"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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salsipuedes

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Opinions my friends, opinions, first of all, i am currently dating two other women so don´t come to me with bull, theres this woman i am sort of dating ( i dont even know what to call it anymore), at first she came up to me, later she apparently got upset because i sent her an email telling her she was moving to fast, we see each other about twice a week and man, i have no ****ing clue whats going on with this weird relationship.

I am pretty quiet myself, not in a rush, sometimes i feel like holding her hand, sometimes i dont, sometimes i am affectionate, sometimes i am cold, i call 3 days in a row, and then i stop, i have told her i really like her, and i have told her i could see this relationship getting serious, on her part, she has told me she would love if this could one day lead to marriage, has introduced me to her family, and is also affectionate on and off with me. We dont kiss, we are not a couple yet, and we are just getting to know each other, she comes from a 4 year relationship with an ******* who was very insecure and made her go tru hell.

Is my attitude the one causing her to also be on and off with her affection towards me? when i do get affectionate shes very into it and gives it back, and when i dont, she seems to back off.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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DonJuanMonk

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You sure are putting a lot of time and energy considering you have "two other women."

:rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
 

Bonhomme

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Analize this?!?!?

This forum's supposed to be about picking up women, not men.
 
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