"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Analyzing EVERY SINGLE TYPE of approach (giant discussion, everyone join!)

skip2mylou781

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The following is a list of ways a guy can approach a girl/woman (at least that I can think of):

randomly on the street
at the mall
club
bar
party
introduced by a mutual friend
online

I am going to give MY opinion on what I think about each of those approaches and analyze them, I want everyone to give their viewpoint on each of these approaches too - lets figure out the BEST way to a) get laid, b)find a LTR and c) make friends (if thats wat u REALLY want from hot girls lol)

randomly on the street AKA cold approach -

key purposes -

get over fear of rejection,
get a # for a possible lay or LTR,
get over approach anxiety

chances of success? this WILL help u get over fear of rejection, as this kind of approach is the most ballsiest and bold approach, howerver COLD APPROACHING will yield the absolute worst possible results if ur looking for a girl to fvck or date - believe it or not, chicks on the street get creeped out more by random guys then they would even online or at clubs

HOWEVER - there is ONE type of guy that can pull off random street approaches and have good success, and this ONE TYPE of guy is the following - a guy who turns women's heads, a guy who is considered VERY good looking by most women - all he'd have to do is talk to any chick who is eye'ing him down, and he's basically in.

All other guys will find major failure when it comes to getting dates/layed from STREET COLD APPROACHES



at the mall - just like street, only more successful results can follow, still the very attractive guy can pull this off best, and it is also used to overcome fear of approaching



club - looks, dance skills, and social skills all come into play here, girls in clubs EXPECT to be hit on, or else they wouldnt be there, so the man who gets the girl is the man who plays the #s game the best, aka he can get rejected by 9 hb9s but if he gets the 10th 1 to go home with him, then he deff had a successful night

key purpose - to get laid

easy to accomplish? DAMN STRAIGHT - u just need either good game, good looks, good dance skills, or all 3 (certainly lacking 1 of those will slightly hurt ur chances of getting the best chick possible, but having ALL 3 wil yield very high results

girls in clubs are NOT LTR material (ive tried, and ive failed)



bar - exactly same as club, only you need more game and less dance skill. All else is EXACTLY the same



party - popularity is VERY important here, as are looks, approaching girls at parties is by far the easiest type of "real life approach", especially considering most girls are drunk to the point that their inhibitions drop and they would be willign to have a 1 nite stand

key purpose of party? TO GET LAID

how easy is it? EASIEST OF ANY KIND OF IN PERSON APPROACH


introduced by mutual friend - i barely have experience in this, ive maybe fvcked/dated 3-4 girls ffrom this kinda approach, but its basically very easy and by the numbers - u get introduced, and then just go with the flow


ONLINE - my personal favorite!!

first of all, online is the LEAST THRILLING and LEAST BALLSIEST kind of approach - anyone can type messages hitting on chicks online

HOWEVER - this has yielded 80% of my fvcks and also 100% of every single gf i ever had (no joke here)

chances of getting laid? very easy
chances of getting LTR? very easy

the 1 thing that makes online approaches stand out from all other kinds is that YOU CAN WEED OUT ANY GIRL WHOS NOT INTERESTED BEFORE EVEN MEETING HER IN THE FIRST PLACE

first of all, anyone who needs to know how to appraoch girls online, go read my myspace threads

second of all, if a girl has agreed to meet up and wants to hang out, then its 100% gaurantee that as long as u play ur cards right and shes attracted to u, u will get something out of it (either sex, gf, just kissing, w/e)

onlien approaching is least thrilling, but produces best results


so theres my analysis, lets hear YOURS
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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These aren't all the places you can approach but the most common. I'd say this post is full of generalizations but is partly true. And I wouldn't say a cold approach is that intimidating as long as you come off as a friendly kinda guy.
 

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if u have more time, post ur opinions on different kinds of approaches in more detail so this can turn into a real discussion - u saying this post is full of generalizations isnt helping to push anythign further

fyi, all the things i said here are based on my own real life experiences
 

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Ok fair enough if this is based on personal experience. I can't really be bothered going into detail but most of my girls have come from mutual friends and friends of friends etc... and yeah approaching in different settings leads to different outcomes.
 

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so, none of u losers have enough experience to have a discussion about something real? that is SAD
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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We do have experience, we don´t discuss it though. We do it :box:
 

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so wats the "discussion" forum for then?? if u dont wanan discuss anythin anonymously and keep everythin to urself, then GET THE HELL OUTTA HERE!
 

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Worse Success ~ Cold Approches

OK Success ~ Clubs

Great Success ~ Networks (friends, work, etc)

However; most of my approaches were club related.

Tipocal club approach: Girl looking like she is having no fun. Walk up say: "smile your depressing the clubers." She rolls her eyes. I look in her eyes with small smile. Introduce my self and ask questions...(IE. why aren't you having fun?) Listen to bla blah...... Than ask her to dance. Dance buy Drink Talk. IF things suck I excusse myself and that is it, if things are going good than close or offer to private party.


Networks have always been good, but I stay away from those 'cause it seems I am more prone to actually hook up with a girl from networking (hookup=date). Plus they are harder to exit and leave behind.
 
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