Analyze this situation please!

[oneboy21]

I was talking to this girl on OKC last month and we exchanged few emails.
She went cold for like 3 weeks
and now today she sends me an email saying "sorry i didn't responded for a while", and tries to starts a conversation from where we left.
What is she trying to do, how should i deal with this, I pretty sure she was online on that site. is she interested or playing games .

 

[Tyson420]

some thing went bad and she came crawling back. freeze her out for a couple days and see if you're still interested by then.

 

[sexysuave]

What is OKC?

Anyway, chicks usually do this when they're seeing someone they're interested in more than you, and then something goes wrong with that "relationship". Then they start calling the "back ups" that they were sort of interested in, but not overly crazy about. I have seen this happen TONS to many guys. They would flirt with some girls and try to hook up with some girls, and either get somewhat involved with them or the girls might not even let them have any kind of physical intimacy.

The same girl might date some guy for a year or so, and then it all comes crashing down with whatever they had. Next thing you know, you are getting a phone call from her just to see "what's up" and what not, and if you wanna hang out sometimes. Most relatinoships started like this don't really work out, but they are good for a quick rebound score, as selfish as that sounds . So, if I were you, I would go ahead and try to hit it, but I would advise against getting seriously involved with her. A lot of times she will eventually go back to her ex boyfriend, he may have cheated on her or dumped her, but she could still be crazy about him.

I see this happen pretty often, and I would not wait too long, this is something that you need to jump on right away, 'cause next week she might be back with that dude, or have another sucker under her wings. Respond back right away and get her to hang out or kick it. You will find out quickly this way if you have a chance or not. If she doesn't wanna see you, she makes it easy for you to just move on to the next one and not waste your time. If she does wanna see you, try to hit it as soon as you can. Chances are she is on some kind of a rebound and pretty vounerable and emotional, easier to crack. Screw her brains out but dont' get too serious with her, as the time she ignored you definitely proved that she had someone else she was more interested in.

 

[oneboy21]

OKC is Okcupid.com
Thanks for really good perspective Sexysuave
I would like to send her an email and see where it goes.

 

[DonGorgon]

I was talking to this girl on OKC last month and we exchanged few emails.
She went cold for like 3 weeks
and now today she sends me an email saying "sorry i didn't responded for a while", and tries to starts a conversation from where we left.
What is she trying to do, how should i deal with this, I pretty sure she was online on that site. is she interested or playing games .

she was Fing another dude who she liked more than you but he rejected her after he Fed her so she came back "down" to you..

so you must act indifferent.. tell her to com to your house to chilL and watch movies...DO NOT TAKE HER ON A DATE!! Then you try to F close. is she lets you then you go cold on her for 3 weeks..lool

 

[oneboy21]

i think what your analyses is absolutely right
Thank you, i should be different.

Should i straight up send her an email or ask for phone number first

 

[mahoney]

I was talking to this girl on OKC last month and we exchanged few emails.
She went cold for like 3 weeks
and now today she sends me an email saying "sorry i didn't responded for a while", and tries to starts a conversation from where we left.
What is she trying to do, how should i deal with this, I pretty sure she was online on that site. is she interested or playing games .

shes busy and has other things on the go

you should be more busy too, then you wouldn't have noticed the gap. if any one particular girl drops off the radar, thats fine, i dont mind! i dont chase after them! if they reappear thats fine too, i dont get butthurt about it - if they seem nice and they want to hook up, great! if they want to go do something else for a while and then pop up again some other time and want to hook up, great

 

[korwinn]

What is OKC?

Anyway, chicks usually do this when they're seeing someone they're interested in more than you, and then something goes wrong with that "relationship". Then they start calling the "back ups" that they were sort of interested in, but not overly crazy about. I have seen this happen TONS to many guys. They would flirt with some girls and try to hook up with some girls, and either get somewhat involved with them or the girls might not even let them have any kind of physical intimacy.

The same girl might date some guy for a year or so, and then it all comes crashing down with whatever they had. Next thing you know, you are getting a phone call from her just to see "what's up" and what not, and if you wanna hang out sometimes. Most relatinoships started like this don't really work out, but they are good for a quick rebound score, as selfish as that sounds . So, if I were you, I would go ahead and try to hit it, but I would advise against getting seriously involved with her. A lot of times she will eventually go back to her ex boyfriend, he may have cheated on her or dumped her, but she could still be crazy about him.

I see this happen pretty often, and I would not wait too long, this is something that you need to jump on right away, 'cause next week she might be back with that dude, or have another sucker under her wings. Respond back right away and get her to hang out or kick it. You will find out quickly this way if you have a chance or not. If she doesn't wanna see you, she makes it easy for you to just move on to the next one and not waste your time. If she does wanna see you, try to hit it as soon as you can. Chances are she is on some kind of a rebound and pretty vounerable and emotional, easier to crack. Screw her brains out but dont' get too serious with her, as the time she ignored you definitely proved that she had someone else she was more interested in.

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