Analysis of Datesetup with HB9 (feedback is welcome)

[Lolapo]

important background info
She's used to getting attention, there's plenty of guys wanting to get to her.
She lets them orbit around her but doesn't do anything with them.

Don't really know her, never talked to her bc I wasn't that interested.
Were at the same dance a week ago and caught her looking in my direction alot and making eye contact. She then came over to me and asked me some stuff, i was aloof as fck. We took a picture and then I left.

Present day
She started talking to me on FB, saying, look our picture! This was about 3days ago. Didn't really conversate as I know texting, fb etc can fck things up.

So we haven't really talked yet but I was sure she's sexually interested in me so I just initiated today and said:
ME: Hey you, we're going to grab a drink together this week
HER: oh, whats happening now?
ME: k then we won't
HER: I do have class every day so during the week it's pretty hard, but I would like to go have a drink with you
ME: Doesn't have to be late in the week, but ok, lemme know when you're free, boring person

She didn't respond anymore.
I'm 100% sure she's sexually attracted to me and I have alot of confidence so I wanted her to see this through FB as this is not real life. My guts say she's very intrigued after this even though she doesn't really come over as available. I wanted to stand out bc she has hundreds of guys hanging around her.

 

[jurry]

Think you went a bit overboard with the aggressiveness in the first message, seemed to come out of the blue. Then when she was like huh you backpedaled and then seemed desperate in the final message.

You can be real with a chick and talk/ txt a bit if you want. When you are putting on a cool and indifferent act and not being genuine it looks try-hard to her and thats a big turn off, just be direct and open and see where it goes.

 

[Lolapo]

Think you went a bit overboard with the aggressiveness in the first message, seemed to come out of the blue. Then when she was like huh you backpedaled and then seemed a bit desperate in the final message.

You can be real with a chick and talk/ txt a bit if you want. When you are TRYING to come off as cool and indifferent it can look try-hard to a girl and thats a big turn off, just be direct and open and see where it goes.

If I'd just opened up softly she'd lose some interest because then I'd be less mysterious and aloof, Then I'd 'expose' myself to her.
This is not just an ordinary girl, she has dozens of guys wanting her so thats why I'm so aggressive. I see your point though
I'm not saying my aproach in this situation is the best one, that's why I made this thread, to hear others opinions, thanks!

I'm still certain she'll want to meet up.

 

[jurry]

They're all ordinary girls, dont lose your cool.

 

[Roni_88]

Even if shes Angelina Jolie, she should be ordinary for you, who cares about the other million YOU are the different one, wait a couple of days Text/call her and ask which days is she free and you set up a convenient time and place for you and if she is interested she should follow. Keep in mind time and place showing security.

 

[Lolapo]

Even if shes Angelina Jolie, she should be ordinary for you, who cares about the other million YOU are the different one, wait a couple of days Text/call her and ask which days is she free and you set up a convenient time and place for you and if she is interested she should follow. Keep in mind time and place showing security.

I get your point, awesome thanks!
Wouldn't it be best if I just let her contact me again as I said, lemme know when you're free

 

[pyros]

important background info
She's used to getting attention, there's plenty of guys wanting to get to her.
She lets them orbit around her but doesn't do anything with them.

Don't really know her, never talked to her bc I wasn't that interested.
Were at the same dance a week ago and caught her looking in my direction alot and making eye contact. She then came over to me and asked me some stuff, i was aloof as fck. We took a picture and then I left.

Present day
She started talking to me on FB, saying, look our picture! This was about 3days ago. Didn't really conversate as I know texting, fb etc can fck things up. Until now she had some interest in you. And you should have continued the conversation showing some interest...dumbass..

So we haven't really talked yet but I was sure she's sexually interested in me so I just initiated today and said:
ME: Hey you, we're going to grab a drink together this week WTF? this just came out of the blue making no sense, and making you look weird/creepy
HER: oh, whats happening now?
ME: k then we won't WTF? what are you doing?
HER: I do have class every day so during the week it's pretty hard, but I would like to go have a drink with you
ME: Doesn't have to be late in the week, but ok, lemme know when you're free, boring person Nice... call her boring after you've displayed your strange and psychopatic way of asking her out

She didn't respond anymore. Really?? nooooo way
I'm 100% sure she's sexually attracted to me what?? she kind of was but you made sure to reverse it and I have alot of confidence so I wanted her to see this through FB as this is not real life. My guts say she's very intrigued after this even though she doesn't really come over as available. I wanted to stand out bc she has hundreds of guys hanging around her.

Here we have another case of DJ overdose...

He thinks he has to be "aggressive" and he ends up behaving weird. Besides, for some unknown reason he's "sure" she is sexually interested in him. Not anymore dude.

See this OP, she may have liked you physically in the begining but after a brief text conversation you showed her you're weird and behave weird so this is why she stopped texting you, she thought: "oh sh-it, another creep. I thought he was cute but he's weird as hell. Why does he command me like that?"

It is funy to see how after she stopped replying and ignored you, you still think she is definetely attracted to you LMAO!!

My two cents: "try to be normal and forget about PUA tricks..."

Had you behaved in a normal way (cause she was interested in you. The only thing you had to do was to act normal and not screw it, but you failed) , your conversation via text would have been something very similar to:

OP: hi HB what are you up to?
her: hi!! Im just doing X, what about you??
OP: Im doing Y
her: cool
OP: listen, when are you free to get together this week?
her: I do have class every day so during the week it's pretty hard, but I would like to go have a drink with you on Saturday?
OP: alright, let's go to X place so we can grab a drink. Is it ok if I pick you up at 10:00 pm?
her: yes its perfect
OP: ok, then I'll see you on Saturday
her: ok!!
her: by the way what...."and now she wants to talk to you a bit more before seing you to get to know you"
OP: blah blah...
OP: blah blah
OP: ok, gotta run, see you!
her: ok XOXO

 

[Lolapo]

Here we have another case of DJ overdose...

He thinks he has to be "aggressive" and he ends up behaving weird. Besides, for some unknown reason he's "sure" she is sexually interested in him. Not anymore dude.

See this OP, she may have liked you physically in the begining but after a brief text conversation you showed her you're weird and behave weird so this is why she stopped texting you, she thought: "oh sh-it, another creep. I thought he was cute but he's weird as hell. Why does he command me like that?"

It is funy to see how after she stopped replying and ignored you, you still think she is definetely attracted to you LMAO!!

My two cents: "try to be normal and forget about PUA tricks..."

Had you behaved in a normal way (cause she was interested in you. The only thing you had to do was to act normal and not screw it, but you failed) , your conversation via text would have been something very similar to:

OP: hi HB what are you up to?
her: hi!! Im just doing X, what about you??
OP: Im doing Y
her: cool
OP: listen, when are you free to get together this week?
her: I do have class every day so during the week it's pretty hard, but I would like to go have a drink with you on Saturday?
OP: alright, let's go to X place so we can grab a drink. Is it ok if I pick you up at 10:00 pm?
her: yes its perfect
OP: ok, then I'll see you on Saturday
her: ok!!
her: by the way what...."and now she wants to talk to you a bit more before seing you to get to know you"
OP: blah blah...
OP: blah blah
OP: ok, gotta run, see you!
her: ok XOXO

Thanks man I really appreciate it. I was a natural to a certain limit then I found out about this forum and I'm doing exactly what you say, overanalysing, being overaggressive -> DJ overdose.

Found out I'm going to the same party this saturday, my plan is to just have fun and not really go to her, what do you think? Can I undo my over DJ **** haha

Hate myself for fckin up, but I'm learning and getting better. Failure is better than doing nothing and learning nothing.

 

[Roni_88]

I get your point, awesome thanks!
Wouldn't it be best if I just let her contact me again as I said, lemme know when you're free

Realistically, when a woman is told that in most cases she will not let you know..maybe in the case her interest is skyrocket and even in that case she would counteroffer right away...I would give her a final chance.. if not..move on

 

[VladPatton]

Here we have another case of DJ overdose...

He thinks he has to be "aggressive" and he ends up behaving weird. Besides, for some unknown reason he's "sure" she is sexually interested in him. Not anymore dude.

See this OP, she may have liked you physically in the begining but after a brief text conversation you showed her you're weird and behave weird so this is why she stopped texting you, she thought: "oh sh-it, another creep. I thought he was cute but he's weird as hell. Why does he command me like that?"

It is funy to see how after she stopped replying and ignored you, you still think she is definetely attracted to you LMAO!!

My two cents: "try to be normal and forget about PUA tricks..."

Had you behaved in a normal way (cause she was interested in you. The only thing you had to do was to act normal and not screw it, but you failed) , your conversation via text would have been something very similar to:

OP: hi HB what are you up to?
her: hi!! Im just doing X, what about you??
OP: Im doing Y
her: cool
OP: listen, when are you free to get together this week?
her: I do have class every day so during the week it's pretty hard, but I would like to go have a drink with you on Saturday?
OP: alright, let's go to X place so we can grab a drink. Is it ok if I pick you up at 10:00 pm?
her: yes its perfect
OP: ok, then I'll see you on Saturday
her: ok!!
her: by the way what...."and now she wants to talk to you a bit more before seing you to get to know you"
OP: blah blah...
OP: blah blah
OP: ok, gotta run, see you!
her: ok XOXO

I agree with Pyros. You had zero smoothness, man. No one ever has any regard for smoothness, and working your way in easy and working your way out easier.

 

[astrn]

Think simple, stop analysing and act. These are the basics that you should keep. And dont worry if you made a mistake. Just learn from it and move on!

 

[pyros]

since you fu-cked it up I dont think you have any real chance. You can just be cordial to her, be aloof and fun, interact with people but forget about her, not completely but...

 

[Partizan]

Despite the poor opening, she was still on the hook until you called her a boring person.

 

[Lolapo]

Everyone is right thanks guys.
I'm just gonna go back to being myself, stop caring so much and just keeping the things I've learned here in the back of my head and use them but not let them guide me.

I fckin love learning through failure.