This past weekend I went to my friends formal with her (she happens to be BEST friends with the girl I'm hooking up with). So we get there and as were pre-drinking her and all of her friends (the girl I'm hooking up with wasn't there), and they keep on telling me how this girl is REALLY happy where were at right now and I'm doing a great job and they started talking about us getting married and what not.

Now there I was, not expecting any of these information to be bestowed upon me, and thus my reactions were pretty standard. I didn't really give them too much insight as to where I'm at with this whole thing (even though i was extremely happy on the inside).

So that brings me here...See I want to text this girl see whatsup and talk to her and perhaps maybe even get a chill session in but I don't know if that would come off as needy. Keep in mind that she was home for the weekend so I haven't seen her since Thursday night.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mantis Toboggan

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DJx420 said:
So that brings me here...See I want to text this girl see whatsup and talk to her and perhaps maybe even get a chill session in but I don't know if that would come off as needy. Keep in mind that she was home for the weekend so I haven't seen her since Thursday night.
I had to read all that just so you could ask me whether or not it's okay to text her between now and last Thursday? Jesus.

Yeah, call her to set a meetup. Not to chat though. How would it be needy to call a girl you haven't seen in 3-4 days? Needy is calling her every day. 3-4 days amounts to one or twice a week. That's fine.
 

Tiguere

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Call and ask her to come chill with you. Take her to the movies. It seems you guys need to socialize sobered up. Be like hey I'm about to so and so and was wondering if you would like to join me.

Do it now if not someone else will.
 
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