analize this conversation:

[frivolousz21]

my first myspace conversation since May of 2005....I want to know how I am doing..its been a while and I want to make sure I am on track...thanks in advance.


ME: I read in your blog that you were planning on running a marathon..did you do that yet?

I also saw that you bleedblue which is badass.


-Chris



her reply:
actually... no, i haven't ran the marathon. and to my own disappointment i probably won't. right before new year's i was in the ER with bronchitis. i still haven't beat it yet, thus haven't been able to train like i wanted to. i'm still thinking of running the 5k if i can start feeling better and begin training soon.

and yes, i love the blues. and sports in general. i have connections with the guy who runs the entertainment at intermission at the blues games, and i got to do human bowling on jan 2. it was awesome, and my friend and i won. i had to have a few beers before doing so, as i had to sign a waiver before playing. it was fun.







MY REPLY: Hopefully you can get better and make the 5k... I am not a cardio guy.. but I do like athletics and staying in shape.

It would be awesome to be down on the ice doing that... I would probably stare at the crowd like a kid in a candy store. I read in your blog that you like Mitch Hedberg to bad he died... I downloaded a couple of his CD's and he is funny ****.

it says you are currently reading into the wild... what is that about?


HER reply: yeah, with this damn bronchitis, i've had a hard time staying in premium shape. but hopefully i'll get back there soon. if you're not into cardio, do you just lift? what do you do?

the human bowling was way fun. i was feeling okay after downing two of those huge beers within 12 minutes (if you participate in any intermission activities, you have to meet in a certain spot 12 minutes into the game. it was all the time i had, lol). so needless to say, my eye was kind of on the prize.

hedberg is pretty much the ****. my dad's favorite joke: "i used to do drugs. i still do, but i used to too. "

into the wild is a true story about a kid that goes into the alaska wild and tried to survive, but ends up dying. it's sort of an investigation as to why people do these sort of things. it changes the way you think, and i like that. do you read also?






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I havent written back yet.

Seems pretty good so far to me

 

[Gangster Of Love]

She sounds intelligent, and articulate, yet you are doing nothing to create interest. Did you contact her because you liked her picture? Is she hot, cute, attractive, etc.? If she is, she knows why you contacted her, and it is probably nothing to do with the stuff she wrote on her blog.

You are doing too many "I read on your blog"s, you sound like a stalker who's reading into everything she writss.

You are telling her you listened to Mitch Hedberg's act, etc. Why didn't you just listen to it and send your your favorite joke or made a reference to it, instead of telling her "I see you like Mitch I went and downloaded", etc.?

You are worshiping every thing she does and trying to gain her approval by complimenting everything. Nothing wrong with that, yet, think about it. She gets tons of these types of emails/messages from guys running their own weak, tired type of game on her.

 

[Mr. Z]

you sound like a robotic creep and overall just boring.

 

[frivolousz21]

then give me some suggestions..this has gotten me laid many times from there with attractive women...so I'm not really seeing what I am supposed to do here...and how do I seem robotic?

 

[MacAvoy]

Personally I don't think your doing that bad, your doing typicall conversation skills, taking a subject she's interested in and going with it. Its working, she's replying and genuinely interested. You might want to talk about yourself a little more, try get longer conversations.

The other thing I would suggesst doing is taking it away from myspace, either to email/IM, then to the phone rather quickly. When I used POF in the past, I'll do 2-3 emails on there, then take it to phone or MSN depending how much rapport I have. I'll take it to phone if I can but if I don't feel its there yet, I'll take it to MSN.

Maybe try creating some sexual tension, I don't know how, I'm just saying it seems to be a missing element. Your on the right track, just go with your gut.

 

[Mr. Z]

it could be that i would use a different choice of words. But theres nothing really to analyze shes still responding so just escalate the convo. thats all.

 

[frivolousz21]

thanks for the replys..it was exactly what I was looking for.


the sexual tension thing..I dont know how to get to that point in my 3rd message to her...considering my first 2 were short...I also dont want to come off as a creep...I will just flow more with my reply...no more talking about what I read..just answering her questions..and probably throw in a little C@F about her getting tanked in 12 min

 

[frivolousz21]

one more thing guys

I have a son and I am sure any women I message on there will notice that....should I just wait for whomever I speak to..to bring it up..or what?

 

[MacAvoy]

Let her bring it up, but I find the fact that I have a daughter and that I'm very active in her life is very attractive to women. Even the miss goodie two shoes ones that don't have kid, it shows them that you are responsible.

 

[frivolousz21]

Let her bring it up, but I find the fact that I have a daughter and that I'm very active in her life is very attractive to women. Even the miss goodie two shoes ones that don't have kid, it shows them that you are responsible.

yes...I havent been on the scene enough..but Ive talked to my female friends and they said you caring about your son so much is a huge attraction..gives off and old school protector/provider type emotion.....plus unlike the mother I dont have my son everyday so it wont interfere with dating

 

[jophil28]

..this has gotten me laid many times from there with attractive women...

So where are they now?

You sound "safe" and kinda nerdy IMO.
Perhaps introduce some C&F now that she feels warm and connected with you...

 

[jophil28]

one more thing guys

I have a son and I am sure any women I message on there will notice that....should I just wait for whomever I speak to..to bring it up..or what?

Wait until THEY bring it up. Do not use your fatherhood to try to score points with these women.
Being a Dad is not to be used for advertising your "stability ".

 

[frivolousz21]

So where are they now?

You sound "safe" and kinda nerdy IMO.
Perhaps introduce some C&F now that she feels warm and connected with you...

yea..I do come off that way..I suppose its from not being in the game for so long...I have to get passed that.

I moved the conversation to aim and it was much more open with C&F and sarcasm...next talk I will create sexual tension and move to the tele

 

[decades]

She knows where you found out about the marathon. you don't have to preface your comments with "I read on your blog"...you are coming across overly formal, almost like an interview.

Instead say, Hey! an athlete I see. How was that marathon you were planning on running?