Analysis of a flake text

[sylvester the cat]

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[Soolaimon]

Simple rules of the game, man:

1. You don't ask new girls out on weekend dates - Fridays and Saturdays are reserved for people actually IN established relationships. Asking for one of these days beforehand sends a subtle message that you view her already as THE ONE, but she's not there yet because you've only been out on THREE dates with her (which equates to, what, less than 6 hours of time together total??)

Dating is not about being so rigid thinking in black and white terms like this.

It's about flexibility and what works the best for your advantage.

Not every date will turn out by the book like you describe.

Some girls are unavailable to date during the week cause of work or school.

The weekends work best for them and they will more than happy to go out when their weekday nights are busy with work or school.

2. You always give a girl at least 2 times to flake. The first time could be a fluke and/or a real excuse; the second time means it's a pattern. She hasn't flaked on you enough times for you to start throwing a hissy-fit about it - when she said she had to look after the godson, it could have (a) been a real excuse, (b) a blow off 'cause she's losing interest, or (c) a way for her to avoid a Saturday date with you since, as stated in #1, her feelings for you are not THAT intense yet for her to claim you as the BF. In either case, YOU DON'T KNOW YET, so you give her the benefit of the doubt on the first one and go about your business like it's not bothering you - because it SHOULDN'T.

If a girl is blatantly lying there is no reason to give her a second chance.

That means she already made up her mind you are not worth it.

You will get second excuse with another lie.

And again, you have to remember: SHE'S NOT THE GIRLFRIEND YET. It takes at least 3 months for her to build up her interest to that level

This is simply not true.

Many relationships have begun before 3 months of dating.

I had a professor who got married after only knowing his wife for 2 weeks.

He was married for at least 30 years with 5 kids.