I have a roommate that I have been best friends with since the fourth grade. We have pretty much grown up together and we both really understand each other. However, I just realized that the girlfriend he has right now, of like a little over a year, controls every single aspect of his life. I should mention that we are both 23 and, college students, and this is the first REAl girlfriend he has ever had. In fact he lost his virginity to her among other things. He had no action in high school and was only with one girl in most of college. I myself had a falling out with a girl I was set to marry almost a year ago, which for me was complete hell because this was the first girl I really loved. For a long time after my relationship ended I envied my roommates relationship with his girl, mostly because they never fight and everything with her seems to be cake (I was always fighting with my ex). Yet lately I've come to the realization that my best friend has his ENTIRE foundation, down to his soul, set on this girl. He started taking school more seriously when he met her, he stopped smoking pot when he met her, he cut drinking back to almost nothing when he met her, he took and interest in politics when he met her (which by the way I was always trying to get him interested in because it was a big deal for me). He talks to her on the phone hours each day, they spend every weekend together (she now lives 80 miles from us) and she takes complete precedent over everything we do together. When he talks to her on the phone he sounds like he is talking to hi mom, not the person I know. He turns into a complete Pvssy when he is around her and it make me fvcking sick. I pray to god I was never like that with my past girlfriend.
Have I lost my friend forever? Will he ever realize his ball are being clentched by his girlfriend? They're moving in together this spring. I'm sure when that happens we'll never hang out again. I fvcking hate this. I just can't see why so many men don't realize that they put their entire life into one woman when it cave in on them all at once... I know from experience and the hurt was almost unbearable. I can just see where he is heading and it scares me. That and I hate to lose my best friend. Better yet I went though complete hell the past year getting over a relationship where I was AFCed into believing it was my whole life. I lost myself in this mess and am sooo happy I have finally climbed out. It took so much out of me.
Have I lost my friend forever? Will he ever realize his ball are being clentched by his girlfriend? They're moving in together this spring. I'm sure when that happens we'll never hang out again. I fvcking hate this. I just can't see why so many men don't realize that they put their entire life into one woman when it cave in on them all at once... I know from experience and the hurt was almost unbearable. I can just see where he is heading and it scares me. That and I hate to lose my best friend. Better yet I went though complete hell the past year getting over a relationship where I was AFCed into believing it was my whole life. I lost myself in this mess and am sooo happy I have finally climbed out. It took so much out of me.
