"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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A little story. I’m very confused however.

This afternoon I was watching a movie in the den of my apartment. I watched a majority of it in the den when my girlfriend comes outside and asks me what I would like for dinner. I responded and told her we could have some tacos or nachos. She then said she didn’t want to do tacos because we didn’t have taco seasoning for the ground beef and that we are going out to steal some taco seasoning. I’m like OK then you decide what we are going to do. (I then move the computer to my room and start finishing up my movie). She starts to talk about how she wants to go to Wendy’s for some vanilla ice cream. I’m like OK the keys to the car are right there. So she starts getting dressed or whatever then tells me to make a decision about what we are going to eat for dinner. I tell her that I already said what I wanted to eat for dinner. She then says lets go get the taco seasoning. I’m like we don’t have any money for that.

After I say that she puts her night clothes back on and gets back in the bed and just puts me on silent treatment. I’m sitting there in amazement like wow does it really matter if we have a certain seasoning for the ground beef or not?? She gets so upset and puts me on silent treatment for the rest of the night. I ask her what’s wrong and she says nothing is wrong when she clearly is upset. I ask her what is she going to eat and she says she’s going to eat chips for the rest of the day… I’m like you better find something to eat.

After a couple of hours of her not talking to me she gets up and goes to the kitchen to eat. So I get up and ask her what’s wrong again and she says nothing is wrong. So I’m like lets just talk and when I said that she picked up her phone and started texting her mom. So I said when we talk could you please not be distracted with other things. (She said I’m texting my mom). So after she said that I just went back to the den to chill because I was seriously pissed off that she couldn’t talk to me for one minute.

Is this just immaturity or what. This kind of stuff happens all the damn time. It makes no sence to me at all.
 

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Pierce said:
She then says lets go get the taco seasoning. I’m like we don’t have any money for that.
Taco seasoning cost anywhere between 69 cents and $1.50 at any local grocery story like a Ralphs or a Kroger. :rolleyes: Just sayin'.

Something isn't adding up here. I am sure you have $1 in change laying around no??????
 

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SandHawk said:
So, taco seasoning is MORE expensive than vanilla ice cream at Wendy's? I don't get it.
I think the entire story is made up. For what reason, I have no idea haha.

Writing practice?
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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cordoncordon said:
I think the entire story is made up. For what reason, I have no idea haha.

Writing practice?
He's trying to see if he can get a forum full of people to read a 3-paragraph story about taco seasoning.

But if by some chance this captivating story is true, tell her to get the F out. "I'm not in the mood for games tonight. Go home."

Unless you're living with this girl. Which would be absolutely stupid for a 20-21 year old to do.
 

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I just didn't want to drive in the snow. I was too lazy -_-. But for some girl to drag it for hours. I'm so blown. I'm just curouis are most girls like this? Getting mad for something so small and blowing it out of proportion?
 

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Pierce said:
I just didn't want to drive in the snow. I was too lazy -_-. But for some girl to drag it for hours. I'm so blown. I'm just curouis are most girls like this? Getting mad for something so small and blowing it out of proportion?

No. They're not. Just the lame ones that guys like you force yourself to stay with out of fear of being alone.

If she's causing you problems, then dump her. It's stupid to tolerate childish nonsense like this.
 

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Well,it's kinda hard to say exactly what's going on here,but my question for you would be...."How are YOU in the relationship?


Are you strong? Are you a leader? Or are you wishy-washy and indecisive?


She seems to be looking to you for direction. Yeah,trying to decide what to eat for dinner isn't something serious or life-changing,but if you have a history of being wishy-washy,then even this little dinner incident would be annoying.



This thing she said right here....


So she starts getting dressed or whatever then tells me to make a decision about what we are going to eat for dinner.

To me,it seems like she wants you to take charge. Stop focusing on "dinner" or "tacos",that's NOT the point. THE POINT is LEADERSHIP.



I don't think she would have cared what you ate as long as YOU MADE a CLEAR DECISION. Don't think that just because you're in a relationship that women STOP TESTING YOU. If you're all manly and masculine in the beginning of a relationship,then start to soften up after being together for a while,she'll start testing you to see if you're still as manly as you were IN THE BEGINNING.



EXAMINE YOURSELF,and be HONEST. Check YOURSELF to see if you're still displaying all of the manly/masculine attributes that attracted her to you at the start of the relationship.


One of the WORST THINGS a guy can do in the face of a decision is to say "I don't know" or "whatever you want to do is fine with me". You don't have to be a tyrant,you just need to stand firm and make a SOLID DECISIUON about things from time to time to show her you're still in charge.



Pierce said:
I just didn't want to drive in the snow. I was too lazy -_-
Uhh....lazy?

If you didn't want to drive in the snow for safety reasons,then cool,that's understandable,but lazy? And those were YOUR WORDS.


Like I said,if it's every now and then,it's ok,but if you're repeatedly "lazy"...well,that may be a problem my friend.




Pierce said:
But for some girl to drag it for hours.
That fact that she drug it on for so long should be a clue. No woman in her right my would keep on and on about something as trivial as what to eat for dinner. Again,I don't think it was dinner she was upset over,I think it was YOU not taking charge.


Believe it or not,a LOT of times,making a bad decision is BETTER THAN making no decision at all.



Pierce said:
Getting mad for something so small and blowing it out of proportion?
Again,it's not "tacos" or "Wendy's" that's the issue.

Just try to start being more assertive in the relationship WITHOUT HER ASKING FIRST,then see how things go.
 
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Igetit! has good advice.

Are you guys living together and exclusive when you are only 20?

And you don't know what the problem is?

Fact is, she has you by the balls and you're missing out on some of the best years of your life.

She is beginning to escalate the sh*t tests to see how you respond.

Igetit! said:
I don't think she would have cared what you ate as long as YOU MADE a CLEAR DECISION. Don't think that just because you're in a relationship that women STOP TESTING YOU. If you're all manly and masculine in the beginning of a relationship,then start to soften up after being together for a while,she'll start testing you to see if you're still as manly as you were IN THE BEGINNING.

One of the WORST THINGS a guy can do in the face of a decision is to say "I don't know" or "whatever you want to do is fine with me". You don't have to be a tyrant,you just need to stand firm and make a SOLID DECISION about things from time to time to show her you're still in charge.

Just try to start being more assertive in the relationship WITHOUT HER ASKING FIRST,then see how things go.
You need to do this and be more assertive and be the leader of the relationship.

Otherwise, the sh*t tests will escalate, the s*x will dry up, and it will over before you know it.
 

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Thanks guys. This is why I posted this. I knew there was something more that I was missing. I get it now.
 

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It sounds, to me, like a woman behaving like a woman- annoying and easy to piss off.
I really would not worry about it, it's a stupid argument over what you're having for dinner. She might have been tired etc at the time, if it happens a lot then maybe there's more to it.
 
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