originaldj
Don Juan
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Lately, whenever I have been scrolling through threads on this board, I have started to get discouraged at the state this forum is in. What used to be a site dedicated to being the best you can be has descended into a site that measures the quality of a man by the number of pussies he has tapped. There are threads ripping into Eminem and Landon Donovon, diminishing their "manliness" because apparently they are AFCs when it comes to women. In reality I have the maddest of respect for these guys because they had the ambition to be among the most successful in their respective careers. I think its a lot more manly to develop yourself around your talent and career, instead of around women. Not that I don't have respect for those of you who I consider DJs, but to me the traits of a DJ encompasses more than your conquests of women.
A lot of people come here who are going through depression and they are given the idea by members on this forum that the only way to cure it is through banging. Thats why I worte this thread. I am twenty and a virgin, have kissed 4 girls in my life, and have done a bit more with just one. However, I guarantee you that overall I am one of the happiest people on this site. I would like to share what I think I get my happiness from with those of you who are in slumps right now, and are thinking that a girl is the only key to lift you out of your depression. The best thing about my advice is that it is all psychological. Everything comes from within you.
Here are my rules:
1) Be an overall good guy: I think that this is an often overlooked trait. But trust me, if you treat everyone with decency it will be reciprocated. I am NOT saying be nice to everyone. However, don't be mean. A basic principle I live by is that I do not want anyone who sees me to have a worse day because of something I did. I know that it may be hard to see how this leads to happinesss so let me explain. EVERYONE around you will treat you better. People you have never met before, would have heard good things about you because everyone you do know talks about how awesome you are. Humans are social creatures so when we are treated better we are naturally happier.
2) Be a go getter: Apply for EVERYTHING, run for EVERY position that interests you. I personally get a lot of confidence from my job. When I tell poeple what I am doing, they cannot believe it. The next thing I tell them is that I literally applied to 50-100 similar jobs and this was one of the only two that accepted me. I am not ridiculously successful, but when you try hard enough something has to go your way.
3) Don't accept depression- This is the most psychologically taxing thing that you can do. And you will never truly master it. The honest to god truth is that everyone has bad days. The key is to not let them perpetuate and lead into bad weeks and bad months etc. YOU HAVE TO FIGHT THROUGH IT. Whenever, I have a bad day which thankfully is few and far between. I just sit and think about how much I have going for me (due to following steps 1 and 2). Me being unhappy is an injustice to people who are fighting for their next meal/don't have a house etc.
I don't really know or think that this will help anyone, partly because I am not a good writer and partly because happiness is pretty elusive so its hard to set specific rules to get there. But what I posted works for me and hopefully it can help at least one of you.
A lot of people come here who are going through depression and they are given the idea by members on this forum that the only way to cure it is through banging. Thats why I worte this thread. I am twenty and a virgin, have kissed 4 girls in my life, and have done a bit more with just one. However, I guarantee you that overall I am one of the happiest people on this site. I would like to share what I think I get my happiness from with those of you who are in slumps right now, and are thinking that a girl is the only key to lift you out of your depression. The best thing about my advice is that it is all psychological. Everything comes from within you.
Here are my rules:
1) Be an overall good guy: I think that this is an often overlooked trait. But trust me, if you treat everyone with decency it will be reciprocated. I am NOT saying be nice to everyone. However, don't be mean. A basic principle I live by is that I do not want anyone who sees me to have a worse day because of something I did. I know that it may be hard to see how this leads to happinesss so let me explain. EVERYONE around you will treat you better. People you have never met before, would have heard good things about you because everyone you do know talks about how awesome you are. Humans are social creatures so when we are treated better we are naturally happier.
2) Be a go getter: Apply for EVERYTHING, run for EVERY position that interests you. I personally get a lot of confidence from my job. When I tell poeple what I am doing, they cannot believe it. The next thing I tell them is that I literally applied to 50-100 similar jobs and this was one of the only two that accepted me. I am not ridiculously successful, but when you try hard enough something has to go your way.
3) Don't accept depression- This is the most psychologically taxing thing that you can do. And you will never truly master it. The honest to god truth is that everyone has bad days. The key is to not let them perpetuate and lead into bad weeks and bad months etc. YOU HAVE TO FIGHT THROUGH IT. Whenever, I have a bad day which thankfully is few and far between. I just sit and think about how much I have going for me (due to following steps 1 and 2). Me being unhappy is an injustice to people who are fighting for their next meal/don't have a house etc.
I don't really know or think that this will help anyone, partly because I am not a good writer and partly because happiness is pretty elusive so its hard to set specific rules to get there. But what I posted works for me and hopefully it can help at least one of you.