Last year i was in an ltr, lasted 6 months and through a series of events that were really just unlucky and crappy, me and her broke up. She did want to break up when it happened (by explaining the circumstances, it wouldn't help much, and it's unimportant), it was really forced on her, but she didn't fight back to stay with me, if that makes sense.
Fast forward like three months, me n her hang out as "friends", it's awkward, ends badly.
A week or two later, she apologizes and we hang out again, ends with a kiss.
After more talk, we decide (me more than her) not to get back together.
I cut off contact with her, decide to just move on from it, and five months go by.
She starts replying to my livejournal thing (an online diary thing i use to set up parties and write up some funny stories), i don't say much to her. I do find out that she has a new boyfriend, and she's quite taken by him apparently. At this point i'd pretty much moved on, and didn't really care.
I come home the other night with a few messages from her on AIM saying me and her should talk and catch up etc etc.
Finally we come to tonight, i get online and she IMs me seeing what's up. She's on AIM over her cell phone and says we should just talk on the phone, so we get on the phone and start talking about whatever for like an hour and a half (I have an imagination like no other, and can keep things interesting as long as needed), it was so long because we were catching up on six months of crap, but her boyfriend came up only briefly when she told me that he may be moving out of state.
She was cracking up the entire time, and kept talking about memories from when me n her were together, and basically just brought up everything i'd moved on from so long ago.
On what a day too, this weekend, all up to today has brought up at least four, FOUR girls who are interested in me and easy targets.
Unfortunately, people want what they can't have.
I'm just back from the phone chat and really confused, the conversation was basically the same as the ones we always used to have, and we both enjoyed it. The thing that helped me move on so much in the first place was the thought that "she doesn't give a damn about you, why should you about her?", which the whole phone thing kinda screwed with. Other than the whole possibility of her boyfriend moving thing, nothing else has really happened that sprung her suddenly IMing me and wanting to talk. She isn't even sure if he is moving, at that.
Basically i'm at a loss as to where to go from here. She's VERY attractive, like one of the hottest girls her age i've seen. I'd be lying if i said i weren't still into her (if you asked me this two hours ago, i could have honestly said i didn't really think about her anymore, but then this happened)
Has anyone here had a similar situation with ex's comming back after months of not talking, or even when they already have boyfriends? Even if she does want to start something, i'm not sure if I should.
Pretty much what i'm looking for is what people here think about the situation, and where i should take it from here.
As always, thanks to everyone who puts up with my long detail filled questions to help me out here - take it easy all.
Fast forward like three months, me n her hang out as "friends", it's awkward, ends badly.
A week or two later, she apologizes and we hang out again, ends with a kiss.
After more talk, we decide (me more than her) not to get back together.
I cut off contact with her, decide to just move on from it, and five months go by.
She starts replying to my livejournal thing (an online diary thing i use to set up parties and write up some funny stories), i don't say much to her. I do find out that she has a new boyfriend, and she's quite taken by him apparently. At this point i'd pretty much moved on, and didn't really care.
I come home the other night with a few messages from her on AIM saying me and her should talk and catch up etc etc.
Finally we come to tonight, i get online and she IMs me seeing what's up. She's on AIM over her cell phone and says we should just talk on the phone, so we get on the phone and start talking about whatever for like an hour and a half (I have an imagination like no other, and can keep things interesting as long as needed), it was so long because we were catching up on six months of crap, but her boyfriend came up only briefly when she told me that he may be moving out of state.
She was cracking up the entire time, and kept talking about memories from when me n her were together, and basically just brought up everything i'd moved on from so long ago.
On what a day too, this weekend, all up to today has brought up at least four, FOUR girls who are interested in me and easy targets.
Unfortunately, people want what they can't have.
I'm just back from the phone chat and really confused, the conversation was basically the same as the ones we always used to have, and we both enjoyed it. The thing that helped me move on so much in the first place was the thought that "she doesn't give a damn about you, why should you about her?", which the whole phone thing kinda screwed with. Other than the whole possibility of her boyfriend moving thing, nothing else has really happened that sprung her suddenly IMing me and wanting to talk. She isn't even sure if he is moving, at that.
Basically i'm at a loss as to where to go from here. She's VERY attractive, like one of the hottest girls her age i've seen. I'd be lying if i said i weren't still into her (if you asked me this two hours ago, i could have honestly said i didn't really think about her anymore, but then this happened)
Has anyone here had a similar situation with ex's comming back after months of not talking, or even when they already have boyfriends? Even if she does want to start something, i'm not sure if I should.
Pretty much what i'm looking for is what people here think about the situation, and where i should take it from here.
As always, thanks to everyone who puts up with my long detail filled questions to help me out here - take it easy all.
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