You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
rum said:I think what guys want is security and realism.
rum is pushing HARD CORE for a wife.incognito42 said:Why would you be looking/expecting this from online dating?
Sry if I'm being a dyck but I get sick of seeing guys on here talk themselves out of ***** online. There's nothing but trash in online dating so you're making a major mistake if you choose to care what any of these chicks do or say
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
rum said:...and it's a character flaw that I believe is another stake in my online dating coffin (I keep it around to supplant real world interactions) but am close to giving it up entirely. The women I've met in real life are really miles ahead of online bimbos.
Seems like a good 60-70% of the women on those sites are rootless gypsies. They yammer on in their profile about living in 10 different states (yet are only 25 yrs old) different continents, went here on a whim, going there on a whim, doing this and that on a whim
Then the obligatory pictures of them surrounded by dirty foreign children ("I spent a year at the nwugumungujundu center in africa teaching the locales to wipe their ass")
Some might see this as noble humanitarianism, but many of these women are just non starters. Gypsy spirits, those that uproot themselves constantly because they get bored. Of course you're on this site you never stick around in one place long enough to establish anything. Relationships, jobs, friends. It's all ME ME ME. Travel the world, live like a rockstar (only with zero money)
It's almost a tragic existence...their lack of connection and permanence make them non starters. Shame since most of them are quite beautiful
This is something you should always look for in a match. Never go for anybody who feels they have an enormous higher calling to help others in foreign lands, or moves around excessively, is a political or religious zealot. The mental instability and unpredictability is just not worth it. I would want devotion to US, our family, our home, our money, our children.
Hey, sounds like fun to me. Sounds like rum is looking for something more serious.Naughty Ninja said:I read any chick that claims she travels multiple places = I travel from c0ck to c0ck/ relationship to relationship.
Mantis Toboggan said:Hey, sounds like fun to me. Sounds like rum is looking for something more serious.
Which makes it more strange that he's doing online dating.
I have no problem with these girls f**king me for a few weeks and moving onto the next one. I'll do the same. Well, no actually. I'll move onto the next one while STILL f**king the previous girl.
Women don't appreciate the value of maintaining a good stable.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Atom Smasher said:Guys, the OP raises a valid point.
There's a lot more than the obvious going on beneath the surface of a world traveller. Come back to me in 10 or 20 years and tell me about how your view has changed. If I'm not having a nice cigar with jophil, I'll entertain your confessions and quickly absolve you of all guilt because it takes a long time for the inner workings of these women to manifest.
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Ah, Atom smasher - this is all extremely worthy of you having a plinth and statue eected in your honour. Wise musings indeed.
Could you expand more? Your obsevations about the 10/20 year fastforward would interest me.
My ex (the NPD) now has a pic of her among African kids - was an on/off affai with her over 3 years that teminated with her disappearing on me....... needless to say "daddy issues" were in abundance.......
My other thought is that these gils may sample the local tribesmen..........wouldnt suprise with that heartless biatch