An observation. Your comments welcomed!

[davidsonj73]

Today I went to a fast food restaurant for breakfast and ate inside. Shortly after, an average looking white man around age 60, wearing a blue work shirt like what janitors often wear, and blue jeans walked in with a bouquet of roses. He asked for his girlfriend, lover, or wife (I have no idea which), an average looking Asian woman around age 50 who was one of the regular workers, and he gave her the bouquet. After he left, I heard some of the other employees say that today is her birthday.

Do you think he was just a simp, or maybe that sort of thing works with Asian women? What do you think?

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

I think her age and social status have a strong role in what she appreciates and what she does not.

Buying flowers to an upper class girl in her early 20s it's something I would avoid.

 

[davidsonj73]

I think her age and social status have a strong role in what she appreciates and what she does not.

Buying flowers to an upper class girl in her early 20s it's something I would avoid.

@Fortune_favors_the_bold I see. If you had to make a rule based on the age of the woman, at what age do women want flowers, and at what age don't they?

Or is it, if she's desirable to many men, don't buy flowers, and if she's not, buy flowers for special occasions?

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

@Fortune_favors_the_bold I see. If you had to make a rule based on the age of the woman, at what age do women want flowers, and at what age don't they?

Or is it, if she's desirable to many men, don't buy flowers, and if she's not, buy flowers for special occasions?

I would say this

-socio-economical status (the higher it is, the less it works till it even counterproduce)

-age (the lower it is, the less it works with it being counterproductive when she is very young, lets say up to 25)

-your smv (the lower it is the more it backfires, shows desperation over a man already lacking value)

The guy in the example worked good enough cause the woman was old and low status even lower than him.

 

[davidsonj73]

I would say this

-socio-economical status (the higher it is, the less it works till it even counterproduce)

-age (the lower it is, the less it works with it being counterproductive when she is very young, lets say up to 25)

-your smv (the lower it is the more it backfires, shows desperation over a man already lacking value)

The guy in the example worked good enough cause the woman was old and low status even lower than him.

Interesting!

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Davidson,
Any Chinese Woman would be enormously impressed with such a gift....Particularly in full view of her Peers.

 

[davidsonj73]

Hi Davidson,
Any Chinese Woman would be enormously impressed with such a gift....Particularly in full view of her Peers.

@Scaramouche I see. Maybe it is in part because Asian women tend to be more traditional?

Would this work with: Black, Hispanic, Indian (from India), Arab, or white women?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Davidson,
I think your grouping all Asians together is far too inclusive...I talk only of Chinese Women,as I know quite a lot.Most of our Flowers and Blossoms come from China,they had a culture that glorified them when my ancestors were fighting naked daubed with blue clay.....I talk of Chinese Women,but they are just one culture amongst many...But most Women,not just Asians appreciate the tangible display of a Mans affection particularly when visible to all.

 

[handle]

They're 50+, in some kind of relationship, and he got her something for her birthday. Some women like flowers. I guess the whole event is a little weird if she doesn't like public displays of affection, but lol how is that simp behavior?

 

[The Duke]

Hi Davidson,
Any Chinese Woman would be enormously impressed with such a gift....Particularly in full view of her Peers.

Years ago I learned that a $50 bouqet of roses you got for your wife on Valentines Day tripled in value if you sent them to her work office!
lol, women. they come by it honestly. They are all about the "feels".

 

[CornbreadFed]

God forbid a man give his wife some flowers at work. No wonder men are down bad with women today.

 

[The Duke]

Today I went to a fast food restaurant for breakfast and ate inside. Shortly after, an average looking white man around age 60, wearing a blue work shirt like what janitors often wear, and blue jeans walked in with a bouquet of roses. He asked for his girlfriend, lover, or wife (I have no idea which), an average looking Asian woman around age 50 who was one of the regular workers, and he gave her the bouquet. After he left, I heard some of the other employees say that today is her birthday.

Do you think he was just a simp, or maybe that sort of thing works with Asian women? What do you think?

I don't think he was a simp. Different women appreciate different things. There is no one size fits all for this kind of thing.

 

[zekko]

Years ago I learned that a $50 bouqet of roses you got for your wife on Valentines Day tripled in value if you sent them to her work office!
lol, women. they come by it honestly. They are all about the "feels".

Because they get to show off in front of their coworkers, and maybe some of the other girls will be jealous and say "I wish my husband would send me flowers".

Give flowers or not, doesn't make any difference to me. I used to give flowers on Valentines Day, but at some point I reached the decision that women didn't properly appreciate it, so I gave it up. In fact, I decided women don't appreciate romantic gestures in general. So I won't give flowers anymore. But that's just me.

 

[davidsonj73]

Hi Davidson,
I think your grouping all Asians together is far too inclusive...I talk only of Chinese Women,as I know quite a lot.Most of our Flowers and Blossoms come from China,they had a culture that glorified them when my ancestors were fighting naked daubed with blue clay.....I talk of Chinese Women,but they are just one culture amongst many...But most Women,not just Asians appreciate the tangible display of a Mans affection particularly when visible to all.

@Scaramouche I think you might be on to something with saying that she appreciated that this was visible to all!

 

[davidsonj73]

Because they get to show off in front of their coworkers, and maybe some of the other girls will be jealous and say "I wish my husband would send me flowers".

Give flowers or not, doesn't make any difference to me. I used to give flowers on Valentines Day, but at some point I reached the decision that women didn't properly appreciate it, so I gave it up. In fact, I decided women don't appreciate romantic gestures in general. So I won't give flowers anymore. But that's just me.

@zekko Maybe it's simp behavior to show up at her house with flowers, but show up at her work with flowers, and you're probably getting sex that night.

 

[zekko]

@zekko Maybe it's simp behavior to show up at her house with flowers, but show up at her work with flowers, and you're probably getting sex that night.

I'm not saying it's simp behavior. I'm just saying it's not for me. But you're probably spot on about bringing flowers to her workplace.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

The fact doing something nice for another person automatically makes it simp behavior is everything wrong with the mindset of too many men these days.

 

[Divorced w 3]

It's only simp behavior if you see yourself as a simp.

 

[The Duke]

Simps are always motivated. They think that doing X, they will get Z. Their intentions are never innocent. Many play the nice guy and patient game.

It's actually a very feminine mindset to operate in.

If you are going to do something nice for someone, do it because your heart tells you to.