Anchorman's Approach journal

[Anchorman]

Hey guys. I have finally decided to step up to the plate and start approaching on a regular basis. I will post my progress here.

First, some background on myself:

I am about to turn 20, and a sophmore in college in Los Angeles. I have always been shy and have had some major depression and self-confidence issues up until I started highschool and found this site, that's when I started to make a positive change. I have made a ton of progress and have defeated most of my demons. I am from a foreign country, and still feel sometimes that I am an outsider. However, I am heading towards positive change, and have a fire inside me to keep bettering myself.

Now to break it down, here is a list of my strengths and weaknesses:

Strengths:
1. no fear of rejection: I have a tendancy not to care what others think of me. can be both good and bad.
2. intelligence: I consider myself a pretty smart, witty guy. I understand the game, but still need a lot of practice.
3. drive to improve; I have a tremendous "fire" inside that keeps telling me to always try to do better. I love outdoing myself and my biggest fear is being a loser in life.
4. optimistic: I can see good in anything. I see life as one giant learning experience and even when I mess up, I learn from it and better myself.
5. maturity; I consider myself really mature for my age. I can see things from points of view many of my peers cant, and can see
6. self-judgement: I am completely honest with myself. If I fux up, I make sure I admit it to myself, no matter how bad the truth is. I am always honest with myself.

Weaknesses:
1. game: even though I understand the main puspose of the "game", I still lack a lot of experience and need practice.
2. freezing up; I have a tendancy to freeze up. Whether it is when I am just chatting up a girl or whether I am already IN and need to make a move, I just freeze up, my mind racing with questions and thoughs, and I end up falling short.
3. over analyzing; i tend to overanalyze things. I have made progress with this however; before, I would literally spend hours dissecting and analyzing every phraze of every statement a girl would say to me, trying to figure them out.
4. confidence; my confidence is a bit low sometimes, which simply gives bad vibes and gets me no where.
5. looks; I am not a bad looking guy, but I am incredibly skinny. (6ft, 135). This sometimes throws me off because I get thoughs that people are always judging me because of it, especially girls, and it makes me lose confidence.
6. laziness; I can be pretty lazy, putting things off until it's too late to act.
7. not assertive enough; sometimes I am way too passive. I let people get away with things when i know i shouldnt.

anyways, I want to improve my game. Reading some of your guys' journals like Vulpine's, has really made me want to get out in the field and start approaching. I am tired of not getting the sex that I should be getting. I am tired of letting social opportunities pass me by. I want to be the guy people like being around and the guy people admire. Time to start self-improvement.

The plan:

I have devised a self-improvement plan, which will lead me to success.

1. start bulking - my scrawnyness needs to go out the window; after previous failures, I want to take it seriously. I am going to keep a bulk journal, make my meals beforehand, calculate my calorie intake, and lift hard.
2. get more into business - since business is my major, it is time for me to learn what to do with money, how and where to invest, etc.
3. stay away from toxic friends - most of my friends have been nothing but toxic and only throw me off even more. I am cutting away the friends I dont need and keeping the ones that actually matter.
4. academic excellence - I want to raise my 3.0 gpa to a 3.5 at least. I am taking more units so this semester will have a lot in store for me.
5. SOCIALIZATION - I want to socialize more; not just leave campus after class. I want to open up to more people, start making more friends, and start partying a bit more.
6. self-destructive habits - I want to get rid of some self-destructive habits I have (smoking ciggs and pot). I have already quit ciggs after being addicted for 4 years (a month clean), and now want to cut down my pot consumption from everyday use, to, at most, 2 times a week. Then to 2 times a month.

By next year, I want to have my own place. So it is crucial for me to start taking care of my finances, and look into mutual funds. Also I have to advance my career and get more pay to be able to afford a place in los angeles.

I want to make a positive change in my life. I want to take it farther than I have before. I want to let go of my old insecurities and become a new person. I WANT TO BE MY OWN MAN AND DECIDE MY OWN FATE.

By the way, all CONSTRUCTIVE criticism is welcome. All advice in general, about anything I mentioned so far, is welcome. School starts on tuesday for me, and I am going to do at LEAST 5 cold approaches. Wish me luck, I will update soon.

 

[Anchorman]

Day 1

So today I was suppose to approach 5 girls. I fell short by 2 girls, and only opened 3. It was a pathetic attempt on my part, I can do way better. Tomorrow I will need to redeem myself by approaching 5 more. No more ****ing around, time to shine. Anyways, here is a brief fr about how my other approaches went.

I came to school at 7 in the morning. My class started at 8, but I spent most of the time looking for parking which was ridiculous. I surveyed the scene of my campus; plenty of HB6-8's, with some 9's. There were some HB6 and below as well. Plenty of scared but eager freshman girls.

As I parked my car, I saw a HB7 waiting for the light to cross the street. I parked my car about 5 minutes from campus due to the ridiculous parking situation, and thought this would be a good time to make a move. I opened with "parking's pretty bad for the first day, dont ya think?" followed by asking her name, telling mine, and shaking her hand. I made sure to walk in front of her to show confidence and not seem like I was running after her. As we strolled down the street, I made some fluff talk, but after a few minutes she took out her cell phone and started talking. I said nothing more to her, and continued to walk faster until she was behind, still talking on the phone. Rejected, oh well.

I was in my biology class, full of HB 7's, anxious to meet some dudes. I got some good EC from a girl as she sat a seat behind me, HB6.5. Then, a girl I knew from highschool, HB7 walks in, sees me, says my name and sits next to me. Instant social value. I made fluff talk with her to catch up on some things. She did not seem too interested at first, but later started warming up by looking at me and looking away, "bumping into" my arm and laughing at some stupid sht I said. I did not see too much interest though. I did not go for the number because I already had it from before, just talked to this chick for social value.
*side notes*: I should have opened the HB8 that sat a seat away from me, or the HB6.5 behind me. Or I should have mentioned something about hanging out to the HB7.5. It's cool though, I am going to open other chicks next time and raise my value. If I see HB7's interest rising, I will use the "lets study for the exam at my house" line.

I was in one of the offices looking for people I knew. Opened HB5.5 at the front desk just for the heck of it. Made up a fake story that I was lost looking for something and needed help finding it. Later led into fluff talk, got her name, introduced myself and took off. Purely for social value.

Also ended up going to check out the art gallery, which I didn't even know that we had. There was HB6 at the front desk. I made some fluff talk but didnt even bother with the name. So it doesent count as an approach.

At this point, it was super hot and I was hungry, so I just said "screw it" and took off home, without finishing off my 2 remaining sets.

I should have added 2 more solid sets. This is unacceptable; if I want to see improvement, I need to work on my game. I have one class tomorrow morning, so I will accomplish my 5 sets. I will post update tomorrow.

CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM IS WELCOME!

 

[Anchorman]

Getting my balls back.. Day 2

Today went surprisingly well. I showed up to my class at 8 in the morning, and sat to this smoking HB8. She looked indian, and I have a thing for hot indian chicks. I opened her by asking if I could take a look at her class syllabus and then made some fluff regarding that, but before I could ask her name, she found out she was in the wrong class and bounced. Dang it, she was hot. Well, I found out that I was in the wrong class as well because my school is retarded and everything is always out of order. But next wednesday I will be in the same class as her so I will definetely talk to her more next time im in the class.

So, there I was, 8 in the morning and sleepy as hell. I was about to bounce, but then I remembered my commitment to get 5 solid approaches in today. I couldnt back out now, not after yesterday's dissapointment. So, I cruised looking for babes to talk to. The school was still pretty empty and the people looked like they were half asleep.

I proceeded to go to the music room, and opened the HB6 at the front desk. I asked some generic questions regarding changing my major. Then I started getting a bit more personal; I asked her name and introduced myself, and since we were both business majors, we talked about it a little. I saw minor IOI's, like playing with hair and good EC. I decided to bounce; asking for the # would be really awkward for her because its her work, so I didnt bother.

I proceeded to the swimming pool. Saw a lifeguard HB6 who was checking me out as I walked by about 50 feet away. Without thinking, I approached and opened her. Introduced myself and shook her hand, asked some questions about her job and training and stuff. Got some good EC and she seemed kinda interested. I will be back to the pool later to swim, so I decided to save the rest till then. Said bye and bounced.

I went to the gym after that to find out what kind of jobs they had available. HB7 at the front desk next to some dude. As I move in to talk to the chick, she leaves to help someone so I am stuck talking to the dude. meh, maybe next time.

I went to scope out more babes to approach; at this point, the school started getting more crowded. I picked a good spot to operate from, busted out my laptop and started messing around with it. Then, saw a HB7 and HB8 walking by. As I looked, HB8 gives me solid eye contact. I smiled, and she smiled back. As this happened, the two girls suddenly stopped, gave me EC and smiled at me, and sat down near me, go figure. If I was to get a solid approach in today, now was the time. Taking my time, I closed down and packed up my laptop, walked over to them and opened:

Anchor: hey how are you guys doing? *asks for name*
HB8: hey im HB8 *shakes hand, gives me short version of her name*
HB6: Im HB7 *shakes hand*
HB8: so are you a freshman? sophmore?
Anchor: you guys look like freshmen for sure
HB8: yeah we look kinda lost dont we?
Anchor: yeah lol i noticed. Saw you guys sitting there lonely and decided to say hello
Anchor: Whats your full name?
HB8: gives full name
Anchor: wow never heard that name before.. where are you from?
HB8: *turns out she's egyptian*

HB6 at this point looks kind of intimidated and keeps looking away, but she wasn't the target anyway. HB8 however, is eyefvcking me with her gorgeous green eyes.

HB8: so where are you from?
Anchor: from *name of my country of origin* but I live around here. *kinda starting to lose it*
HB8: so.. what do you like to do?
Anchor: *at this point, she is taking the ball in her court.* So i reply with "..just stuff..."
Anchor: youre a raver girl though right? *pointing at her bracelets* (she had a buncha those rave bracelets on)
HB8: no not really they just look cool.

Now at this point, I sorta fvcked up.

Anchor: Actually... I have to get going but can you give me your # and we'll chill after class sometime?
HB8: yeah sure.. actually give me yours and il text you
Anchor: *gives #* alright *waits for text
HB8: yeah.. il text you
Anchor: so... wheres the text? (trying to be persistant.. make the h0 say n0)
HB8: *spells my name and sends me text* there ya go
Anchor: *gets the text* sweet, see ya around.

I bounced. Meh I thought, I could have done a better job at building rapport. HB6 was looking bored, so I should have engaged her a bit more while keeping focus on the HB8. Oh well, I'll learn from my mistakes next time. I'll hit her up next week and try to set something up.

As I was going through the parking lot which is pretty big, there was HB5 in her car following me, trying to get my spot (parking lot is always packed). I turned around, came up to her window and went:

Anchor: hey are you looking for a spot?
HB5: yeah I am
Anchor: you can have mine if you give me a ride to my car
HB5: sure, hop in

Asked for her name, didnt bother with the # close because she was looking kinda ..meh. Just did this for fun.

Yes, I am aware that I only did 4 sets. I got one more to go, and I will finish it by tonight and post on it later.