"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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and so it begins

ubercat

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In the finest traditions of SS time to post a FR thread for journalling.

Focus at the moment is expanding my social circle from a handful of friends 10 years bof AFC LTRs took their toll.

But I ll approach chicks too just keeping it on the DL.

Sat night was blown. Rib injury kept me in.
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Sun mornings I go to the market - cultivating it as one of my local venues.
Chatted to a couple of the stall owners I'm making friends with.
selling pai

Saw an HB 7rt chick selling paintings.
Positive things
I saw her and approached immediately 3 second rule
Conversation flowed easily
I got some flirting and kino in
I asked for her phone number and got it on a card
I asked her out for coffee next Saturday and she agreed
She had been sharing her coffee with me and I use that to say I showed her coffee and that smoothed over anyway awkwardness
I used the you remind me of a good friend line so she's not totally sure of my intentions
We had plenty of things in common she's into the martial arts too so rapport was good

Negative things
Big negative was I stayed talking to long she actually said she should talk to other people arrrgh such a rookie chump move so she will probably flake
Saturday is too long ahead to set the date

Next step
She gave me two cups of coffee
So I was going to say really I owe you 2 coffees so so I think it's fair that I buy you a drink
I was going to ring on Monday night set up a date for Wednesday or Thursday

Obviously I'm very rusty so I'd appreciate your thoughts guys
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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amazingswayze

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rusty? nonsense.

ubercat said:
Obviously I'm very rusty so I'd appreciate your thoughts guys
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doesn't matter. keep practicing. what do you want from her, sex? if so, take it. assert yourself on these dates. it's not just about having good conversation. escalate. kiss her. make out with her. keep it going until you bang her. you probably know what to do already but it seems like you're lacking a bit of confidence. :rock:

make moves before she loses interest. spin plates just in case. good luck bro. :yes:
 
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