"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just for my own benefit, and I'm trying to decipher the ******** what do you all think this means....

"I feel like that "instant intimacy" thing that I was talking about is seriously at play here. You've never felt the need to shower me with compliments or pick up every tab, and that's a period of courtship that I think is important. I have a feeling you think I'm traditional in all the wrong ways, but that's kind of a deal-breaker for me. I think we're too similar in ego and too divided in the "should be's" of life for me to be comfortable."

Just want insight into the female mind. Oddly enough, many of this ones complaints are the reasons I have been super successful with women in the past. Like only giving compliments when I wanted and truly meant it.

Thanks,
Homey
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have theories but she doesn't give enough context; besides, it would be humorous to reply to her with "Huh?", expecially if the two of you have a witty conversation style.

At a minimum I think she's saying she wants more attention ("courtship")
 
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You've never felt the need to shower me with compliments or pick up every tab
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Sounds like she's used to being the centre of a guys attention....

Perhaps a high maint. chick?

How about this reply...

"The reason why I don't find the need to do these things, is that you've not proven to me yet that you are worthy enough... I am a traditional guy - but not a fool"....

LOL. Watch the sparks fly.
 
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Originally posted by NewMan
Sounds like she's used to being the centre of a guys attention....

Perhaps a high maint. chick?

How about this reply...

"The reason why I don't find the need to do these things, is that you've not proven to me yet that you are worthy enough... I am a traditional guy - but not a fool"....

LOL. Watch the sparks fly.
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Beautiful Newman!


Remember that actions speak louder than words. It doesn't matter what BS comes out of her mouth. If she seems like she is losing interest then don't worry about trying to analyze her words. See thru the crap and act accordingly.
 
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Sounds like she is looking for an AFC boyfriend. She must watching too many movies or reading too many romance novels.

Guess the key here: Don't change - you are who you are and if she doesn't like it then too bad.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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