Ok i've been reding this forum for a few months now, an alas, my time to post has finally come.
Im 23 years old. I'd known this girl all my life (pretty much from being born) then, when I was 8 and she was 9 our parents had an argument and we stopped seeing each other all together. Fast forward to two weeks ago and I found her on FB. Two or three days later we met up for a drink and we laughed none stop for the two hours we were together. Two months before she had come out of a nine year relationship, red flag number 1 (she got this this guy when she was 14), but I was happy she was single. I implemented the techniques I've learned from So Suave an made sure I was flirty and sexual with her from the beginning.
Over the next few days the text game got steamy, we talked overtly about sex and what we wanted to do to each other, the only problem was that she had gotten flu and tonsillitis the day after we met for drinks, so I was unable to get close to her, but never the less the texting continued while I spun plates.....
While all this was going on, she was staying with her stepdad while her ex stayed in their rented house next door (before she became single her and her boyfriend lived next door to her stepdad) so her fella was FAR from out of her life....this was also HUUGE red flag for me, but nevertheless I moved forward. During these few days a uni guy friend of hers was asking her to go out with him (i only know this because she accidentally sent me a text, telling this guy, in no uncertain terms to p**s off. It just so happens me and this fella share the same name.)
So anyway, after i got that message my ego kicked in and I stupidly said, "You know, me and you would be ace together (she agreed) so if your still single by the 20th of July I'll ask you out" She said "ok, but dont cry if i get back with my ex" This would have been five ish months after her breakup, giving her enough time (i thought) to get over her ex while still making sure my heart was protected - I didnt want to invest in her emotionally and then for her to suddenly decide she wanted her ex back.
So, on the the Sunday just gone, we txt'd back and forth a little and then she didn't get back to me. So later in the day I logged onto her FB page and saw that she had changed her relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship' - she had gone back wit her ex....and not told me, which i dont blame her for, after all, its really none of my business. And, as i have other prospects, I didnt let it bother me and stayed cool.
On Monday she txt's me saying this.....
"Heya, sorry about not getting back to you last night, my phone died, bad times! Plus I moved back into my house last night too, I miss it so so much. Lol hows you?"
What she really meant was........
"Heya, I didnt get back to you yesterday cuz ive got back with my ex, so I dont need your attention anymore. I missed HIM so so much"
I was cordial with her and sent her a txt back explaining a catastrophic date I went on on Sun night (thats for anther thread tho) and joked with her saying "i take it the 20th of July is off then" but ultimately cut the convo short telling her I was going for my dinner. Later in the night she sent a joke...which I didnt respond too cuz it was a joke.
So, after all that im thinking of cutting her off completely, perhaps I made a mistake even replying to her txt yesterday, I dunno. Im not a mug, and i like this girl too much to stay close while she bangs other guys. So i think it's best if i just walk away from her - I never thought i would start to like her like i do, I've been through oneitus before and i sure as hell aint going through it again, for my own sake. I know she'd been thinking about me before i got back in contact she said she's been looking through pics of us when we were younger, she knew what car I drove and she'd also tried adding me to FB about 5 years ago and said she was gutted when she couldn't find me. That's just probably wishful thinking on my behalf tho, lol.
If you actually read this far, thank you for taking the time to do so. Your comments, piss-takes or advice will be greatly appreciated.
Cheers!
S
Im 23 years old. I'd known this girl all my life (pretty much from being born) then, when I was 8 and she was 9 our parents had an argument and we stopped seeing each other all together. Fast forward to two weeks ago and I found her on FB. Two or three days later we met up for a drink and we laughed none stop for the two hours we were together. Two months before she had come out of a nine year relationship, red flag number 1 (she got this this guy when she was 14), but I was happy she was single. I implemented the techniques I've learned from So Suave an made sure I was flirty and sexual with her from the beginning.
Over the next few days the text game got steamy, we talked overtly about sex and what we wanted to do to each other, the only problem was that she had gotten flu and tonsillitis the day after we met for drinks, so I was unable to get close to her, but never the less the texting continued while I spun plates.....
While all this was going on, she was staying with her stepdad while her ex stayed in their rented house next door (before she became single her and her boyfriend lived next door to her stepdad) so her fella was FAR from out of her life....this was also HUUGE red flag for me, but nevertheless I moved forward. During these few days a uni guy friend of hers was asking her to go out with him (i only know this because she accidentally sent me a text, telling this guy, in no uncertain terms to p**s off. It just so happens me and this fella share the same name.)
So anyway, after i got that message my ego kicked in and I stupidly said, "You know, me and you would be ace together (she agreed) so if your still single by the 20th of July I'll ask you out" She said "ok, but dont cry if i get back with my ex" This would have been five ish months after her breakup, giving her enough time (i thought) to get over her ex while still making sure my heart was protected - I didnt want to invest in her emotionally and then for her to suddenly decide she wanted her ex back.
So, on the the Sunday just gone, we txt'd back and forth a little and then she didn't get back to me. So later in the day I logged onto her FB page and saw that she had changed her relationship status from 'single' to 'in a relationship' - she had gone back wit her ex....and not told me, which i dont blame her for, after all, its really none of my business. And, as i have other prospects, I didnt let it bother me and stayed cool.
On Monday she txt's me saying this.....
"Heya, sorry about not getting back to you last night, my phone died, bad times! Plus I moved back into my house last night too, I miss it so so much. Lol hows you?"
What she really meant was........
"Heya, I didnt get back to you yesterday cuz ive got back with my ex, so I dont need your attention anymore. I missed HIM so so much"
I was cordial with her and sent her a txt back explaining a catastrophic date I went on on Sun night (thats for anther thread tho) and joked with her saying "i take it the 20th of July is off then" but ultimately cut the convo short telling her I was going for my dinner. Later in the night she sent a joke...which I didnt respond too cuz it was a joke.
So, after all that im thinking of cutting her off completely, perhaps I made a mistake even replying to her txt yesterday, I dunno. Im not a mug, and i like this girl too much to stay close while she bangs other guys. So i think it's best if i just walk away from her - I never thought i would start to like her like i do, I've been through oneitus before and i sure as hell aint going through it again, for my own sake. I know she'd been thinking about me before i got back in contact she said she's been looking through pics of us when we were younger, she knew what car I drove and she'd also tried adding me to FB about 5 years ago and said she was gutted when she couldn't find me. That's just probably wishful thinking on my behalf tho, lol.
If you actually read this far, thank you for taking the time to do so. Your comments, piss-takes or advice will be greatly appreciated.
Cheers!
S