Nutz
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
An interesting read...
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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See that's why I think that article is just a big bunch of BS. So what if the man decided not to go through with it. That's just one instance. If more women tried that I honestly think the results wouldn't be much more different from what already happens.
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I agree with the poster there named "Lurker".
The point being that its men that don't really know what we want.
LOL @ that.
Its the other way around sweeties.
I also think the entire story was just made up by some feminist trying to prove a point.Lurker said:
The point being that its men that don't really know what we want.
LOL @ that.
Its the other way around sweeties.
jophil28
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Did you fix the porch and mow the lawn first?catman said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
A similar story happened to my parents shortly after I left home. Mum's reactions were similar to that woman and it saved the marriage and my family. Dad was just freaking out (I won't get into details, but it was an identity crisis) and that lasted for 4-5 months. It was nearly a decade ago and since then, he's been very thankful that Mum did what she did, and so have I.
Mum didn't jump to conclusions. She did her research - books, Dad's best friends, my Natural/playa uncles (who know male/female dynamics just as well as any on this forum) - before taking actions.
That's what a great wife - and a quality woman - does: she supports you through your rough time and acts as a mirror to let you see yourself in your best moments, remind you of who you are and let you gain your confidence back. She knows when you're not being yourself and gives you time & space to find that Man inside again.
Now I know why some of you don't believe that quality women exist. You don't comprehend what a quality woman is. Reading comprehension is also not your strength either. For example:
This is not a rare story either. If you ask the older, happily married couples of previous generations, you know the ones who've been together 50 years and are still going strong, they will tell you that they've had to work through similar times in their marriage (sometimes it's the man putting up with the woman's hard time, sometimes it's the other way around). It's not always smooth sailing.
Too bad in our times, this wisdom (particularly wife putting up with husband like what the woman in the article did) has been killed by feminism & the modern It's-All-About-Me culture.
Mum didn't jump to conclusions. She did her research - books, Dad's best friends, my Natural/playa uncles (who know male/female dynamics just as well as any on this forum) - before taking actions.
That's what a great wife - and a quality woman - does: she supports you through your rough time and acts as a mirror to let you see yourself in your best moments, remind you of who you are and let you gain your confidence back. She knows when you're not being yourself and gives you time & space to find that Man inside again.
Now I know why some of you don't believe that quality women exist. You don't comprehend what a quality woman is. Reading comprehension is also not your strength either. For example:
She was only talking about her own marriage and sharing her personal experience. She's giving one successful solution to a serious marital / relationship problem. That's all she's saying. She only said "my husband" and never "men". It is YOU who are making the false generalisation and extracting a point that she did not make, because it suits your bias.KontrollerX said:
This is not a rare story either. If you ask the older, happily married couples of previous generations, you know the ones who've been together 50 years and are still going strong, they will tell you that they've had to work through similar times in their marriage (sometimes it's the man putting up with the woman's hard time, sometimes it's the other way around). It's not always smooth sailing.
Too bad in our times, this wisdom (particularly wife putting up with husband like what the woman in the article did) has been killed by feminism & the modern It's-All-About-Me culture.
interesting read
ya i did keep mowing the lawn and such it was something i thought (was conditioned)to do.Was the ex that needed her "space" not me.Her telling me in a letter(13 years and she couldnt even tell me to my face WTF?)That she loved me but wasnt in love with me was a total shock to me and contributed to my nervous breakdown?She got her space allright took over a year of the games for me to tell her adios!!
ya i did keep mowing the lawn and such it was something i thought (was conditioned)to do.Was the ex that needed her "space" not me.Her telling me in a letter(13 years and she couldnt even tell me to my face WTF?)That she loved me but wasnt in love with me was a total shock to me and contributed to my nervous breakdown?She got her space allright took over a year of the games for me to tell her adios!!